Trying for a Baby Part 9

teaandcakeordeath

littleme- many mojitos, glasses of red and tapas were enjoyed- I'd really recommend Madrid... Typical really when I'd deliberately booked the break for the week before AF due for a 5 days of non TTC related fun... *ahem*...

lilmiss sorry to read about your news. We're always around if you need to vent/ rant.

AFM- we're still awaiting the results of my repeat pre-IVF bloods, the prolactin came back too high on the first test. I kind of hope it still does on the second as they'll give me tablets to lower it which will give me a couple of months to get shut of the fat I've accumulated since March.... I really need to get motivated to lose this weight but I just can't get into the mindset that it'll make any difference. I know if I don't lose the weight I've gained I will not be eligible for treatment- on the flip side I know the treatment won't work anyway. Pffff.

Jeez, red wine and prozac= maudalin TCD....

codemonkey

becca0417 wrote: »

Sorry lilmiss x

Well 4/4 nights bd done . Knackered! Done all we can now

Code any news on DH? X

Well done on the bding. Fingers crossed it works.

DH had a meeting today to discuss his job. There are some jobs available but there are twice as many applicants as jobs. Plus he worked in a very tight knit team so there's a lot of hurt that they're being separated. DH is worried and when he's stressed he stops eating and gets so grumpy. So I am trying to be supportive but having some dark thoughts, especially as one of my dad's bloods came back abnormal and we won't find out til Tuesday why. Add that to my job situation where I was stressed already and boosh. I'm going through antacids like polos, I got heartburn after eating lentil soup and I just want to sleep. Instead I have to persuade DH to eat something that's not an ice pole and try to be positive. Sigh.

My egg has probably been scared out of releasing this month.

claire16c

Tea cake - I can't promise that ivf will work for you but, if there's a certain amount of weight you need to loose & if that weight loss would help the success rate of the ivf then I would say that your motivation should be, thinking how you'd feel if it didn't work - and knowing there was nothing that you didn't try your best on. That's all anyone can ask.

Don't ever look back & regret anything or wonder 'what if?'

I know when I had my miscarriage, although deep down I knew it wasn't down to anything id done, I still felt like I needed to blame it on something. And so now im so glad that I never did anything 'wrong' because I'd always be looking back & wondering 'what if'. Like the odd glass of wine or something which in reality probably wouldn't have made a difference but I would have been regretting it.

So just do your best & then you can't ever look back & wish you did something different

And maybe it will work & you'll be soo glad you hit your goal then .

codemonkey

Wow. I'm being a whiny beatch. Sorry. Just exhausted.

Tcd - I know how hard it is to lose weight, especially if you feel it's pointless anyway. I genuinely believe that you will get your baby and it will all be worth it.

thriftylass

Good evening, late post but wanted to share as I'm not a very open person in this aspect but feel I can tell you. Although I feel silly because it seems so irrelevant in comparison to issues some of you have. But i feel you're such a great supportive bunch, that...Anyway...Had a few drinks (safe, AF is visiting) and had a good chat with OH. Even after 9 years I'm still quite coy (sp?) and we definitely don't talk about sex etc. We're not a very passionate/intimate couple and sex isn't a big important part of our relationship although I'd like it to be. Not sure what holds me back because obviously i do fancy him and would like to BD more but my thoughts and actions are not the same. Anyway, so basically TTC is more based on luck of timing because I never really make a move or let him know when the time is right. I wish we could be more open about these things with each other like some of you which we hopefully be now. Sorry rambling, but it's hard to explain. This will change now as we talked about that quite openly now and I'm to let him now when the time is right etc. He said he's no mindreader and clueless about the female cycle etc.!

Sorry for the long post, I know it's not a major problem or anything, just wanted to talk, thanks for listening x

Kynthia

thriftylass wrote: »

Good evening, late post but wanted to share as I'm not a very open person in this aspect but feel I can tell you. Although I feel silly because it seems so irrelevant in comparison to issues some of you have. But i feel you're such a great supportive bunch, that...Anyway...Had a few drinks (safe, AF is visiting) and had a good chat with OH. Even after 9 years I'm still quite coy (sp?) and we definitely don't talk about sex etc. We're not a very passionate/intimate couple and sex isn't a big important part of our relationship although I'd like it to be. Not sure what holds me back because obviously i do fancy him and would like to BD more but my thoughts and actions are not the same. Anyway, so basically TTC is more based on luck of timing because I never really make a move or let him know when the time is right. I wish we could be more open about these things with each other like some of you which we hopefully be now. Sorry rambling, but it's hard to explain. This will change now as we talked about that quite openly now and I'm to let him now when the time is right etc. He said he's no mindreader and clueless about the female cycle etc.!

Sorry for the long post, I know it's not a major problem or anything, just wanted to talk, thanks for listening x

I understand what you mean and some of what you say applies to my relationship too. Having been together over 8 years, working long hours, having very different sleep cycles and due to shyness on both our parts we didn't dtd often enough. Thankfully trying to conceive has really shaken things up and I hope it continues to do so, but I still need more courage. Start by telling your other half some facts about ttc. Go somewhere you can talk and chat about how long sperm live, when women ovulate, the chances of conception, etc. Take along a print out from the NHS page on ttc as a prompt, I believe it recommends dtd three times a week. Do you have a regularish cycle as you can tell your OH the relevant dates in advance, as I tell hubbie a few days beforehand that we'll be BD every other day from CD10 to when my temperature spikes. This way he's prepared and knows it's both our responsibility to initiate in this time. Sometimes it's unromantic and awkward, as you'd never normally do it when you both really aren't in the mood, but other times it leads to fun and closeness that we probably wouldn't of had.

Try to push yourself a little each month to have discussions and initiate sex. It doesn't happen all in one go, I'm sure most of us have progressed gradually, so give yourself time.

sophiasmum

well done thriftlass - amazing what a few well timed drinks can go to braveness! Hopefully all that well timed bding will lead to a bfp!
That's why I have started telling my dh so he knows like Kynthia that its every night from aprox CD10. I gave him a 24 hour warning last night!
So sorry to read your news littlemiss. Happened to me in March and while I felt strong enough to start trying straight away, its not a good place to be.
Thanks Becca - for keeping up with all of us! x

codemonkey

Thriftylass - I used to have the same problem, although DH is the one with the low sex drive and it was getting so stressful to BD on the right days. Eventually I had a meltdown and told him I was fed up of it and now we do the even so romantic thing of me telling him that I've had a positive opk and we need to have sex now. Its all very romantic.

claire16c

thrifylass I think we've all been there to some extent. I used to drop 'hints' it was a good time which would go right over his head. As time went by, he now knows every detail and we have 'baby sex' as he calls it all the time, rather than just doing it for fun - although sometimes we do that too. Its almost like having a 2nd job lol.

We do it all the time when were not really in the mood if ov happens, and wouldn't have done it before, but when you want to make a baby, seems like its the only way! Unless you were a couple who bded all the time before, and we weren't. At least not every day lol! Sometimes we'll be in the mood anyway so that's great, and other times were knackered but the deed needs to be done

DH will have a whine he's tired and then after about a week to 10 days he complaining that my period is coming and hes got to wait for a few days lol.

becca0417

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