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Reggie_Rebel

I do all the washing up and thoroughly clean upstairs in the house once a week. I do most of the shopping and most of the cooking at weekends.

Scary Wife does everything else including all of the moaning

Bufger

Who is this woman? does she need a second husband?!!!

We share everything. Some jobs my wife doesnt like to do so i do them and the other way around (and some i apparently dont do properly...)

At the moment shes on maternity leave so she naturally has the kids during the day. When i get home one of us cooks whilst the other spends time with the kids (depends whos turn). Then we both feed, bath and sort out the kids for bed. Both do a bit of cleaning and then relax! When it comes to rest time we have some nights we'll spend together and some we have as our own rest nights, i'll go to the gym or go on my xbox and she'll watch one born every minute or some other carp i dont want to watch

FatVonD

I leave home at 8.30am and get home at 7pm, DH leaves home at 8/9am and gets home around 3.30/4.30 pm.

DH keeps the house tidy, does hoovering/dusting/clothes washing etc and has a ready meal in the oven by the time I get home.

I do the 'proper' cleaning, food shopping, DIY and cook any from scratch meals at the weekends.

Mr_Toad

I live alone in an apartment in an old Manor house.

I pay a maintenance fee that covers repairs, decorating, external and internal shared hallways. It also pays for gardeners and window cleaners.

I have a 'Doris that does' who cleans and does the laundry. I do my own ironing and shopping.

I work from home and I wouldn't be anywhere else. I'm very comfortable and I really appreciate my life and where I live.

Melaniep101

claire16c wrote: »

Why about trying just stopping doing certain things instead of a full strike? i.e stop doing their washing? As that wont affect you if they have no clean clothes to wear. They obviously know you will crack after a while and it would be hard to stand if you literally stopped cleaning/making anything on a proper strike, I would be the same as I hate a messy house.

When we're both working full time I do the shopping, DH cleans the bathroom. DH does garden related things, I do the hoovering. We both do washing. I do stuff like dusting, DH puts the bins out. I do more tidying up type stuff. DH is useless with leaving bits of rubbish and clothing around the living room so I just put it in a pile on a chair he likes to sit in and then at some point he has to move it.

Thanks Claire, thats a good suggestion. I will try a semi strike this weekend and report back

To be fair - the lazy daughter does her own washing, just need to stop doing the lazy husbands! He'll realise at 11pm on a Sunday night that he has no clean shirts, and it'll all kick off!

moomoomama27

I work part time employed, plus do a voluntary job 2 days a week, my husband works full time. We work around each other as we didn't want our children to go into daycare or be looked after by childminders. So we share all the childcare.

As for housework : We work as a team. I do the housework etc when he's at work, and he does it when I'm at work. We share the evening routine (baths, books with the children) he does all the cooking, I do all the washing and ironing and that's the only 'chores' we have that the other doesn't do!

lostinrates

Dh works fulltime ( plus) and stays near work for the working week.

I work very part time running our micro business, which demands a few hours and time commitment but not as hard as his work. At the weekends or when he is on holiday he does everything and anything he can to for our home and business. He is amazing.

74jax

We both work full time and dd is 14.

OH will do all food shopping, hovering and mopping, bin duties, garden duties, diy.

DD will empty dishwasher and washing machine after school, keeps her room tidy.

If one cooks the other tends to clean up.

I do what's left.

jjj1980

I am a single parent and work part-time so I do all the tasks myself, with a little help from my 3 year old, tidying her toys etc.

When I lived with my ex-husband, I did:

Washing, cooking, cleaning, gardening, diy, decorating, paying bills(all out of my wage with no contribution from him, up until me being made redundant), all feeds, baths nappies etc for our daughter, care for the cat.

He did: taking bins down for emptying. Would cook for himself and leave the kitchen filthy.

Until I was made redundant at 20 weeks pregnant, I worked fulltime, usually more than 40 hours per week. At first he was working 35 hours a week, then went on sick with what he said was vertigo but I found out he was spending hours on he pc at home while I was at work!!

The only thing I didn't do was his ironing, so he used to wear creased clothes as he wouldn't do it himself.

anniemf2508

I do all the cleaning, washing and pretty much all the cooking. The food shopping (online), deal with the kids mostly and do any decorating that needs doing.
At the moment i am home all the time so i kind of feel it is my responsibility, while OH is at University.
He does the DIY and any shopping that needs bringing from out of the house (i have agoraphobia).

Most of the time this arrangement works ok, but then sometimes i feel a bit like i'm not appreciated at all