Separation anxiety

poet123

Not in any way of the same magnitude but I understand how you feel. My eldest son is moving out in a couple of weeks, he has bought a house....a mile away!! And I was thinking today how much I will miss him, how ridiculous is that? Hugs.

Macca83_2

victory wrote: »

macca that's a really lovely post thank you, a great way to look at it, I will get used to the idea, will have to, if I had my way I would build him a son annex:rotfl: only joking, there is nothing better than going and exploring, maketh the man;)

You're very welcome Victory. Moving away from home is one of those experiences that is sad for everyone involved. But we sometimes forgot the good that goes with it. You've nurtured this little boy, looked after him, loved him, you've turned him into the man that he is today. You have got him to this point. Your relationship will flourish now but in different ways, good ways that you wouldn't expect.

You'll have all this but you'll also have your life back. Time to indulge in a little me time!

Macca83_2

victory wrote: »

macca that's a really lovely post thank you, a great way to look at it, I will get used to the idea, will have to, if I had my way I would build him a son annex:rotfl: only joking, there is nothing better than going and exploring, maketh the man;)

Oh and instead of building a son annex, get him to build a state side granny pad!

pigpen

You survive because you know you have given them the skills and the confidence to do these things.. and you always remember if you give them their wings they will always fly home again.. and you get cheap holidays!

My uncle left the uk for '6 months' and never returned for anything more than a couple of weeks. My cousin went to travel for a year in New Zealand 6 years ago and is still there.

It is so much easier now with skype, cheaper international calls, texting, facebook, messenger etc.. you can do video calls which mean you get to 'see' them not just hear their voice.. not quite a hug in the flesh but better than nothing.

liselotte

My youngest son 21 has been living in Japan since last summer. Although I am very pleased for him that he has this wonderful chance to travel to a country which has always fascinated him to study and improve his japanese I have really hated every minute that he has been away:( I cried everyday for ages before he went (didn't let him see tho) He is having a great time. We talk on skype about once a week but it's not really the same. Anyway we have been saving hard and we are going to visit him in 3 weeks. I'm v excited but also worried in case I'm upset again when it's time to come home. I don't think I could ever get used to him been so far away so I really hope he will settle in this country when he has finished university. x

victory

liselotte wrote: »

My youngest son 21 has been living in Japan since last summer. Although I am very pleased for him that he has this wonderful chance to travel to a country which has always fascinated him to study and improve his japanese I have really hated every minute that he has been away:( I cried everyday for ages before he went (didn't let him see tho) He is having a great time. We talk on skype about once a week but it's not really the same. Anyway we have been saving hard and we are going to visit him in 3 weeks. I'm v excited but also worried in case I'm upset again when it's time to come home. I don't think I could ever get used to him been so far away so I really hope he will settle in this country when he has finished university. x

I hope for you he settles in this country:D

I know he has got the love of travel and youth, hope and a need to explore, I was very selfishly I suppose hoping that him having a GF would keep him to stay but alas no, he's off anyway

macca thank you, you have been very kind

victory

poet123 wrote: »

Not in any way of the same magnitude but I understand how you feel. My eldest son is moving out in a couple of weeks, he has bought a house....a mile away!! And I was thinking today how much I will miss him, how ridiculous is that? Hugs.

Oh I wish:D I would be a complete pain though, choosing curtains, offering to paint:rotfl:

victory

pigpen wrote: »

My uncle left the uk for '6 months' and never returned for anything more than a couple of weeks. My cousin went to travel for a year in New Zealand 6 years ago and is still there.

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No don't tell me that:eek:that's my worst fear that he loves it and chooses to stay permanently:o

Wilma33

Start planning a trip to visit. It will give you something nice to focus on, plan and look forward to

victory

Wilma33 wrote: »

Start planning a trip to visit. It will give you something nice to focus on, plan and look forward to

He's not committed to a country yet but yes good idea, I hope it's Europe as it will be so much easier, USA is accessible no doubt but costlier etc:D