How long did you wait to tell people about your pregnacy?

dizziblonde

I've never needed to tell my husband - he's ALWAYS guessed before I've even had the urge to go and buy a test stick!

notanewuser

I waited 2 days to tell my husband. He was working away and I wanted to tell him face to face. Also gave me time to start getting my head around it.

Kayalana99

With my first I was 80% sure I was pregnat but took the test anyway, negative. Went into tell my partner that I wasn't as he wanted a baby more then me to start with (Never regret a thing now and looking forward to my second more then him ironiclly! Lol) then I went back to chuck it away and thier was the faintest line in the world but yes it was postive so I had to go back and tell him it was postive!

Told fam that week and wasn't going to tell work for a while but I broke down in tears - not because I was unhappy because I was emotional - so I just admitted it.

Molly41

My husband suggested I took a pregnancy test when I was scooping Marmite out of the jar with my finger and yumming away. I always use to love marmite when pregnant but absolutely hate it normally x

claire16c

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Because you encounter people in life (like my mother) who say oh shut up is wasn't anything it was only a miscarriage grow up and get a grip.. then next time being screamed at down the phone the afternoon I got home from the hospital havig had an ERPC because I said I didn't feel up to collecting my sisters from school.

MC is a fairly taboo subject and if anyone even thought about saying 'oh well it was probably for the best' to me I would rip off their limbs and beat them to death with them. There isn't any sympathy or kindness it is an 'oh sorry to hear that' if you are lucky then you are expected to get on as normal. It is pretty hard telling people you have mc'd because you are upset and angry and don't want to talk about it or keep going over and over with numerous people.

Sometimes fellow humans disgust me.. so I keep MY business to myself.

Wow what a charming mother. I guess she didn't read the leaflet about not doing anything for 48 hours after an anaesthetic!!

I am very lucky that when I had a mc & an Erpc my friends & family were brilliant & very supportive. I spent hours talking to my friends & felt better for it.

But after that reaction from your mother I'm not suprised you feel like that.

kelly_cole

I told most people straight away I was too excited not to!!

msb5262

I told my parents and inlaws pretty much straight away, but hesitated telling my sister for a bit as she'd had a miscarriage the previous year and was struggling to conceive again.
I didn't tell work or friends until about 12 weeks for various reasons.
I've been reluctant to shout it from the rooftops because at times I've wanted to murder people for the insensitivity they've shown in announcing their pregnancy...a little consideration for others is worth a lot in my book.
You don't know who is trying to conceive, who has long-term fertility issues or who may have miscarried - so proceed with caution when making your announcements!

I'd also be a bit wary of making announcements in a way that would be extra difficult if I miscarried e.g. the calendar idea upthread is lovely but would become horribly inappropriate if the pregnancy were to end sadly. This is probably a pessimistic way of looking at things, but I'll never forget a friend of mine who miscarried having to throw away her diary for the year as she'd written "12 weeks, 13 weeks, 14 weeks" etc in for what should have been her entire pregnancy. It really didn't help her at a very sad time...

Lola888

With my DD I found out I was pregnant tried to ring DH, but he wouldn't answer the phone. I sent him a text saying ring me ASAP, he didn't. My mum rang me and I was so close to telling her, but thought no I need to tell DH first, finally after about 30 mins he rang back. We weren't going to tell anyone apart from our respective parents, but then I was sat on the sofa and heard his iPhone buzzing I picked it up and with iPhones it displays the message without needing to unlock and I could see a congrats message from his cousin!! I wasn't impressed. That was about 5 weeks, my MIL began buying baby stuff from 5 weeks, I wasn't impressed!!

I had to tell work straight away because I'm a police officer on response.

This time round it was April Fools day DH was at home so I told him straight away amd I think he thought I was pulling his leg. I left it 2 days before I told work this time because they were really short staffed and it was only for 2 shifts. We told our families and I'm more relaxed this time round, but I'm still not impressed as my MIL has already gone and bought I'm a Big Sister clothing for my DD, I'm probably only 7 or 8 weeks pregnant if not less!

The only person I didn't want to say anything to was my aunt as she's been trying for about 6-7 years. She can get pregnant, but always miscarries. I was worried with my first, but she was really pleased for me, I wasn't sure how she would react when she found out I was pregnant again, without trying, by accident. I felt like I was rubbing her face in it a bit, but in the end my mother told my other aunt who mentioned it to her and she text me and saying congratulations and seems genuinely happy for me.

Peanut2013

Firstly congratulations

We were similar, had discussed having a little one and decided to wait to the end of year. Little did we know we were already about 2 weeks gone!

I had a feeling I was at the beginning of the week as was late. At first panicked but decided to wait to the end of the week (logic being if there's still no show then I'd test, but could just be a scare!).

Plus it was OHs birthday on the Friday and I knew he would be thrilled. Come Friday it was a no show so I took a test and bingo, BFP Then woke OH up, screamed and presented him with the test Due hugs, kisses and him giggling lots

We told our parents after we saw the doctor the next week and I told my work due to the nature of my job. I had to give up certain elements instantly. This also meant my coaches had to know at work. Then the girls in my department noticed the sickness and tiredness. Lol.

Then 2 of my best friends questioned me as they noticed a difference. I didn't realise I had so many observant friends! Lol.

By the 12 week scan I reckon most people knew. Not how we planned it but go hum After the scan we made sure everyone close knew and then did the 'Facebook reveal'

lilymay1

Baby #1 Didn't tell anyone, m/c at 6 weeks.
Baby #2 Told people at 17 weeks though lost her at 3 days old.
Baby #3 Told mother and best friend on day of BFP, few other people at 16 weeks
Baby #4 Told parents and a few close friends a couple of days after BFP, m/c at 6 weeks after clomid and TTC 16 months.
Current pregnany - We're not telling anyone.