Separation anxiety

victory

claire16c wrote: »

which option is he likely to take - europe or usa?

I think Europe to be honest, although his bf has come back from the USA with enviable tales of how fab it was:D

mustmakealist

You will give hiem a hug and tell him how proud you are that he's got such an exciting opportunity ahead of him snd wave him goodbye. Then you'll go home a bawl your eyes out before picking yuorself up and getting on with your life. It will be hard

My eldest moved to Australia at the age of 20 and I didn't see her for 3 years as the younger ones had exams. This meant that it would have been really difficult to get away for more than a couple of weeks at a time. There was also the cost of trying to pay for the 3 of us to get out there.

Lily1

I wish someone could tell me how to get used to it. My son went to Vietnam last August for two years and the day he left was heartbreaking. He came home for eight days at Christmas and I felt the same again when he left. He Skypes often and e mails but its not the same.
Now there is a girlfriend so who knows if he will come back. You do get used to it, I always feel worse after I have spoken to him.
Three months will fly by, good luck.

marmitepotato

victory wrote: »

Thank you:D I don't want to become a snivelling wreck trying to pull him back on the day he goes:rotfl:I think it's great, best life experiences in the travel, wish him the stars and moon just wish he could settle to living a few streets away:D

You wouldn't be a mum if you were not a snivelling wreck the day he leaves. I cried every time my girl changed schools!


My girl came back, she lives thirty odd miles from me. I would like her nearer but it's her life and she has to live it. She knows if she needs me I will be there for her. It's soooo hard to let go........

annie_d

Ah xx Its a tricky one.
I have a son in Singapore and a daughter in Australia. It is hard, some times are harder than others. (Christmas was a killer.) Skype will be your life saver and can you get whatssap on your phone? That's free texting so we can chat back and forth 24/7. Its great to wake up in the morning and find 5 messages from Cleopatra on the other side of the world.

Deep breath, big smiles. Good luck.

motherofstudents

It's so hard, I never thought the day would come when mine would fly the nest. I try to concentrate on doing things that I like, keep busy and keep up the communication (but don't overdo it !). It's just another stage of life and you will get used to it. You are not alone in feeling this way.

jackyann

Accept that you are feeling a bit flat, it's part of the natural life cycle (imagine the alternative, you saying "yippee, he's gone"!)
Lots of ideas about coping here, choose what works for you; the main issue being that it is for you to deal with, not him!
You will get through this and into the next stage.
Be proud, and remember the saying about giving your children roots & wings

Macca83_2

Take a deep breath and think of the holidays!

Seriously though, as the child that moved away, first to the opposite end of the country and then to Oz. It was the best darned thing I could ever do. I learnt a huge amount. I became self sufficient, learnt how to cook, clean and budget. I saw some amazing things and had a huge amount of opportunities.
Throughout it all mum was a huge amount of support and I couldn't have done it without her. She was always there for the 'what do I do' moments without being over bearing or smothering. But on the other side of the coin me moving away allowed her to develope into her own person again. She rediscovered interests and past times that she simply didn't have time for when she was being mum to us both. Id say look on this as an exciting new time for the both of you. Your son for the exciting opportunities he'll have and you, for the time you'll be able to enjoy as you.

Oh and like i said earlier... Think of the holidays!

valk_scot

I am getting PLANS in place for when the kids shove off. (First one in about two years, hopefully.) Hobbies, interests, time to do what I want rather than an endless round of cooking, cleaning, mum taxi duties and living to their schedules. Serious plans! So what's the likelyhood of them both staying at home till they're both in their forties?

victory

macca that's a really lovely post thank you, a great way to look at it, I will get used to the idea, will have to, if I had my way I would build him a son annex:rotfl: only joking, there is nothing better than going and exploring, maketh the man;)