Real-life MMD: I got £400 for finding someone a job, should I give them half?

Talent

Of course not! Tell her to refer someone for her own £400....

Tortle

I think that's fair. tell her of course she can have half of the £400 and give her your bank paying in details so that she can pay you half of her £300 a month wage increase whilst she works at your company.

Lil_Lady

if this person is a good friend and they have landed a better job because you have pointed them in the right direction are they then going to say fairs fair let me split my extra income for a few months to treat you for helping me out ? I don't think so. A good friend also wouldn't be asking for money unless they were in desperate straits. A good friend would be happy that you got a little one off extra pocket money whilst they are better off financially every month.
You have to ask yourself how much you value the friendship and has it perhaps outgrown itself.
In many relationships there are givers and takers , how do you and your friend fall if categorised like this.
With respect I'd say unless you said outright you'd share it if they got the job, to keep your money and kindly with humor point out will they too be sharing their extra income with your as without your referral they wouldn't be that little bit better off .... every month .....

mr-tom_2

Remember that this is £400 before NI and tax, so immediately reduce it to a more modest amount, then make it clear that the remainder is a fraction of the gain that she is being paid every month, and you just get it the once.

It is your money do do as you see fit.

That said, I do always split mine, but that's my money and I do as I see fit.

mumf

keriku wrote: »

Tell her that if she refers someone, she will get the same bonus! After all is she going to give you 1/2 of her extra £300 per month?

I think the above post says it all really.

tallgirld

Noooooo I wouldn't split it. Tell her to refer someone and she will have £400 for HERSELF! ;-)

cuba2008

I can't believe your friend even thinks she's entitled to any of the referral bonus. You get it because basically you've saved your company time and money in either using an agency and paying goodness knows how much in fees or advertising then having to spend man hours trawling through hundreds of applications. Your friend is already a winner, as her monthly/annual salary has increased substantially (£300 pcm is a lot of money). As others have commented, you'll probably have to wait a while for the money anyway since, if she either proves useless at the job or leaves because she's not happy, the company are unlikely to pay out. Even if you get it straight away, it could well be taxed so won't be £400. Either way, you need to explain to your friend that it's your referral fee, that she's not entitled to any of it and that she's already quids in. If she's as money orientated as she sounds, I doubt she'd expect to share if she received a referral fee for finding someone else a job.

japmis

ringo_24601 wrote: »

It's 'free money' - you never did any especial work to get it. Be a nice friend and split it

Absolutely agree with this, you should split the money; without her joining the company you wouldn't have the money at all.

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TBagpuss

Unless there is more to this than set out in the OP I can't imagine why she would think she had the slightest claim to the money. If she had been recruited through an agency, would she be asking them to pay her half their fee?
If she raises it again, I'd be inclined to say to her "[name] I don't understand why you keep referring to my referral bonus as 'ours'. When you first did it I just assumed you were joking. I would, of course, be happy to split my bonus if you're offering to split the extra £300 you're getting every month!" if she argues, I would ask her directly if she would be saying the same to an agency.

The only situation where I'd do something different would be if there was a specific agreement between you, or if there is a culture in the company that everyone always shares.

Ribbitt

I'm so gob-smacked that this question has been asked that I've actually joined the forum.

This money is for the person who put's their reputation on the line by referring someone that they think is suitable for the job and the company. So the company is more likely to employ a suitable candidate.

The person referred has got the new job - let her buy the referrer a drink to thank him!!