work whinge

SuzieSue

mellymoo74 wrote: »

How do i become less bitter?

You become less bitter by realising that sometimes people get to where they are because of their looks and there is nothing much you can do about it. It is a fact of life and like all facts of life you just have accept it otherwise it will eat you up as it is doing at the moment.

We've all been there (unless you are blond and pretty) so you aren't the first and won't be the last. If a manager is superficial enough to give someone a job because of their looks then you need to feel sorry for the manager and also their partner. They can't be happy with their life because if they were they would treat people fairly.

SuzieSue

mellymoo74 wrote: »

The hr manager has already asked the hr coordinator why i didnt apply? Bloody office politics

How old are you, if you don't mind me asking. I assume you're quite young if you haven't come accross this sort of thing before?

mellymoo74

Nope im late 30s used to being promoted on merit and never noticed this before though it must have happened

SuzieSue

mellymoo74 wrote: »

Nope im late 30s used to being promoted on merit and never noticed this before though it must have happened

Well you're lucky then, but do you really want work for someone like that anyway?

You've been lucky and got a better job. Instead of feeling bitter, you need to feel sorry for your pretty blonde replacement.

barbiedoll

I wouldn't let it worry you too much, it sounds as though you have the better deal. Either this woman can do the job required of her or she can't. And if she can't, sooner or later, her "very important" boss will realise that and he will either have to take on someone else to cover her skill gap or he will have to reorganise her role so that she can cope with it. It's not your problem and you shouldn't waste any more time worrying about it,and anyway, her looks will only carry her so far, if she's having to rely on them now to gain employment, what is she going to do when she's older and her looks are fading?

It is annoying when you see colleagues getting promoted because of qualities other than their abilities to do the job but that's life unfortunately. I had a colleague who was a real suck-up to the bosses and she managed to wrangle a job for her husband, despite him having no experience or qualifications for the role. She eventually had to leave because she was sick of the constant back-biting and moaning of the rest of the workforce who were incensed that her hubby got the job at the expense of someone who could actually do the work. He ended up leaving too, jumping before he was pushed, because once she had gone, he had no-one to cover up his shortcomings and correct his errors.

view

Hi, sorry, just my spin on this.

She is studying for a degree, presume she will finish this - he wants someone with a degree.

Hasn't passed her driving test yet, I presume she will (lessons?) - he wants someone with a licence

Have you seen her full CV and know she doesn't have pm experience?

Unless you are studying for a degree, trying for your licence and have pm experience then why would you be the better candidate?

As you say, you're happy where you are. Stop looking at the closed door and focus on the open one.

Caroline_a

view wrote: »

Hi, sorry, just my spin on this.

She is studying for a degree, presume she will finish this - he wants someone with a degree.

Hasn't passed her driving test yet, I presume she will (lessons?) - he wants someone with a licence

Have you seen her full CV and know she doesn't have pm experience?

Unless you are studying for a degree, trying for your licence and have pm then why would you be the better candidate?

As you say, you're happy where you are. Stop looking at the closed door and focus on the open one.

Brilliant phrase! and perfect for this situation.

marisco_2

mellymoo74 wrote: »

Have spoken to new manager about it but keepong out of the way of old one hes verrrry important and likes to ensure you know it....

How important he stays, when the powers that be realise that he has filled a role requiring someone with a degree, project management skills and who can drive with a pretty lass who does not possess any of those things, is highly questionable. Surely he is not capable of doing his job if that is how he conducts himself. Give it time. The role requires these things for a reason. If a standard is not met then I should think concerns will be raised.

I would just enjoy the fact that you still have a good job, with a much nicer manager for hopefully the same income. Look at all the positives rather than the negatives or ship on out to a new job.

floss2

mellymoo74 wrote: »

The hr manager has already asked the hr coordinator why i didnt apply? Bloody office politics

So why not tell the HR Coordinator why you did not apply, but also mention that you are extremely happy in your new role and the decision was obviously the right one for you

kelfen

Maybe it was her payment for him getting in her knickers.....'You give me that job and I'll let you have me' ?