Trying for a Baby Part 9

claire16c

picklekin wrote: »

Loved the game analogy! But Code... I'm sorry your OH is such a pratt.. I would be hopping.

Happy for your CD1 T2D, nice to say that for a change.

Appointment went well really, HSG results were good, and bloods showed I ovulated both before and after starting the Clomid. He smiled and said "well, everything is good" and I said "no its not, I'm still here!" he told me to relax and not stress about things, and told me to stop using OPKs and temping.. I think I'm more stressed not knowing whats going on with my body..

I'm stressed just at the thought of someone telling me that! I'd never get pg if I didn't use tests etc.

Code sorry your DH is being an idiot x

faith2009uk

Code - Sorry about your OH. My OH can be the same and its usually when OV is due its so frustrating!

T2D - Great news cd1 is here for you

Angeltreats - Goodluck with getting your OH to abstain for a couple of days and for the SA results on Tuesday.

Picklekin - Glad the appointment went well. I hate when they say 'just relax'! Easier said then done!

AFM - Had an interesting chat this morning. Basically conversation came round to kids and when I would have them ( no one really knows we are trying) and it was announced I would be fine as all the family are Super fertile and they only have to begin undressing and wham bam a baby is conceived. Hmmm felt like ramming that phone down there throat!

To be fair they have all really ever had one hit wonders or there about. Makes me wonder if I am broken after all

tia86

Code - your long post a few pages back was so true. It seems that some of the recent pregnancies I know have been after years of trying - I just feel annoyed that a lot of education goes into contraception and I don't feel that I have ever been informed about how long it does take to get pregnant and cycles to go back to normal after the pill.
Why can men be so difficult, I really don't know what goes on in their mind some days. Hope he makes it up to you.

T2D - hooray for CD1!

Picklin - glad appointment went well. Lol at your comment about still being there though - very true.

AFM - this is a rubbish month where I will be unlikely to DTD at any relevant time (make that ANY time!). OH is away. May still try and find out if I am ovulating at any point, as now the summer hols are approaching I may go back to the doctor and ask about tests - it has only been 6 months but I am paranoid I am not ovulating, and as my cycles are all over the place want to find out why. Though my surgery is annoying as you ring on the day and they allocate you anyone - may need to try and assert some authority on that call to avoid one of the doctors who is never that sympathetic/helpful.

Mrs_T_M

good_vibes wrote: »

*hugs* TM, am sure there is a job out there. What work you looking for? even if it means getting something to get you going. Think it would help the why you feel about things.
Work keeps mind off TTC.

catloverbex wrote: »

MrsTM - thanks for doing the lists. Sorry to hear you are feeling down. What area do you work in? If you are not sure what to do, have you thought of doing some volunteer work in that area for a while (if possible)? I've found that doing this can sometimes open up the door for the jobs that you are technically 'under qualified' for. I know it must be frustrating being stuck in an over/under qualified position though. Hope something comes up for you xxx

I don't really *want* to work, but DH keeps mentioning money, which is doing my head in. He makes enough for me to not work, but he's never had to save for anything before and he hates not having his spending money.

As far as qualifications go, I have a bachelors in both biology and in chemistry, have experience working with IT, banking experience, teaching/tutoring experience, retail experience (both on a till and stocking), shift manager experience, pet/house sitting experience, and cleaning experience.

I refuse to enter into a management position. Been there, done that, hated every minute. I am shying away from the teaching due to not wanting to be around kids without having my own yet, and the cleaning stuff doesn't pay anything.

I would absolutely love to get a job in a lab at a fertility clinic. I'd be able to use what I know, learn new things, and help people who are struggling to conceive. I would also love to go into 'business' for myself, making and selling crafts and pet sitting. Thing is, hardly anyone is willing to pay enough to cover even expenses, much less to make a profit. I know that there are niche markets out there, I just haven't found one that I enjoy providing stuff for yet.

I'm extremely shy in person, and I'm clinically depressed and in therapy. I'm also trying to lose half of my body weight (need to lose 64 kg before I can even think of being classed as 'normal') and I'm very sensitive about comments from people about how I look. The anti depressants have helped tremendously, and I'm really looking forward to therapy (first session is on stress management and is next Tuesday!) and I'm hoping to get into the bereavement therapy soon so that I can finally grieve for my dad.

What it boils down to is: DH wants more money so that we can start saving for a house and be more comfortable. I'm worried that if I start working, I won't be able to attend my therapy sessions nor handle the stress. I've finally started to take care of myself and I don't want to lose that. I don't know what to do though.

Lists are coming up if anyone needs me to update anything!

Mrs_T_M

Winner of May BFP predictions (7): angeltreats (two months in a row!), purcy81, katy29. Well done!

June Graduates:
:jBirdie85 - 2/6/2013 :j
:jBecca - 26/6/2013 :j
:jFaithhope - 26/6/2013 :j
:jKynthia - 27/6/2013 :j
:jLara44 - 29/6/2013 :j

June BFP predictions
Becca - 6
BabyMad - 6
kellykins - 7
beautybutterfly - 7
Kalama - 7
angeltreats - 8
Elsie - 8
ruth - 8
ttc39 -8
sjlou - 9
Catloverbex - 10
faithhope - 10

