Trying for a Baby Part 9

fannyanna

claire16c wrote: »

You've lost a ton of weight right? Pardon the pun! So its pretty clear that you can lose it if needed, and have done so, and know what youre doing in respect to that. So try to think positive!

Not really. You might be thinking of bigzippy who has done fab. I've lost just over a stone but still have a lot to lose.

But yes part of the deal was that I start losing weight which I am so hopefully that helps.

Thank you x

chocgirl_2

Don't lose track, a stone is still a lot to to have lost and you have done very well!!

CD31 and 9/10DPO. Won't have the car with me tomorrow so won't be able to go to Superdrug to get early test. Cannot guarantee that I won't go out today and get one!

In the meantime, have just had toast for breakfast. Haven't wanted my usual poached egg on toast for a couple of days now.

I am, of course, absolutely not reading this as a symptom.

sjlou

good morning all...


loulou have you tested?! fingers crossed for you.
Im still awaiting AF, on cd29, AF came on cd27 the last 2 cycles. keeping fingers crossed and not doing another pg test till tomorrow if still no sign. so far 2 tests on tuesday said no.

fannyanna good luck at your appointment. losing that first stone is a great step in the right direction, that is a positive for you.

birdie I'm still a little bloated also today, but pulled out my magic wrap around dress to wear into work. hopefully no one will notice.... only one of my colleague knows that we're ttc, she's trying to decide whether to go for her second or not.

my boss on the other hand is on high alert for babies!! she's already had a "panic" when I asked to have a word a couple of weeks ago. Luckily we're friends, so I know its nothing personal!.
I know she's dreading me going on mat leave when it comes to it, as she'll be seriously under staffed.

claire16c

fannyanna wrote: »

Not really. You might be thinking of bigzippy who has done fab. I've lost just over a stone but still have a lot to lose.

But yes part of the deal was that I start losing weight which I am so hopefully that helps.

Thank you x

Ah sorry! Well a stone is still a stone! :T

McRach_2

Thanks for the kind words yesterday ladies, i think i do sometimes forget that OH goes through the emotional pain

Cried myself to sleep last night OH rang me on the way to work to tell me his sister is 5weeks PG.... he followed the news with "but you can't get upset about it" So then i felt poo for actually being upset.

I sometimes feel really selfish in the fact that i cant actually feel happy about someone else's PGcy :o


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BabyMad

Good morning Ladies!

Hugs Sapphire for CD60 – very frustrating!

Hugs to Skaps for CD1 – although today could be the day you date your pregnancy from so PMA (plus there’s the option of wine and chocolate too)

Good luck at your appointment Fanyana and well done on the weight loss – I also need to lose about a stone but cannot find the motivation to really throw myself into a diet at the moment. Have been making little adjustments here and there though and I suppose the lack of alcohol and healthy eating during 2ww will inevitably help.

I can really sympathise with the bloating and people thinking you are pregnant. I hold fat on my belly and have put on a bit of weight recently so have been looking about 5 months pregnant for about 3 weeks + and was just waiting for someone to ask if I was pregnant but fortunately no-one has been so rude yet. My belly has been so huge and my last period was such a non event that even my hubby, my mum and I were wondering if I could be pregnant so I did a test but of course it was a bfn. Anyway a bit of sensible eating, drinking plenty of water etc and my bump has gone down quite a bit today. On the plus side I know what it will be like to carry around a bump and have a few clothes that I’ll be able to wear for the first few months anyway!?

Big hugs McRach!! My sil announced she was pregnant recently and whilst I can see reasons to be pleased for her, as she has been waiting for the right time to ttc for a while, she seems to have got pregnant very quickly and I can’t help but be a bit envious but like you I’m also struggling with feeling very selfish and churlish for the envy and have not been able to admit it to anyone other than you lovely ladies now!

Afm – cd12 and thinking ovulation is imminent. I have the classic spot and grumpy mood but no + opk yet. I’m thinking o should be today or tomorrow. We’ll be dtd today just in case and continuing with the opks.

claire16c

McRach wrote: »

Thanks for the kind words yesterday ladies, i think i do sometimes forget that OH goes through the emotional pain

Cried myself to sleep last night OH rang me on the way to work to tell me his sister is 5weeks PG.... he followed the news with "but you can't get upset about it" So then i felt poo for actually being upset.

I sometimes feel really selfish in the fact that i cant actually feel happy about someone else's PGcy :o


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Surely he wasnt being serious? Its totally normal and ok to be upset. He can't honestly think you wont be upset can he? Maybe it was a bad joke?

If he's serious was Id be upset and angry if that was my DH! He's told you he doesnt want to actively try and now doesnt want you getting upset when someone else is pregnant who you are likely to be around/hear about?

I didnt say this yesterday, but after my mc I said to my DH, when I was in the midst of a flood of tears, that I was terrified he might not want to try again afterwards because I was in such a state and what if it happened again etc because that wasnt what I wanted. I said to him Id be even more upset and devastated if we stopped. He started laughing and said as if Id suggest that I havent even thought about that, dont be silly. (Sometimes can be a good thing my DH only thinks about one thing at a time ). Trying is the only thing that makes me feel positive!

Your OH is different and perhaps your mc affected him more than he thought it would. Fair enough. Hence why I didnt say anything.

But if hes now saying to you he wants to ntnp, then he cant at the same time expect you to be all happy about someone else. You're hardly gonna be leaping for joy are you!

fannyanna

Thanks ladies.

I've had my appointment now. The Dr was really nice. Annoyingly the previous Dr didn't arrange all of the tests that should have been done so I have to get those sorted. But once those results are in the Dr has said that she will definately refer me.

She was honest and said that I need to prepare myself - as she thinks the fertility clinic wont give me clomid as they'll want to concentrate on me losing weight.

At least I know that I'll be referred so that's a step closer.

Told Hubby that he needs to have another sperm analysis done and he didn't seem too happy. I then rattled off the long list of everything that I've had or had to do and that soon shut him up lol.



McRach - sending you lots of hugs. It's normal to feel upset. I think your OH was a bit insensitive and can understand why that made you feel even worse. Men!

TeamLowe

BFN this morning, why i bother i've no idea, the barren corner is clearly the place for me...

fannyanna, glad your appointment went well, hope the test results are good for you

McRach rather large hugs, i cried for about a week about my sister getting pregnant, but i completely and utterly adore my niece, cheeky thing though she is.
Men aren't very good at realising that there's a whole spectrum of emotions and tend to think their reaction is the only one, so because he's happy about it, he's shocked that you can be anything other than happy yourself.
take good care of yourself, it's natural to be upset and hurt about other people's easy conception and pregnancies x

fannyanna

TeamLowe wrote: »

BFN this morning, why i bother i've no idea, the barren corner is clearly the place for me...

You bother because you still have hope - and that's a good thing.

Do you want some of those weird looking hugs?

Here you go :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

x