Clubcard Points and MIL - Dilemma.

Kili

For the last few years whenever my clubcard points have arrived I have given them to my MIL. She pays me the face value of the voucher (although I've always told her not to she will find a way ither sneaking it in my bag or in OH's pockets).
She converts the voucher into deals and those deals are used on my children, her only Grandchildren, for days out etc

When the last lot of vouchers came before Christmas I gave her about £15 worth. A few weeks later she asked to borrow my clubcard as she was having problems changing the vouchers in store. I questioned this as I had assumed they were going towards days out as they had always done. It transpired MIL had some days out tokens left so was using clubcard double up and buying herself clothes.

I was a bit miffed tbh, had I known that they weren't for days out I could have used them for clothing etc myself but I thought I was doing good by letting her have them.

This morning I've received another £15 worth of tokens. Do I let her have them or do I use them myself?

I was certainly wrong to assume, and as I seem to have set a pattern in giving her the vouchers at face value I don't really know what to do this time. I think MIL still has plenty of Days Out Vouchers left but I don't want to appear funny and ask what she's planning on using my vouchers for before I hand them over.

thunderbird

Why don't you convert them to tokens yourself and then give them to her?

lulu650

The poster above beat me to it. I don't quite understand why you are giving your Tesco vouchers away. Why don't you use them for days out or whatever you need? Can't MIL get her own Tesco card?

londonsurrey

You were giving them to her at face value because you wanted to.

You can now think of better uses for them. Either discuss it with her, or simply tell her that you want to use them for yourself. Simple and courteous.

UKDebs

But technically you haven’t been letting her have them as, regardless of whether you wanted her to or not, she’s been giving you the face value for them.

I think it’s lovely that she’s been treating your children with these vouchers for years. She might have got, for example, two Alton Towers tickets worth £60 but they still cost her £15.

So just once, as far as you know, she decided to use the vouchers to treat her – again, it still cost her £15.

If you think she still has plenty of Days Out vouchers to hand (which was probably her reasoning for spending the Clubcard vouchers on herself for once), why not ask her does she need the vouchers this time as there’s some clothes you’d like to get for herself. If you’ve always handed them over to her she probably doesn’t realise that sometimes you’d like to keep them.

Kili

To clarify, MIL has her own clubcard. What she does is 'pools' the vouchers. I give her mine, my sis in law passes on hers. Between us we usually have around £40 in vouchers so we convert them all together into a 'days out pot' which is there for theme park tickets etc which MIL, my kids and my SIL use (OH and I are not theme park fans so we actually never use them ourselves)

I think this time I shall perhaps go with Londonsurry's advice and tell her that I'm going to treat myself and OH to something with them this time.

Kili

UKDebs wrote: »

But technically you haven’t been letting her have them as, regardless of whether you wanted her to or not, she’s been giving you the face value for them.

I think it’s lovely that she’s been treating your children with these vouchers for years. She might have got, for example, two Alton Towers tickets worth £60 but they still cost her £15.

So just once, as far as you know, she decided to use the vouchers to treat her – again, it still cost her £15.

If you think she still has plenty of Days Out vouchers to hand (which was probably her reasoning for spending the Clubcard vouchers on herself for once), why not ask her does she need the vouchers this time as there’s some clothes you’d like to get for herself. If you’ve always handed them over to her she probably doesn’t realise that sometimes you’d like to keep them.

No I agree, she has paid me for them and I confess I was a bit miffed though that she had then doubled them up and spent them on herself. As I said, I'm guilty of assumption here and simply assuming that the tokens were going towards theme parks as they always did.
I do think you are right, I've handed them over for so many years it's just become expected I imagine and I've never said anything.

I don't shop at Tesco so I think she also assumes I have no use for them. The only reason I get so many is OH travels a lot with work so they are all from fuel.

peachyprice

Kili wrote: »

No I agree, she has paid me for them and I confess I was a bit miffed though that she had then doubled them up and spent them on herself. As I said, I'm guilty of assumption here and simply assuming that the tokens were going towards theme parks as they always did.
I do think you are right, I've handed them over for so many years it's just become expected I imagine and I've never said anything.

I don't shop at Tesco so I think she also assumes I have no use for them. The only reason I get so many is OH travels a lot with work so they are all from fuel.

I don't understand what you're miffed about.

You've sold her your £15 CC voucher, for £15, not just 'given' them over, so you now have an extra £15 you could spend on clothes. I too would be miffed if I were you and I'd given them to her for nought, but you didn't, you sold them to her for their value in cash.

Or am I missing something?

flutterby_lil

peachyprice wrote: »

I don't understand what you're miffed about.

You've sold her your £15 CC voucher, for £15, not just 'given' them over, so you now have an extra £15 you could spend on clothes. I too would be miffed if I were you and I'd given them to her for nought, but you didn't, you sold them to her for their value in cash.

Or am I missing something?

I think you are missing that tesco vouchers can be doubled up in store.....so the OP could have had £30 worth of clothes had she not sold them to her MIL...

Kili

flutterby_lil wrote: »

I think you are missing that tesco vouchers can be doubled up in store.....so the OP could have had £30 worth of clothes had she not sold them to her MIL...

Thats exactly it, thank you.

Yes, I was miffed because I'd let her have them at face value when I could have used £30 worth of clothes myself. I thought I was putting into the 'days out' pot for everyone to use.

peachyprice

So all you got was £15 to spend anywhere you want when you could have had £30 to spend in tesco, where you don't shop.

I see now.