Gift Appreciation

chrisv24

Im going against everyone here. But how hard is it to text something in bulk to people who sent you a gift?

'Thank you so much for the gift, it is fantastic and Im sure the little one will love it. I will send you a card once everything is back in order'

I would be happy with something like that

suki1001

chrisv24 wrote: »

Im going against everyone here. But how hard is it to text something in bulk to people who sent you a gift?

'Thank you so much for the gift, it is fantastic and Im sure the little one will love it. I will send you a card once everything is back in order'

I would be happy with something like that

Bulk text a thanks? This is the thing I hate about thank you cards etc, there are very few I've ever received that didn't feel like someone wasn't paying lip service. I hate that, because it's not really genuine, just something sent out of expectation. I'd rather people just enjoyed the stuff (or not) - I never expect thanks off people. It's not that gifts aren't appreciated, but I've heard too many mums saying - oh God, I better get on with the thank you notes - administration, when they should be catching up on sleep etc, or even having a break on facebook.

I would have thought that given having a child turns your life upside down and for me - I was lucky if I managed to get a cup of tea. If you are aware of what having a child can do, why haven't you contacted her and why aren't you putting your mind at rest and finding out.

Meadows

anniemf2508 wrote: »

I never said that we had, had no contact since the birth, we spoke when baby was a week old. She had a proper moan about everything her end. The reason i feel really quite upset over this , is shes managed to put photos of gifts shes recieved from other people and thanked them on facebook, yet i get a big fat nothing.
And i do know what it is like to have a new baby...have done it twice

You say the parcel was signed for but that does not mean it reached its intended destination!

anniemf2508

Meadows wrote: »

You say the parcel was signed for but that does not mean it reached its intended destination!

does if it was signed for with her surname (royal mail you can check the signature)

Wilma33

anniemf2508 wrote: »

does if it was signed for with her surname (royal mail you can check the signature)

You are very trusting of the Royal Mail! Her surname would have been on the parcel. It wouldn't be the first postman to sign for it themself.

Meadows

anniemf2508 wrote: »

does if it was signed for with her surname (royal mail you can check the signature)

Yes you can check a signature but her surname is on the parcel!

Who has signed my Recorded Parcels when the lazy post man leaves them in the porch because he can't be bother to ring the bell :think:, what signature do you think is on the slip (well I know for sure it won't be mine!).

Marshflower

anniemf2508 wrote: »

does if it was signed for with her surname (royal mail you can check the signature)

So you have even gone so far as to check the signature with RM instead of just picking up the phone to your old friend to ask her - someone you thought highly enough of to send a lovely present? I just dispair! Also a shame that you've had lots of good, practical advice on this thread and that's the only point you've chosen to respond to.
I wish you lots of luck with your friend and hope you can sort it out.

anniemf2508

Marshflower wrote: »

So you have even gone so far as to check the signature with RM instead of just picking up the phone to your old friend to ask her - someone you thought highly enough of to send a lovely present? I just dispair! Also a shame that you've had lots of good, practical advice on this thread and that's the only point you've chosen to respond to.
I wish you lots of luck with your friend and hope you can sort it out.

i took the other points on board too. Tried phoning...no answer and sent a text too....no reply either.

mrcow

anniemf2508 wrote: »

i took the other points on board too. Tried phoning...no answer and sent a text too....no reply either.

Well do it again. Sometimes people aren't in to pick up the phone. It happens.

Brighton_belle

She may be your oldest friend, but your not sounding like a great friend at the moment. This may unfairly just be your writing style on here.
But when my friends have have babies, I bend over backwards to make sure they know that there is no pressure on them from me for any of the so called usual social niceties, that I understand they will be exhausted and overwhelmed and my love for them means I expect no contact, though it is always welcome if they feel up to it.

And that if I saw thanks to others on FB it probably means they got half way through and then baby woke up and then they forgot. It's ok to secretly feel a little hurt, we feel what we feel, but with good friends, the default is to proactively think the best of them.
Keep trying to be in touch in a supportive way rather than one that makes her feel under expectation. That's how to be a really good friend IMO.