dating websites.

SueC_2

bagpuss38 wrote: »

I'm in shock, just discovered that my hubby of 4 years and partner of 10 years, has signed up to a dating website.
I managed to log into his profile (easy password)
He has stated that he is married but is looking for a discreet no strings relationship!
I checked his e mail and he has had a couple of conversations with 2 women.
I just dont know what to say or do.
Is this cheating, or is the thought of someone else cheating.
I dont know why he would do this.

bagpuss38 wrote: »

Have been on and changed all his settings to homosexual!

It appear he didn't get a full memerbership but just a day pass!!!!!!

He only had a day pass, and yet you found him out. I'd say that means you had reason to be be distrusting of him in the first place.

If his infidelity doesn't wreck the relationship, then your distrust will.

Move on, before it gets too painful for everyone.

maintenanceman

Ladyhawk wrote: »

Oh gee... Thanks!

What a sweeping generalisation. I, for one, am on a dating site, been single for a while, am attractive, intelligent and kind to puppies. Being in a relationship doesn't mean that you have a monopoly on attractiveness or pleasantness or goodness.

Get off your high horse and walk with the rest of us.

So my generalisation is that you have to be in a relationship is a moot point. So what are you doing on a dating site ? You must be dating just for fun then.
No high horse but I am confused as why you need to describe yourself, is it relevant to the thread?
And as to 'walking with the rest of us' I find I prefer people I know to describe me, not myself and to be honest I prefer to walk alone, it's much more safer that way.
Thanks for your input though.

fluffnutter

23rdian wrote: »

Very.

If you get married, expect affairs IMHO

Only if you marry a twat.

fluffnutter

23rdian wrote: »

OP, I deleted my original post after thinking it was a bit naughty.

Hope it all works out but...

Truth is, he prob. is happy (enough) but we just get bored having sex with the same person.

</honest>

'We'? I assume you mean men. I expect every single one of them would be chuffed to nuts to know they've got a fantastic spokesman like you.

bagpuss38

SueC wrote: »

He only had a day pass, and yet you found him out. I'd say that means you had reason to be be distrusting of him in the first place.

If his infidelity doesn't wreck the relationship, then your distrust will.

Move on, before it gets too painful for everyone.

Only a day pass? Is that not bad enough?

Only reason i found out was because he asked me to check his e mail to see if his jobs had been sent through.
There was a new email from some women he has spoken to.
I had no trust issues and wasnt looking for anything!

chrisv24

You have to talk to him about this. Clearly he is looking elsewhere!

Claree__x

bagpuss38 wrote: »

Only reason i found out was because he asked me to check his e mail to see if his jobs had been sent through.
There was a new email from some women he has spoken to.
I had no trust issues and wasnt looking for anything!

So he's not only cheating/planning to cheat, he's not even being clever about it? Moron.
You & your kids deserve better.

bitemebankers

bagpuss38 wrote: »

Only a day pass? Is that not bad enough?

Hey, it could have been worse. He could have been carrying on an affair for months/years. As it is, you've got a situation that can, perhaps, be salvaged. You've got some serious talking to do though and a professional counsellor may be helpful.

Bazey

P.M me his profile name and I'll hit him up with some gay fun.

sportbeth

Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt and wasted 3 years trying to catch the idiot out sadly.

My honest advice is not to confront him until you have cast iron proof and that takes the strength of an ox to wait for. However if you're gambling the rest of your life away with someone who doesn't value it then why not wait a bit and grit your teeth?

You have to trap him somehow and that's not easy. But with a bit of patience and time you will work out a way.

Big hugs xx