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abailey54

We don't have any kiddywinks yet so it's fairly simple for us

I do have a thing about bins being the man's job - but I think this is because it was the ONLY thing that the males would do when I lived with parents (generational thing I think)

We play things by ear with the day-to-day stuff, sometimes one of us feels down so the other will do the dishwasher, hoovering etc to take the pressure off the other

Generally though, I tend to do the cooking (because I like doing it), cleaning the bathroom, laundry and anything that needs organising (forms, searching internet, driving (including dropping my DH to work in my lunch time)). DH tends to do more of the day-to-day stuff - it all balances out overall

Jinx

Hubby and I both work full time but Im mon-fri and hes shifts. So we just mosey along, I do most of the hoovering, cleaning bathrooms, beds etc and he does the dishwasher (like someone else I dont do it properly apparently) washing and general tidying up.

Outside he cuts the grass while I clean the windows.

We both put out bins/recycling etc. As hubby doesnt cook ever so often I get taken for dinner (usually when Ive been at work all day and hes home)

meer53

I do everything. On my own, working part time with 2 kids. I don't stress over much, if it doesn't get done, it doesn't get done !

Lifes too short to stress over dusting.

(Oh, just realised i don't do everything, i pay a gardener every other week to cut my grass, nearly an acre, for £10 i think it's worth it !)

aliasojo

Whoever is around whenever 'x' needs done, does it.

There's no your job / my job type of routine.

claire16c

Melaniep101 wrote: »

I work full time (very stressful job, work for an american company so often working in the evenings), leave at 8.30, home at 6. I do all the meal planning, shopping, cooking, clearing up after dinner, washing, cleaning, looking after and feeding the pets, manage the finances, DIY/plan the refurb of the house.

Husband leaves at 7.30am and gets home just after 7pm - he irons his own shirts (which he moans about all of the time), occasionally cleans the bathroom, sometimes buys shopping, but only when his son is coming to visit.

I regularly throw my toys out of the pram given that I work full time, my financial contribution is the same, yet I get no help. Also have an incredibly lazy 18 year old daughter that won't lift a finger.

I've gone on strike on a number of occassions but they let it get so bad and I can't stand it any longer!

Why about trying just stopping doing certain things instead of a full strike? i.e stop doing their washing? As that wont affect you if they have no clean clothes to wear. They obviously know you will crack after a while and it would be hard to stand if you literally stopped cleaning/making anything on a proper strike, I would be the same as I hate a messy house.

When we're both working full time I do the shopping, DH cleans the bathroom. DH does garden related things, I do the hoovering. We both do washing. I do stuff like dusting, DH puts the bins out. I do more tidying up type stuff. DH is useless with leaving bits of rubbish and clothing around the living room so I just put it in a pile on a chair he likes to sit in and then at some point he has to move it.

CrazyRed

Slightly different in our house, as I'm a f/t carer to my missus who's none too well.

Me : Shopping, bill paying, gardening, take/fetch kids, become 'Dad's taxi' some evenings for 15yo DSS, cook, meal plan, spend some time doing voluntary driving (Social Car scheme), household DIY, tidying house, vacuuming, clean fishtank, feed dogs, unload dishwasher, majority of housework. Also spend one day a week up at her mother's pottering round there doing general maintenance and DIY to help her out.

My OH : Washing (she has her routines and doesn't like them being disturbed), feeds the birds, showers the youngest, puts her to bed and loads the dishwasher.

DSS : Walks dogs (when prompted and reminded - he has autism so needs regular prompting).

DD: Cleans out and feeds hamster.....

HariboJunkie

My OH is self employed and works 12-14 hour days 6 days a week. I work about 12 hours a week for our business and am completely flexible about when I do it. I also have 4 voluntary positions which take a few hours a week.

As a result I do all housework, laundry, cooking, shopping and gardening, everything to do with the kids and school and all the household and business finances.

He works damn hard to provide for us and the only thing I expect him to do are anything that involves heavy lifting. He does loads of DIY and maintainance round the house and garden and will help me clean and hoover when we have guests coming.

When I worked full time we divided the labour fairly equally but he didn't meet my exacting standards of housework so I probably did more than him.

It works for us.

Edited to add... My daughters (pre teens) also pull their weight and take turns to walk the dog, empty the dishwasher and set and clear the table every day. Weekly they hoover their rooms and put away their laundry. All this is in return for their pocket money and any extra chores will be rewarded with extra money or a magazine.

Worriedstepmum

My partner has Asperger's and currently can't work or do very much at all really.

I work full time and pay all the household expenses. I also do every scrap of housework/cooking/cleaning/washing, etc.

It's exhausting to be honest.

moonbabe58

I think we have a fairly equal division in our household, we both work 40+ hours a week and have no kids at the moment which makes things easier!

I work 8am-5pm and OH works 9am-5.30pm and occasionally works from home in the evening.

OH 'duties' include walking the dog in the morning, hoovering/washing floors, doing the washing up, majority of the DIY and house maintenance, mowing the lawn, doing the heavy duty gardening, managing the household bills.

My 'duties' include all of the cooking, laundry including putting it all away, food shopping, meal planning, sorting Christmas and birthday gifts/cards, general cleaning around the house before OH gets home from work.

We tend to share things like bins, loading/unloading dishwasher, cleaning bathrooms etc and each do them when it is needed/the other person is busy.

thehappybutterfly

My hubby and I both work full time, son works part-time and daughter is in Year 11.

I do the school runs, the majority of the food shopping, all the cleaning, the household accounts, the washing, and stripping and remaking the bed. I'm quite anal about this - woe betide if my pillows get mixed up with hubby's or if the duvet gets put in the cover the wrong way round. I've actually got the corners of the duvet mark T/R and B/L

Hubby makes the bed in the morning, puts the bins out, brings them back in, makes me a coffee when I get in from work, all the gardening (apart from the butchering - I do that!), looks after the cars, chops the wood and lights the stove. He also helps with the really heavy cleaning like the windows and when the bathroom walls and ceiling need de-moulded.

Son does the cooking most nights and all the dishes (we don't have a dishwasher), feeds the cats, cleans their litter tray. He also some daily shopping - milk, bread etc.

Daughter does the hoovering 'once a week'. And that's it. She's a lazy little besom. The way she says it, she's a slave.

We all make our own breakfasts, do our own ironing and tidy our own rooms and the kids are responsible for making sure their dirty washing is in the basket.

Really must sort out my daughter