Separation anxiety

victory

It's not on now so no .....

j.e.j.

Aw, I know some people whose daughter moved to Oz. I think they contact each other via Skype and the internet, so they still kind of 'see' each other, though I know it's not quite the same.

It's great to get out and do some travelling while you're young. There don't seem to be that many opportunities for our young folk here.

marmitepotato

Sadly it's just something you have to get used to. You could chat weekly on Skype, or install what's app on your phone and message him. As a mum, it's hard to let go, I know I've done it!

victory

marmitepotato wrote: »

Sadly it's just something you have to get used to. You could chat weekly on Skype, or install what's app on your phone and message him. As a mum, it's hard to let go, I know I've done it!

But how did you do it?:D

whitewing

I think one can worry so much about how hard you may find it that you can make it much more difficult for everybody.

Be happy that he is independent but let him know he'll be missed. He may surprise you with how much he misses you and makes the effort to keep in contact.

victory

j.e.j. wrote: »

Aw, I know some people whose daughter moved to Oz. I think they contact each other via Skype and the internet, so they still kind of 'see' each other, though I know it's not quite the same.

It's great to get out and do some travelling while you're young. There don't seem to be that many opportunities for our young folk here.

Yes I thought about Skype, FaceTime, messaging I'm lucky in this times the Internet will be invaluable for keeping in touch, it's just at the mo I feel a bit ....sick:)

victory

whitewing wrote: »

I think one can worry so much about how hard you may find it that you can make it much more difficult for everybody.

Be happy that he is independent but let him know he'll be missed. He may surprise you with how much he misses you and makes the effort to keep in contact.

Oh I'm sure we will keep in touch, I know he's not going off never to be seen again:D it's just hum wish he was not going:D

marmitepotato

I took up a hobby. It diverted my thoughts about my girl (for a while), and it hurt, oh my, it hurt! My Mum always said to me 'never tie your children to you. The tighter you tie them, the more they will want to be free.' Gradually, gradually, it became easier, and it will for you too. You just need to take it one day at a time.

victory

marmitepotato wrote: »

I took up a hobby. It diverted my thoughts about my girl (for a while), and it hurt, oh my, it hurt! My Mum always said to me 'never tie your children to you. The tighter you tie them, the more they will want to be free.' Gradually, gradually, it became easier, and it will for you too. You just need to take it one day at a time.

Thank you:D I don't want to become a snivelling wreck trying to pull him back on the day he goes:rotfl:I think it's great, best life experiences in the travel, wish him the stars and moon just wish he could settle to living a few streets away:D

claire16c

My sister lives abroad and my mums friends daughter has gone to the USA for a year.

They both plan trips out to see them so my parents go out there around 2-3 times a year and she comes back here around once or twice. So in someways she sees them more than some people whose kids live down the road!

The friend whose daughter has gone away for a year, shes been out once to see her and then will go once more. I think the hardest bit was her leaving, its much easier once theyre actually out of sight!

Is this your son who before took a while to find a job etc and was driving you a bit crazy? If so, at least this should make him be a lot more indepedant!

which option is he likely to take - europe or usa?

victory

Yes I understand,the first bit is going to be hell, the rest I will have to get used to slowly....:)