Quarter of the way there and full speed ahead

skint_spice

Me too El, snow is rubbish

elantan

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Ooo Hello!

Not been here yet I don't think, I was thinking about you the other day, a mate at work is doing a sort of self made up diet.

Really she is just eating everything as naturally and fresh as she can, apologies if you already do that, she has a hubby who LOVES cooking and thus will happily get his groove thing on in the kitchen. She has strawberries and cream for breakfast and no bread or carbs in the evening or morning. She doesn't worry about the fat content of any thing but instead avoids processed sugar and fast food so no takeaways,ready meals or anything that comes in a sealed packet... I suppose as I type this it is all obvious stuff really. Fresh fresh fresh food as much as she can.

Anyhow we only started to talk cos I was saying I never do the low fat diet versions of food because I don't like wondering what they did to the original food to get it to plastic one calorie crap. then she explained, she has lost half a stone in about 3 weeks good steady weight loss. And she feels better.

I don't have time for the shopping that entails or the cooking skills! It would be good to try and do that tho I think.

Any how hope you get to the counsellor, sorry if all this is stuff you have done before

night xxxx

hey Buffy lovely to see you, hope your good

tbh i know the nutrition inside out, i eat healthy if i am not in a sugar cycle, i need more practical help on how to defeat the sugar cycles, i tend to find its hidden sugars that seem to set me off, like tomato sauce or something, when i recognise a trigger i stop eating that thing, not had fruit since last summer for instance.

i think i am just very very carb sensitive, so i need to make sure that non sneak into my diet

elantan

tattycath wrote: »

I think it's a great idea el!
I might do that too- and set targets to aim for like Thistlewhistle mentioned.
Then when I do my 'Tilly tidies' I'll be able to keep whole numbers on mortgage and current account

this is what i have done, i have opened a wee online saver that i can move money into and out of through out the month, have been putting my Tilly tidies and half of the earnings from book selling in there, will transfer it over at the end of the month, i am currently sitting at £24.86 i think its also going to be good for me to see the money slowly build up there over the month

chevalier wrote: »

Hi there
I think Noddle is a free credit check site. But is is a bit more basic than experien etc, so good for a down and dirty check on the score, but not so good for details.

Good luck with the ongoing journey. Oh and I think your work is taking the peeeeeee, so good luck on getting a new job too.

chev

thanks chev ( hi BTW), will check it out, a free credit check is handy,

yes my work are taking the peeeee ... i just got another phone call again today changing my shifts, this time i didnt mind as much as it will work to my advantage, but i have warned them that i know of the situation that is upcoming and i have already asked what they want done with it only to be told it will be sorted after the weekend but that we are now into wednesday, if i am not approached by tomorrow to sort this upcoming mess out then i aint helping, i have had enough of people assuming that i will cover shifts at the last second, as long as i continue to cover their shifts they have no need to sort the issue out.

three times in the last two weeks this has happened and the three times i have walked away now and told them no, not enough notice, i am only helping when it suits me from now on, i have been told that i will be unlikely to get that full time contract that i have told them i want, they wouldnt give a reason but i know it is because i cost £2 an hour more than the other workers, and that i will do overtime to cover shifts so they have no need to give me a contract which would give me more annual leave and sick pay,

however since finding that out i have stopped bending over backwards for them and have said no 3 times, so they are slowly learning the lesson that dangling a carrot then taking it away will not be tolerated

i currently need overtime to help pay our bills and save at the rate which we currently are, however, we can manage without me doing any overtime, it wont be easy but we can do it, so i am being much much more selective of what i am willing to do

sorry that seemed to come tumbling out there :rotfl::rotfl:

elantan

Butti wrote: »

Hope the car turns out ok.

skint_spice wrote: »

Me too El, snow is rubbish

the car seemed fine when i checked it out yesterday, the snow was still piling down but it eventually stopped late last night, we are due more again this weekend ... spring solstice shouldve been delayed this year lol

elantan

well, what have i been up to,

the bills have filtered their way out of the accounts, the Tilly tidies have been added to my nice new shiny savings account that i opened up, i will be filling the account up throughout the m onth with the Tilly tidies and the proceeds from any sales etc that i make then transferring it over to the second mortgage at the end of the month.

i have been saving the tax etc from the treatments that i am doing in the wee sideline that i have and putting any profit into my i.s.a as i am hoping to solve the £1,000 issue that i was thinking talking about with it,

i dont think this wee added extra will happen every week so i really dont want to become dependant on it, with that in mind anything i make i will put away.

