Real-life MMD: I got £400 for finding someone a job, should I give them half?

Ravenshade

crystal_clear wrote: »

I am not a mean or spiteful person and would rather give than take. But on this occassion I do think splitting will only cause upset in the future, and reason being ....

If you split with friend now 50/50 or 75/25 next week your friend is in the same position as you where by they refer one of there friends and then you expect a share in return but also the same applies to there friend they refered and now your friend is starting to get resentfull at the fact they have now 2 way splits turned into 3 way splits and it spirals from there.

So to save any future arguments I would kindly point out the pitfalls involved in any split and encourage the friend to take the bull by the horns and recommend there own friends at £400 bonus a time that they can freely keep going forward.

In todays climate your friend is already on a winner not only do they have a job but it pays 300 pcm more and the option to refer further people and gain bonuses of 400 a time in the process ........ Keep your bonus and enjoy it to the fullest

crystal clear

Nah, this would be solved, by Op splits money with friend. If a friend refers acquaintance then friend and acquaintance should split the money. The op has nothing to do with further transactions.

Brian_Steele

"If someone you refer gets a job, YOU receive £400"

It's commission for you for helping your employer AND your friend is better off anyway. Firstly there is a salary increase, but clearly she would not have taken the job if it wasn't in her interest in the first place.

True, she then won't do the same for you, and while £400 is a lot of money you don't want to lose a good friend, but it doesn't take much rationale to see that the money is yours and not a shared bounty.

Brian_Steele

Sorry for double posting.

Just saw someone suggesting it might be taxable. Suggestion schemes are not taxable and I imagine that this would come under the same umbrella.

Also, maybe take her out for a great meal or a night on the town for friendship's sake, but it's still your money at the end of the day.

PS - I normally consider myself a very fair person in matters such as this, so it is a strong feeling that makes me say "keep the cash".

SJ_Jones

I'm curious.... all the people saying "you're only a good friend if you split it", if this was written from the friend (ie I got a job and my friend got a referral bonus but won't split it with me), what advice would you give them?? Think from both sides...

TigerTiger_2

Split the money without question. Is it really worth damaging a long-term friendship and being talked about behind your back?

Mojisola

TigerTiger wrote: »

Split the money without question. Is it really worth damaging a long-term friendship and being talked about behind your back?

Is it worth damaging a friendship by asking your friend to split the referral fee?

marmiterulesok

I'm wondering why she expects to get half.Had you discussed splitting this money before?Presumably she knows of this scheme?

My personal option is that the money is yours btw.She has got a job out of it,surely that's enough?If someone put a word in for me,which led to me getting a job,that would be just wonderful and I wouldn't dream of asking for half the money.

bogwart

No, it's your employer's scheme designed for you to attract new employees and she's already making a decent improvement in her income.

And to all those people who bang on about "how much you value your friendship", who makes friends on the basis of financial value?

By all means pay for a nice dinner somewhere, if you feel like it, but you should not in any way feel obligated to share your windfall with your friend. You both gained, leave it at that.

robynprincess

It's very strange to read this as something similar happened with us, hubby's dad got him a job working with him and got money for it, we were very very short of cash due to hubby being made redundant, and they are very comfortable, I think the money my father in law received was about 800 and there was no mention of sharing, hubby actually asked his dad if he could share it as we were so behind with bills and it was never mentioned again. This has even 2 years later left me with a bad taste in my mouth. Last year hubby thought there would be a job for my dad with the company and when he told my dad he was putting him forward for it, he also told him that if he got a bonus for it he would split the money with him.
My in laws have been generous with us in other ways though, especially with their time, FIL has help hubby do DIY things around the house that would have cost us loads if we had to call people in to do them.
If it had been me I would split the money with my friend (after tax), you wouldn't have the money without her, she wouldn't have the job without you. Is it worth a nasty feeling within the friendship? All for £200?

onesixfive

why not give her some flowers, and maybe a voucher to her favourite shop/restaurant on payday along with a thankyou card saying how pleased you are she got the job, her payrise, and here's her share of your one-off bonus - how you're looking forward to going out more with her (now she can afford it)then dont mention it again.