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nfollows1982

Afternoon everyone,

Just a nosey thread to find out what the dynamic is in your household when it comes to things like cooking, cleaning, kids, free time etc etc.

Do you and your partner work together as a team or are there some of you who have the 'me man, you woman' household with the bloke sat around doing nothing whilst the woman of the house tends to their every need?

I'm only interested as it was something that came up in the office and the general consensus here was that everything was done as a team and the burden shared.

However, there is one woman in the office who works full time and then goes home and does everything, whilst her BF (and I quote) 'sits on the laptop from 6 til bedtime with a bottle of lager and gambles online' and the weekends are 'him watching football all weekend because he works and needs to relax'.

Bearing in mind that this woman has 2 young kids (not his) so it's not like it's just the 2 of them.

She even said she shaves him, gives him foot massages and leaves the toilet seat up when she goes to bed as he needs to pee in the night cos he drinks, and it saves him a job!

My OH just laughed hysterically when I told her.

I know it's each to their own etc and we are all different but sounds a bit OTT to me.

Anyway, over to you....................................

floss2

I do the shopping, most of the ironing, most of the washing, most of the cleaning & most of the washing up. Cooking is shared when he's around -but as he works away from home up to 5 nights a week, that's not often!

Gra76

I do all the DIY that needs doing around the house as well as the decorating. I help clean up the place too. I keep the cars washed and looked after too.

My wife does the shopping (she won't let me go with her cos I fill the trolley with stuff we don't need apparantly) and she also does the majority of the cooking and getting the kids sorted out. She does most of the cleaning but I do help out a bit with that too.

I'm quite happy with that arrangement!

skintchick

In our house, when I'm not recovering from major surgery like I am currently, it goes like this:

Me, working very part time, no more than 6 hours a week, full-time carer of 3yo DD, who is at preschool 9-3 two days and 11.30-3 one day. Also volunteer at breastfeeding drop-in clinic one morning a week (with DD) and run a mums and toddlers group one morning (also with DD).

OH, working full-time.

OH does: putting out bins, mowing lawn once in a blue moon, some hoovering, occasional putting on of washing, cleans something if specifically asked, washing up as long as regularly reminded that that is his job, changes beds, makes ALL cups of tea.

I do everything else. All cooking, cleaning, tidying, clearing up of stuff Oh is supposed to have but hasn't, shopping, cleaning of things OH doesn't even realise need cleaning, send birthday cards, buy birthday presents, organise household diary, make DD's packed lunch, plus whatever else I've forgotten.

It doesn;t feel very fair to me but I guess most SAHMs feel like that.

Frith

I do everything! Bigger son quite likes washing up and will hoover. Smaller son loves cooking and putting the stuff in the breadmaker and washing the car.

Saint_Chris

I do most of it, but i have a lovely hubby who will do stuff.

He cooks a lot of the time during the week, when he's come in from work, he will do the dishes, and does put laundry in, when needed. If he thinks that the kitchen floor needs sweeping he will do it.

But i do the bigger things like pull the sofa out and clean the skirtings, i clean the bathroom and do all of the ironing. I do the big shop, but every couple of weeks he will come with me.

It works really well for us.

shiny76

She cleans the bathroom/toilets and does the laundry, I do the rest. But then I tend to get home a lot sooner than her, despite us both working full-time. Means we get more 'quality' time together!

ciderwithrosie_2

skintchick wrote: »

It doesn;t feel very fair to me but I guess most SAHMs feel like that.

Ahhhh, so that's why I feel so resentful. I've been doing all that for years with 3 kids, working full-time and no transport. :mad:

stir_crazy

I do pretty much everything as OH is away a LOT, sometimes for weeks. So I get into a routine and get annoyed if he b&^%ers it up! When he is home OH cooks and does a bit round the house (when I let him), and does any DIY I can't do.

balletshoes

stir_crazy wrote: »

I do pretty much everything as OH is away a LOT, sometimes for weeks. So I get into a routine and get annoyed if he b&^%ers it up! When he is home OH cooks and does a bit round the house (when I let him), and does any DIY I can't do.

yes, similar here - except the DIY I can't do, because he's even worse than me on that score!

ilikewatch

Me: work full time Mon - Fri. leave the house at 06:30, normally home before 17:00 but probably have to stay away overnight 5-6 nights a month. I rarely bring work home with me.

I do all the cooking, shopping, washing and take washing to the lauderette to dry, in addition to doing all the standard "man jobs" (DIY, garden, car maintenance etc.)

My wife: Works full time as a teacher, leaves the house at 07:30 normally gets home about 18:00, but probably does an average of 2 hours a night work at home and spends one full day at the weekend working.

My wife does all the ironing, and most of the cleaning, although I always clean the kitchen.