Clubcard Points and MIL - Dilemma.

Spirit_2

Kili wrote: »

I have made my decision and I am going to convert the vouchers to days out deals myself, and split them between my children. They can then use them for theme park visits on their own.
If MIL and SIL want to convert theirs as well then it is up to them.

I would be grateful to MiL for all of the times she has subsidised the childrens outings by giving the face value of the vouchers but say it really is'nt necessary and the children will now have the vouchers directly to do with what they wish.

If the children then 'spend' them on clothes in Tesco will that be OK?

onlyroz

Just tell her that this time you want to use the vouchers for yourself, e.g. a £15 token can become a £60 restaurant voucher and so you could take your kids out for a meal together instead of them going off to theme parks without you.

candjsmum

Kili wrote: »

OH and I are not theme park fans so we actually never use them ourselves

No, my OH and myself hate theme parks but WE take them because our children 17 and 14 love them!!

daisiegg

If you don't do your grocery shopping in Tesco how on earth do you end up earning £15 Tesco vouchers?

We buy all our fuel from Tesco and a few grocery shops a month and I am lucky to get the odd £4!

Own_My_Own

Have the vouchers you have sold her in the pass covered the cost of your children's days out, or has your MiL topped them up her own vouchers ?
If this is the case then had she not taken your children out she would have had enough of her own vouchers to buy the clothes.

This has really seemed to annoy you. The best thing to do is pull out of the arrangement and keep your vouchers.
Obviously you will have to tell your children they can no longer go out on these days out with they family, which would be a shame. But as you have stated, they are old enough to go out alone.

Mojisola

Kili wrote: »

For the last few years whenever my clubcard points have arrived I have given them to my MIL.

She pays me the face value of the voucher (although I've always told her not to she will find a way ither sneaking it in my bag or in OH's pockets).

Kili hasn't exactly been "selling" them - she was giving them. Her MIL is the one who has been insisting on giving the money back.

shop-to-drop

I can't see how MIL was converting your vouchers to days out vouchers unless she has registered your clubcard to an online account, they would have been sent to your address anyway. Do you have an online account yourself? Just convert them yourself and give them to her to use with the children or do something as a family. There is no double up promotion this time so you can't do that ATM.

freddiesmum09

Wow, didn't know there was a way to make something so simple so confusing!!

So effectively you will give your MIL £15 of vouchers...

She will pay you the face value so you get £15 cash back. I know you say she has 'sneaked' you this money, but the end of the day if you really didn't want to accept this money you could 'sneak' it back one way or another.

She will then generally spend the vouchers on days out for YOUR children (£60 days out voucher), and you are £15 richer.

Seems like you have a pretty good deal to be honest!

This time however she chose to spend the vouchers she had given you money for, on clothes. At the end of the day she has paid for them (even if it was at the face value) - at this point unless you have agreed as others have said to put the money in this pot soley for days out vouchers, you don't really have a leg to stand on... The vouchers are hers to do whatever she wants with in my eyes...

If your not happy with the arrangement just simply say you'd like to keep the vouchers and save them up for christmas/buying yourself some nice clothes/resturant vouchers etc etc. If she questions it just explain that since you last checked they've added some good deals and you feel like you could take advantage of them yourselves rather than giving them the voucher.

Kili

Bravehearted wrote: »

Incredibly petty.

She bought them, so can do whatever she wants with them. If you don't like that, then don't sell them in the first place.

Yet another instance of a ridiculous thread.

Thank you, I didn't realise you had final say in what was worthy of a thread or not on this forum. The old adage if you don't like don't read it springs to mind

candjsmum wrote: »

No, my OH and myself hate theme parks but WE take them because our children 17 and 14 love them!!

WE have taken our children too when they were younger, but as I stated earlier they are now old enough to go alone should they wish, MIL, BIL and SIL tag themselves along with them.

daisiegg wrote: »

If you don't do your grocery shopping in Tesco how on earth do you end up earning £15 Tesco vouchers?

We buy all our fuel from Tesco and a few grocery shops a month and I am lucky to get the odd £4!

As I said earlier, OH travels with his job. We run 3 cars between us and use 1 clubcard. Son's fuel also goes to the same clubcard.

Mojisola wrote: »

Kili hasn't exactly been "selling" them - she was giving them. Her MIL is the one who has been insisting on giving the money back.

Exactly. I have never asked for the money for them because they were going into the days out pot. She's always found a way of sneaking the money, like I say either by putting it in my purse or giving it to OH telling him she owes it to me (he doesn't know!) I've usually put this money back into the kids pot so have never directly benefitted from it myself. The last payment before Christmas I gave to DS to put some petrol in his car (came full circle really!)

We haven't had much money ourselves and Christmas is always a stretch, I gave her the vouchers thinking they were going into the pot as usual. Again, I'm guilty of assumption there.
If I'd known they weren't going in there then yes I'd have doubled them up and used them towards something from Tesco Direct for one of the kids stocking fillers.

I don't begrudge my MIL a jumper or anything else for that matter, I just wish she had told me before I gave her the voucher that it was her intention to do that so I could have got £30 worth of use out of it rather than £15 which I gave away to my son.

Days out wont stop if I don't give her my vouchers, DS doesn't really have much time now for theme parks and my voucher will cover DS if she chooses to go with friends.

As I said in my last post I have told MIL I'm keeping the voucher this time and I'll convert it to a days out. I may convert it to a restaurant voucher yet and we can all go and have a meal on it instead.

freddiesmum09

Kili wrote: »

Thank you, I didn't realise you had final say in what was worthy of a thread or not on this forum. The old adage if you don't like don't read it springs to mind



WE have taken our children too when they were younger, but as I stated earlier they are now old enough to go alone should they wish, MIL, BIL and SIL tag themselves along with them.



As I said earlier, OH travels with his job. We run 3 cars between us and use 1 clubcard. Son's fuel also goes to the same clubcard.



Exactly. I have never asked for the money for them because they were going into the days out pot. She's always found a way of sneaking the money, like I say either by putting it in my purse or giving it to OH telling him she owes it to me (he doesn't know!) I've usually put this money back into the kids pot so have never directly benefitted from it myself. The last payment before Christmas I gave to DS to put some petrol in his car (came full circle really!)

We haven't had much money ourselves and Christmas is always a stretch, I gave her the vouchers thinking they were going into the pot as usual. Again, I'm guilty of assumption there.
If I'd known they weren't going in there then yes I'd have doubled them up and used them towards something from Tesco Direct for one of the kids stocking fillers.

I don't begrudge my MIL a jumper or anything else for that matter, I just wish she had told me before I gave her the voucher that it was her intention to do that so I could have got £30 worth of use out of it rather than £15 which I gave away to my son.

Days out wont stop if I don't give her my vouchers, DS doesn't really have much time now for theme parks and my voucher will cover DS if she chooses to go with friends.

As I said in my last post I have told MIL I'm keeping the voucher this time and I'll convert it to a days out. I may convert it to a restaurant voucher yet and we can all go and have a meal on it instead.

To be honest it sounds like you have plenty of uses for the vouchers yourselves now, that seems like a good enough to excuse to tell her its time to stop this arrangement as actually you have found x y and z you could use the vouchers on to benefit your whole family...

I would be surprised if she had a problem with this as at the end of the day they are your families vouchers....

You never know she could be worried about accepting the vouchers and is hoping that you'll put an end to it soon...but maybe she is to worried to speak to you about it incase she offends you..

Just talk to her and i'm sure you'll get it resolved