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Who is going to pay.
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I have split up with my partner, it was a messy situation and she basically forced me to leave the house or she would get an injunction. She is there now with our 18mth old son. Who I only see at a contact centre.
The house is mine, totally in my name we had lived there for only 2 years before the break.
I feel very peeved that she is living in my house, but accept that she needs a place for her and the baby. I suggested that she moved out and got a flat, which she would be helped with with Housing Benefit, I even offered to pay the deposit, she has refused, changed the locks and now I can't even go in.
It has now come to the point that I have dreaded, owing to having to pay £800 pm rent for a flat, I can no longer pay the mortgage, all my savings have now gone. I have made the decision to no longer pay the mortgage, which will mean that the house will be repossessed, she will no longer be able to stay there then of course.
She has gone to a solicitor, paid for by her father, who has told her that I MUST continue to pay the mortgage so that she can live there.
I have been told differently, it's my house, not hers, so why should I pay. I have done my best to help her but she clearly wants her cake and eat it.
How can it be right that she gets to stay there and I am left with nothing. I am happy to give maintenance to her for the baby, and support him, but not if she stays in the house, it can't be done financially.
Any advice would be appreciated.
I already posted this thread on the mortgage board but was advised to come here.
The house is mine, totally in my name we had lived there for only 2 years before the break.
I feel very peeved that she is living in my house, but accept that she needs a place for her and the baby. I suggested that she moved out and got a flat, which she would be helped with with Housing Benefit, I even offered to pay the deposit, she has refused, changed the locks and now I can't even go in.
It has now come to the point that I have dreaded, owing to having to pay £800 pm rent for a flat, I can no longer pay the mortgage, all my savings have now gone. I have made the decision to no longer pay the mortgage, which will mean that the house will be repossessed, she will no longer be able to stay there then of course.
She has gone to a solicitor, paid for by her father, who has told her that I MUST continue to pay the mortgage so that she can live there.
I have been told differently, it's my house, not hers, so why should I pay. I have done my best to help her but she clearly wants her cake and eat it.
How can it be right that she gets to stay there and I am left with nothing. I am happy to give maintenance to her for the baby, and support him, but not if she stays in the house, it can't be done financially.
Any advice would be appreciated.
I already posted this thread on the mortgage board but was advised to come here.
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You aren't currently a guest of her Majesty by any chance are you?0
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What happened to that post Person_one?Thrifty Till 50 Then Spend Till the End
You can please some of the people some of the time, all of the people some of the time, some of the people all of the time but you can never please all of the people all of the time0 -
Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »What happened to that post Person_one?
You mean this one?
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4428771
Have to say, the similarities are uncanny...0 -
Person_one wrote: »You aren't currently a guest of her Majesty by any chance are you?
Op says he is paying £800 rent.
I don't think he is the son of the other poster.0 -
Own_My_Own wrote: »Op says he is paying £800 rent.
I don't think he is the son of the other poster.
Jury's out for me.0 -
I looked for it this evening when I came online but I couldn't see it and assumed it had been deleted, thanks for finding it for meThrifty Till 50 Then Spend Till the End
You can please some of the people some of the time, all of the people some of the time, some of the people all of the time but you can never please all of the people all of the time0 -
get yourself a solicitor2014 Target;
To overpay CC by £1,000.
Overpayment to date : £310
2nd Purse Challenge:
£15.88 saved to date0 -
Person_one wrote: »You aren't currently a guest of her Majesty by any chance are you?
Certainly not. Whatever makes you say that?0 -
Why is this thread running twice ?
It is very confusing.0 -
I just read that post, yes my situation is similar. However, not the same person. There must be a lot of this sort of thing about.
A solicitor is out of the question right now, I am barely able to buy food, money is the problem.0
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