Real-life MMD: I got £400 for finding someone a job, should I give them half?

Mojisola

Spreadalittlehappinessnow wrote: »

You referred her for the job with the incentive that you would get £400 if she actually got it.

Exactly - the referrer would get £400, not that £400 would be shared between the referrer and the new employee.

Surfer

What happens to the referral fee if the friend leaves after only a few months there? Do you have to repay it and if you split, will she give you back the 50%? IMHO you should keep it all because if it wasn't for you, she would not have a job paying the higher amount.

dottydoglover

she should be thankful you helped her get the job in the current economic climate.She sounds rather a selfish friend?
Keep the money you've done her a big enough favour.

punished_saver

If you've been paid the referral bonus, and you do decide to share it, knock off 25+% as you've paid tax on it, so will only see about £300!

BTW I did refer somebody for a job, and agreed beforehand to split the bonus. I knocked off the tax first though! Both happy.

kerri_dfw

don't forget you'll taxed and NI on the £400 as well so it's actually less.than £350

bargainbin

It is a referral fee it should not be split. The same would apply if your friend was to make a referral. What happens if the friend leaves after only a short period in the job? Personally I think your friend is being greedy. I have been in a similar position where someone has referred me for something where they gain, it never crossed my mind that I should get half or even part of their fee. Like others have said perhaps you could treat your friend when you next go out for a meal or to a show.
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iclayt

No of course you shouldn't split it. The only reason it's occured to you to ask whether or not you should is because she's put you in an awkward position, and you now risk upsetting her, and if there's one thing that makes us all fret and worry even more than money, it's the risk of upsetting someone!

Don't part with £200 out of guilt and awkwardness. Keep it, and say "I'm really sorry, but it's my referral fee for suggesting you'd be best for a job, and I'm not sure why you assumed we would split it... But maybe you could earn one too - I'm happy to help you with the process of referring anyone else you know, if you ever need a hand!"

Times are hard, but she's going to feel the benefit of that pay rise a lot more in the long run than she'll appreciate your £200.

mariannelafrance

While in retrospect it would have been better to agree on what you would do if she was indeed hired and you got the bonus, I think for the sake of your friendship, your reputation at work and your karma, in this case it might be better to split it evenly. After all, it was her who did the hard work in preparing an application packet, preparing for the interview, and being overall good enough for the job! So without her, there would be no £400 to split...

You'll feel better for it in the end!

joegw

Share it! Without them putting in hard work to get the job you would have nothing or put the money towards a night out to celebrate!

ClassyChick29

It's a shame that she seems to have made the assumption that the money would be split, by what I read from the information.
It just puts you in a difficult position.
Personally I would explain that the money was supposed to be an incentive to recommend a reliable friend, show her the information, then suggest that if she wanted £400 then she should recommend someone else.
I am sure that she didn't just take he job so that she could share the money, and she has also benefited from getting a job.
The key is to be polite but be firm. Even help suggest who she could recommend in order for her to get the£400 reward. It maybe that you would have to make it clear from the beginning that on the next recommendation she has all the money to herself. If she is a friend, I am sure she will understand.