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OP leaving aside the debate as to whether this is a multi post or not..
Your first mistake was to move out of your own home.
As the owner of the house,you have every right to occupy your own property.
The lady in this could only get an exclusion order if she could prove beyond reasonable doubt that your presence presented a clear and present danger to the welfare of her and/or the child.
Do you have any form for violence or assault?
Maybe you need to move back in?
Having said that,you are obliged to support your child.
If you do nothing ,you will either end up living in penury servicing a mortgage on your home which you no longer have enjoyment of as you chose to surrender it. Further,the longer she lives in it,the more her claim to a share of equity may be justified.
Perhaps you need to move back in?Feudal Britain needs land reform. 70% of the land is "owned" by 1 % of the population and at least 50% is unregistered (inherited by landed gentry). Thats why your slave box costs so much..0 -
From what I can gather you weren't married, and she's never contributed anything to the mortgage? (And there are no domestic violence issues?)
If that's the case get a locksmith to change the locks (do you have proof that you own the house?), and move yourself back in. Personally I wouldn't kick her out for the sake of the child, but there's no reason you can't live in your own house. If she really feels she can't live with you, she can make arrangements to move herself and the child somewhere else, or she can move out and leave the child with you.
Alternatively, once you've moved back in, you can make plans to sell the property if you so choose.
Incidentally, I would be looking very hard at how she got the locks changed on your property without your permission. Do you happen to know which locksmith she used?
Edit: Another idea - would you be willing to sell the house to her?Mortgage when started: £330,995
“Two possibilities exist: either we are alone in the Universe or we are not. Both are equally terrifying.” Arthur C. Clarke0 -
New.Beginnings wrote: »I have split up with my partner, it was a messy situation and she basically forced me to leave the house or she would get an injunction.
I think you need to expand on this point OP, before anyone can offer any accurate advice.
Why was she going to get an injunction? You can't realistically get one for no reason. She must be able to prove that her safety is at risk) IF you have done nothing wrong then just get a locksmith, get the locks changed AGAIN and move back into YOUR house.
If you think she could get an injunction by you being in the property and refusing to leave (again, there must be a valid reason for this, not just becasue she doesn't want you there), then I'm not sure how to proceed.
I woudl definitely reccommend a solicitor as a first step.0 -
Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »I think OP meant he was not the same person as the person referred to in this thread (similar-ish story).
Yes that's what I meant, I wish people would read things correctly.0 -
Own_My_Own wrote: »Oh yeah .
Still doesn't explain why he started 2 threads.
READ THE LAST PARAGRAPH!!!
It says I was told by the mortgage board to post here instead!0 -
LannieDuck wrote: »From what I can gather you weren't married, and she's never contributed anything to the mortgage? (And there are no domestic violence issues?)
If that's the case get a locksmith to change the locks (do you have proof that you own the house?), and move yourself back in. Personally I wouldn't kick her out for the sake of the child, but there's no reason you can't live in your own house. If she really feels she can't live with you, she can make arrangements to move herself and the child somewhere else, or she can move out and leave the child with you.
Alternatively, once you've moved back in, you can make plans to sell the property if you so choose.
Incidentally, I would be looking very hard at how she got the locks changed on your property without your permission. Do you happen to know which locksmith she used?
Edit: Another idea - would you be willing to sell the house to her?
Her father changed the locks!0 -
New.Beginnings wrote: »Her father changed the locks!
Call the police and tell them they are trespassing and get them out. Then get a lock smith to change the locks. It is your house. You are not married to her, you will only have to pay CSA to the kid, as he is yours.
Man up. If a stranger went into your house and didn't leave what would you do?
Call the police now and go there with the police telling them you want her out. If not you are going to have to suck up to her untill you die.0 -
sharp910sh wrote: »Call the police and tell them they are trespassing and get them out. Then get a lock smith to change the locks. It is your house. You are not married to her, you will only have to pay CSA to the kid, as he is yours.
Man up. If a stranger went into your house and didn't leave what would you do?
Call the police now and go there with the police telling them you want her out. If not you are going to have to suck up to her untill you die.
I agree OP, you really need to grow a pair and get this sorted ASAP or it will only get worse.
Go up when you know she will be out and get the locks changed yourself and move your stuff back in.
If your Father threatens you, report him to the police. He would have to be an idiot to try anything after they have spoken to him.
If you want to do the right thing tell her that her and the child are welcome to stay until they get something sorted, and you will pay the required CSA BUT you will not be forced out of YOUR home that YOU own.0 -
I don't have time to post a long reply now as I'm about to go out. She has no rights at all to the house if you are not married. If you were married under divorce law you may be ordered to provide a home for the child until 18. But as you are umarried she has no rights at all. I explained the legal position to someone the other day on a thread called "splitting up after 7 years" or something along those lines on the buying, moving and selling thread. Do not listen to anyone who tries to tell you about common law marriage or blah blah blah as it is simply not true.I'm never offended by debate & opinions. As a wise man called Voltaire once said, "I disagree with what you say, but will defend until death your right to say it."
Mortgage is my only debt - Original mortgage - January 2008 = £88,400, March 2014 = £47,000 Chipping away slowly! Now saving to move.0 -
I'm never offended by debate & opinions. As a wise man called Voltaire once said, "I disagree with what you say, but will defend until death your right to say it."
Mortgage is my only debt - Original mortgage - January 2008 = £88,400, March 2014 = £47,000 Chipping away slowly! Now saving to move.0
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