Can someone's over eagerness make you feel uncomfortable?

Purleygirl

I used to go berserk with cleaning the house but six people live here, including two slobby teenagers so it's never going to be shining and scrubbed. Unless I was selling the house, I tend to go down the "take us as you find us" route. As long as the bathroom is clean and the kitchen is fairly ok then I don't go mad anymore. My mum would nearly make herself ill cleaning the house with the best this and the best that.

I've learned that it's better to be hospitable with the welcome, attention and good food, wine, tea or whatever tipple is on offer.

Sommer43

Hahaha, I thought this was hilarious. In our house, my husband is the one who is like this when his own mother visits. He behaves like a demented child.

But the best was the other day, when he was parking the car and the neighbour called him over to ask him if I was in as he would like to ask us if we would bear witness to some paperwork. Mr Sommer came back huffing and puffing and proceeded to get out the vacumn cleaner, just because the neighbour was popping over. He plugged it in and the knock came on the door, as we live in a bungalow, he had plugged it in the hallway, which like any bungalow, we do have a long hallway. No time for hoovering, the neighbour and I were howling with laughter. The cleaner was left in the hall for the neighbour to clamber over...

My house is clean, my husband cleans it everyday, bathroom is spotless, he paints the woodwork every three months, the interior doors are painted at the same time. Yet, he behaves in this extraordinary manner when people are due to visit. My son who only ever slobs on the sofa and raids the fridge, announces a visit, and my husband goes in mad-mode. It's bizarre.

marisco_2

I got down as far as Matalan and then felt a migraine coming on with al the rolling smiley faces in front of me. They are coming to see you, not your house or what is in it. I am a take me as you find me type of person. Enjoy their company and dont exhaust yourself in the meantime overthinking it all.

heretolearn_2

My prep for visitors of any type

1) check have range of alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks.
2) Check no skidmarks in loo.

Done.

If they can't take me as they find me, they can sod off!

heretolearn_2

And yes, people who constantly hover, making apologies, offering you a million different options of cake even though you've said yes to the first one, fetching tables and cushions for you..blah blah .. make me feel very uncomfortable and I can't wait to leave.

motherofstudents

I am a bit like this but getting better. What I want to know is, why is it that when you clean the whole house, scrub the bathroom to within an inch of its life, nobody comes or at least they don't need the bathroom. Then on the day after you have had kids staying the weekend, you are looking after two dogs who have left muddy pawmarks everywhere and the bathroom is a no go area, you get visitors and they are all desperate
for the loo ???

victory

Stephb1986 wrote: »

Mum???? When did you learn to post on here!!??? lol

Steph xx

:rotfl::rotfl: oh it's a small world:D

victory

balletshoes wrote: »

victory you lost it at "what if they don't like my bog-standard teabags" I'm afraid .

I lost you at hello:rotfl:

valk_scot

Tea bags etc. Biscuits/cake. (M&S if I like the visitors enough.) Clean the loo and make sure they can actually find the sofa to sit down. That's enough, surely?

victory

marisco wrote: »

I got down as far as Matalan and then felt a migraine coming on

apologies to your eyes:D