Am I overreacting?

victory

Am_I_Wrong wrote: »

Not yet, I found them last night and told him I wanted to be alone for a while, I slept in the spare room and hes at work at the moment. Hes not allowed personal calls at work so only chance I will get to speak to him is tonight.

Talking to him when you found them would have saved you a lot of heart ache, I have no idea what his reasons could be but if there was any hint of a replay of previous problems you could be arranging to part....

cockaleekee

VestanPance wrote: »

His behaviour isn't typical male behaviour. Most guys will watch !!!!!! or ogle pictures of pretty women, but it sounds like he has an addiction to pornography.

Is there anything we can't be "addicted" to now?

Am_I_Wrong

cockaleekee wrote: »

Downloaded pics or pics he has asked women to send him?

!!!!!! pictures downloaded from various sites.

Joons

Bufger wrote: »

No, you're implying that its ultimately her fault for his behaviour and that is completely wrong. He's an adult, he decides what he considers right and wrong and only chumps blame their behaviour on others.

How does it imply it is her fault, where have I said that as I certainly do not think it! Ok, rephrase then, if a man or a woman is happy with their partner then they would not do anymore than look, is that better?

cockaleekee

Am_I_Wrong wrote: »

!!!!!! pictures downloaded from various sites.

OK, better than interaction with individual women, but if he is being secretive about it, I would have an issue too.

I am very relaxed about !!!!!!, it can play a healthy part in a relationship whether viewed alone or as a couple. I don't think !!!!!! is the issue here - but rather the fact that he is taking the proverbial, he got away with it before in that you took him back, so he thinks he can do it again.

I'd be showing him the door

pesky85

I think if it was just the !!!!!! pics without the history, I wouldn't be worried. But with his prior behaviour I can completely understand why you're upset! Get it out in the open and listen to what he's got to say. Hopefully as he was honest with you once he'll be honest again.

thegirlintheattic

Am_I_Wrong wrote: »

!!!!!! pictures downloaded from various sites.

Maybe I'm in the minority but I'd find that pretty normal. Men like to oogle pictures of women, the same as some women like to look at pictures of men like Michael Buble.

The other stuff - not on.

Joons

I don't get why he handed his phone over to you knowing those pics were on it???

pinkshoes

To be honest, I'd be gutted if I found out my OH was looking at !!!!!! pics. I would feel totally inadequate and it would just show that I clearly wasn't up to his standards.

I certainly wouldn't tolerate it either - I want a man who likes me for who I am, and me being enough for him!

ps - I have no objection to !!!!!!, but it's something for single people, or for couples to watch together. Definitely not for a man in a relationship to be watching on his own - that's just creepy!

Robin_TBW

You're a fool for getting back with him.