Real-life MMD: I got £400 for finding someone a job, should I give them half?

oldtrout

PS so many of these MMDs could be prevented by thinking ahead. Prevention is always better than cure.

crystal_clear

I am not a mean or spiteful person and would rather give than take. But on this occassion I do think splitting will only cause upset in the future, and reason being ....

If you split with friend now 50/50 or 75/25 next week your friend is in the same position as you where by they refer one of there friends and then you expect a share in return but also the same applies to there friend they refered and now your friend is starting to get resentfull at the fact they have now 2 way splits turned into 3 way splits and it spirals from there.

So to save any future arguments I would kindly point out the pitfalls involved in any split and encourage the friend to take the bull by the horns and recommend there own friends at £400 bonus a time that they can freely keep going forward.

In todays climate your friend is already on a winner not only do they have a job but it pays 300 pcm more and the option to refer further people and gain bonuses of 400 a time in the process ........ Keep your bonus and enjoy it to the fullest

crystal clear

telsco

I would only split the money if the ONLY reason she applied for the job was to help you get the referral fee and not the extra £3600 a year she's now going to earn.
This is very unlikely, so don't split it.
She would be quite a selfish person if she expects you to hand over half.

joannie

Hi, unless you agreed to split the money it is yours alone. Tell her she can earn the same if and when she refers someone. You are under no obligation to give her anything and she will not be giving you any of her increased salary I assume.:j

Sambucus_Nigra

Yes, if she splits her wages. Win-win.

chocaholicmanc

If it was discussed beforehand then perhaps it should be split, but if she is only aware of it as she now works at the company and will have seen the scheme details then no. It's a referal fee and it is yours to keep and spend as you see fit. Don't feel guilty about keeping your own money!

pollypenny

Yea gods, no!

She has an extra £300 per month and, presumably, a job she prefers to the one she had previously.

She's already benefited!

robpw2

split the money , or at the very least buy them something to welcome them to the company after all without them you woudlnt have the money

CompChrissy

It's a referral bonus (not a new starter bonus). If the company meant for it to paid to each of you, it would be. End of.

sultryabyss

I've been in the same situation, but it was agreed beforehand to split it. It doesn't take much work from you to refer someone, so it's free money at the end of the day that you wouldn't have had without them. So I'd say split it.