went for my first counselling session yesterday, well what can i say but it was hilarious, the poor therapist didnt know what to make of me, she was grasping at straws, she suggested i have control issues, i said well yes i am a bit of a control freak ( incidently only about myself ... not anyone or anything else) and i said ermmm is being in control of yourself a bad thing like? she just looked at me, to which i said well to be honest yes i am very much into control but i like it and it isnt a problem for me, she looked like i had punched her in the face lol

she then suggested that i am far too busy and dont know how to relax, i said to her, look i think maybe i have given you the wrong idea here, as we hadnt discussed relaxation i didnt think to mention it, but yes i do relaxation very well, i meditate, i do reiki, i take selfish days, to wh ich she interuppted me and said selfish days? i replied yes selfish days, days where i do everything that i want and only what i want, so that could be reading, walking, staying in bed, going for a massage whatever it is i feel like doing for me, she asked why i called it selfish and i replied because it is, she said well selfish is a very strong word, to which i replied yes it is but it is exactly what i am doing, dont get me wrong , i dont see being selfish as a bad thing, i think being selfish can be a great thing, it's when it becomes destructive it can be bad. she just looked at me with a confused look, i dont think she knew what to make of me tbh, but the best she could come up with was conversion hysteria, so something that takes months and months for someone to diagnose she managed to do in less than an hour ... hmmmmm

incidently i dont agree with her at all, but after going to her i did sit down with my son and have a great wee blether, i was chatting to him about it all and he came up with a very good suggestion, he knows me very well ( we are so alike) and highlighted a few things ... so i am currently working on that with my N.L.P techniques in place and hopefully i will get somewhere

will go back next week for another session to see what this person thinks but i may be finishing with her shortly... poor girl i did feel sorry for her in the end

gallygirl

elantan wrote: »

but the best she could come up with was conversion hysteria, so something that takes months and months for someone to diagnose she managed to do in less than an hour ... hmmmmm

Isn't that what they used to treat in Victorian times with em..... a machine....... :eek:.

Poor therapist. Hope she has one herself :rotfl:. Sounds like it has been helpful though, in a roundabout way.

GreyhoundAngel

Glad that both Mr El and the car are okay ... scarey stuff slithering around in the snow.:eek:

I have this wonderful vision of a very bewildered and flustered counsellor, sitting in an office with no idea whatsoever as to how to deal with you :rotfl:

Bah to work trying it on again with musical shifts and good on ya gal for not bending, unless you choose to

Angel xx

elantan

gallygirl wrote: »

Isn't that what they used to treat in Victorian times with em..... a machine....... :eek:.

Poor therapist. Hope she has one herself :rotfl:. Sounds like it has been helpful though, in a roundabout way.

i know of which machines you mean, and i have a modern day one, was not impressed with it at all tbh ... in fact really dissapointed, that must mean that i dont have conversion hysteria :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

it was very helpful though talking to my son, he knows me extremely well, so he knows how i work, i see a problem and i become a bit of a dog with a bone with it till it is resolved, however this particular bone has been hanging around far far too long, so my son has suggested that because of the way i work (ie i find so many different ways to solve issues, which makes total sense as i have had a nutritionalist, a personal trainer and have read more books than you could build a house with to try and sort it) i am possibly building my bone bigger than it needs to be, i am giving it too much attention, now this does make kinda sense to me as i really like to solve problems and if i cant solve one then it irritates me till i do, my eating issues are bigger now than they have ever been, i think its because being unhealthy scares me, i am far far far too busy to be unwell, i dont have the time or patience for it ( i dont imagine many people do incidently)

so as my son says ... mum you just need to chill the F**k out about it, dont let it rule you, dont give it breathing space, let it get smaller and smaller till it goes away... now coming from an N.L.P background that makes total sense, and yet i wasnt able to see it for myself, if i was working with anyone else i could easily see it with them, but i was blind when it came to me,

so it was very handy talking to my son

GreyhoundAngel wrote: »

Glad that both Mr El and the car are okay ... scarey stuff slithering around in the snow.:eek:

I have this wonderful vision of a very bewildered and flustered counsellor, sitting in an office with no idea whatsoever as to how to deal with you :rotfl:she really was angel, it was very funny,

Bah to work trying it on again with musical shifts and good on ya gal for not bending, unless you choose to

Angel xx

thanks angel yep musical shifts really can mess people about in our unit, we are a very amiable workforce, but we are getting really fed up with the whole situation now tbh, and there are starting to be more shifts that are not being covered ( not just by me) as we are getting tired, things need to change and need to change soon, and i need a new job

elantan

so another two books sold, will pop on up the street with them just shortly and post them away.

more bills have came out the account more Tilly tidies done, the new savings account is slowly filling up, which is good to see,

i have been quite heavy on the diesel this week, between going into the local city and running back and forward with son to get his car fixed i need to fill up again, next week i have a drive into the city again to get my second session done and also to pick up my earings that i have put in to be fixed, the cost of which is £28.75 which is alot just to fix an earing, but they are my white gold ones and i do love them, i never take them off and have had them for 2 years so i shouldnt really complain ... but i am lol

catshark88

elantan wrote: »

so as my son says ... mum you just need to chill the F**k out about it, dont let it rule you, dont give it breathing space, let it get smaller and smaller till it goes away... now coming from an N.L.P background that makes total sense, and yet i wasnt able to see it for myself, if i was working with anyone else i could easily see it with them, but i was blind when it came to me,

so it was very handy talking to my son

Cool as toast!

Wasn't there something in NLP about how repeatedly thinking a thought, or remembering a memory, deepens the channel that thought runs through until it seems more and more real (or something)? In which case, he would be spot on.

I have visions of the poor counsellor, now having to counsel herself! lol.