Am I overreacting?

cockaleekee

pinkshoes wrote: »

To be honest, I'd be gutted if I found out my OH was looking at !!!!!! pics. I would feel totally inadequate and it would just show that I clearly wasn't up to his standards.

I certainly wouldn't tolerate it either - I want a man who likes me for who I am, and me being enough for him!

ps - I have no objection to !!!!!!, but it's something for single people, or for couples to watch together. Definitely not for a man in a relationship to be watching on his own - that's just creepy!

You misunderstand why (most) people look at !!!!!! - it's not because their partner is inferior or lacking in some way, it's just that it is something different. You might be surprised to know that many women in relationships look at it also!

Am_I_Wrong

pesky85 wrote: »

I think if it was just the !!!!!! pics without the history, I wouldn't be worried. But with his prior behaviour I can completely understand why you're upset! Get it out in the open and listen to what he's got to say. Hopefully as he was honest with you once he'll be honest again.

Thats my view, I have always been ok with it before he did what he did, if he hadnt done all that other stuff I wouldnt care less about !!!!!!, and !!!!!! isnt the problem now, its just !!!!!! is how it all started in the first place, and he seemed to go from !!!!!! to the other stuff with ease.

Dont get me wrong, hes not a bad person at all, he is sweet and caring, and he puts others before himself, hes loving and despite this thread I do love him very much, Im just shocked that hes done this because I made it very clear that if it happened again I would be out that door. I told him when all this first happened that Im not here for him to hurt and if thats all he was going to do to me then I would rather be single and i would rather he be single so he can do all this stuff without hurting someone he was supposed to love.

alleycat`

One last thing and it is a bit of a long shot but are you sure he did it?

I know it is a long shot but phones have come as "new" pre-loaded with all sorts of crap direct from the factory.

My suspicion is he probably did, based on history, but it isn't unknown and would be very unfortunate considering what has gone before.

I'm not trying to excuse him or anything like that i'm just pointing out it has happened before.

Joons

pinkshoes wrote: »

To be honest, I'd be gutted if I found out my OH was looking at !!!!!! pics. I would feel totally inadequate and it would just show that I clearly wasn't up to his standards.

I certainly wouldn't tolerate it either - I want a man who likes me for who I am, and me being enough for him!

ps - I have no objection to !!!!!!, but it's something for single people, or for couples to watch together. Definitely not for a man in a relationship to be watching on his own - that's just creepy!

I don't know a guy who doesn't look at !!!!!! and that includes the ones in relationships. I don't know if my b/f does or not, I suspect he has and it no way makes me feel inadequate, they are pics for god's sake! How can that means you aren't up to standard, it doesn't mean your partner doesn't like or love you. Hopefully some men can back this up.

Robin_TBW

"Just because you've already ordered doesn't mean you can't check out the menu."

Joons

Robin_TBW wrote: »

"Just because you've already ordered doesn't mean you can't check out the menu."

Exactly, and any woman thinking her man has never and never will look at !!!!!! when it's a click away and all over the internet is seriously naive.

pigpen

if it is just pics.. yes you are over reacting.

The crap before .. well.. was 12 years ago.. and is colouring your views of a few pics.

There are pics of women and men in their undies everywhere so he goes has happy time in his own time.. it isn't really a big deal..

I'd be asking more questions if they were pics of men in their undies lol...

Just ask him if he wants you to bluetooth them to his phone because you are deleting them off yours.. see what he says!