Thread Graduates:
fluffysox BFP 06/02/13
toothfairy BFP 06/02/13
Hopelass BFP 10/02/13
MiffyMoo BFP 11/02/13
Lemonmelon BFP 14/02/13
maire BFP 19/02/13
Trina BFP 20/02/13
AngelMommy BFP 21/02/13
TTC40 BFP 21/02/13
Lilymay BFP 04/03/13
Retepetsir BFP 05/03/13
abis BFP 12/03/13
amy_85 BFP 14/03/13
vic3 BFP 23/03/13
KScarlet BFP 26/03/13
Optimistic_mummy BFP 16/04/13
Lilymay BFP 20/04/13
emylou BFP 21/04/13
amyloofoo BFP 24/04/13
BigZippy BFP 3/05/13
Mincepiemonster BFP 7/05/13
ejecoms BFP 18/05/13
firefly BFP 22/05/13
TeamLowe BFP 27/05/13
Samtoby BFP 30/05/13
Birdie85 BFP 2/6/13
Becca BFP 26/6/2013
Faithhope BFP 26/6/2013
Kynthia BFP 27/6/2013
Lara44 BFP 29/6/2013

Mrs_T_M

Two week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
CD45 credit_crunch - 26DPO :cool:
CD54 MsTTC – 25DPO :cool:
CD34 Tashatutuw - 18DPO :cool:
CD41 Skaps* - 17DPO :cool:
CD27 Picklekin - 13DPO :cool:
CD25 Tinkwings - 9DPO :cool:
CD21 faith2009 - 8DPO :cool:
CD17 atton- 8DPO :cool:
CD19 BabyMad* - 6DPO :cool:
CD27 blondy24 - 5DPO :cool:
CD17 skintchick - 5DPO :cool:
CD23 Angeltreats*- 4DPO :cool:
CD22 squ1rrel - 4DPO :cool:
CD21 PommeVerte - 4DPO :cool:
CD18 Catloverbex - 4DPO :cool:
CD17 ruth26 - 3DPO :cool:
CD17 Thriftylass - 3DPO :cool:
CD14 jammy26 - 0DPO :cool:
CD69 Alice31 - ?DPO :cool:
CD? Slinky_Selina - Awaiting AF :cool:

"If in doubt - BD" Zone
CD98 apple*pie - Awaiting ov
CD97 bambisbelle - Awaiting ov
CD87 KimLouise - Awaiting ov
CD86 Fannyanna - Awaiting ov
CD81 Sapphire - Awaiting ov
CD80 McRach– Awaiting ov
CD72 any name will suffice - Awaiting ov
CD62 Vesper -Awaiting ov
CD46 january23- Awaiting ov
CD36 TTC39* - Awaiting ov
CD32 Skint_Catt - Awaiting ov
CD29 BeautyButterfly - Awaiting ov
CD29 Gelly - Awaiting ov
CD28 Codemonkey – Awaiting ov
CD28 Kellykins - Awaiting ov
CD24 Katy29 - Awaiting ov
CD23 Sophiasmum - Awaiting ov
CD23 twigpig- Awaiting ov
CD21 becsxxx - Awaiting ov
CD21 Chocoholic_chick - Awaiting ov
CD21 Miskate - Awaiting ov
CD19 Kalama -Awaiting ov
CD18 sjlou -Awaiting ov
CD18 chocgirl - Awaiting ov
CD17 Purcy – Awaiting ov
CD16 Lannie Duck - Awaiting ov
CD16 MrsMuffin - Awaiting ov
CD15 Claire16c- Awaiting ov
CD15 littleme - Awaiting ov
CD14 Patronus - Awaiting ov
CD11 tia86 - Awaiting ov
CD11 Elsie37- Awaiting ov
CD11 Lemon Tree - Awaiting ov

"Wine and Chocolate" zone
CD7 JoJoB - Awaiting ov
CD7 cwtw - Awaiting ov
CD7 lollypopswater - Awaiting ov
CD6 159 - Awaiting ov
CD3 Goodvibes* – Awaiting ov
CD2 Loulou123 - Awaiting ov
CD2 time2deal - Awaiting ov
CD2 Mrs_T_ M – Awaiting ov

:T TCD's own special list :T
CD23 teaandcakeordeath- Awaiting next step

Those with * sometimes uses conceive plus/preseed.
The names in blue has a link to their Fertility Friend chart.
When posting updates, can you please do them in Magenta so it's easy to spot. This thread is all about support, so remember to click thanks on as many posts as you can! It makes us all feel loved.

skaps

Congrats Becca, faithhope and kynthia. :j:j:j

codemonkey

Well, ff has put cross hairs in and thinks I'm 3dpo. Still not had a cm dry up so I don't know if that's right but it would be within the time specified by my positive opk so maybe. I don't know. This has been a rubbish cycle and I'm fed up with it.

Oh and for ages DH has said that adoption isn't an option. After one conversation with a different work colleague (who he also told about ttc - should I just have a massive infertile - pity me sign put over my head?), he's changed his mind and might consider it. Clearly, if I want anything done I need to Facebook these women and get them to tell him.

Mrs T_M , maybe you need an online Facebook shop selling your crafts like tinks has or something part time just to get your DH off your back. As much as I hate my job and blame it in part for my failure to get pregnant, there are some days when just the simple act of getting there, speaking to my colleagues about trash tv and so on, and focussing on my coding have really prevented a meltdown because it means I can't think about the thing that's bothering me.

skaps

Since Ive been using ovulation sticks, this is the first time my period is late, today is 4 days late and I took a test on two days ago which was negative. A few days ago I was having some stomach twinges, and everyday I have been feeling bloated. Think I will wait for a few more days before I test again.

littleme82

Good morning.
Pickle - great test results. What's the next step?
Am on the iPhone and posting is a nightmare. Well following the strongest + OPK had on the OPK at 530 last night I'm guessing I'm due to OV today. Does that sound right?

We tried to BD last night but DP was too tired. So we've just had a fun one this morning

Will have another tomorrow morning then the 2ww....

Have a great weekend. So pleased for the CD1 tea! Xxx