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big5

My husband works full time, I don't. He still does a lot around the house, including most of the cooking (he enjoys cooking, I don't really). I'm pregnant at the moment, so he's taken over some of the jobs I'd normally do, like putting the bins out and carrying the vacuum up and down stairs for me (would be nice if he thought to plug it in and use it too, but I'm still capable of that atm and shouldn't complain really ). We do the shopping together, and things like gardening, decorating and DIY are usually joint efforts (although I obviously can't be climbing ladders and stuff just now).

Mojisola

nfollows1982 wrote: »

However, there is one woman in the office who works full time and then goes home and does everything, whilst her BF (and I quote) 'sits on the laptop from 6 til bedtime with a bottle of lager and gambles online' and the weekends are 'him watching football all weekend because he works and needs to relax'.

Bearing in mind that this woman has 2 young kids (not his) so it's not like it's just the 2 of them.

She even said she shaves him, gives him foot massages and leaves the toilet seat up when she goes to bed as he needs to pee in the night cos he drinks, and it saves him a job!

No, she has three children and one of them is never going to grow up!

fashionlover10

I do most things in our house. I only work weekends so I usually fill the week with shopping, tidying, cleaning, washing, admin related tasks, cooking etc. I also make OHs lunches as I know he'd spend stupid amounts of money on food at work otherwise!

OH goes to work full time, does any DIY bits I can't do, maintains the car, will wash up occasionally and is surprising good at scrubbing the loo.

I don't mind how things are in our house, I find if I keep on top of the housework it doesn't take that long to get it looking nice. I enjoy having a nice house and doing the cooking so it works for us.

I have been told though that he's cooking tonight as I'm not well :T

Tropez

Normally (though not currently as partner is working abroad for a few more months...)

I pay for a housekeeper to deal with the cleaning, laundry and changing bed linen.

I do the cooking as she gets in late.

I do the shopping online. If we're short on anything before the next delivery then she will pick it up on her way home from work.

She takes the bins out for collection on her way out of the house on collection day and brings them back in on her way back in.

I pay for a gardener to sort that out.

I walk the dogs.

No kids, so nothing to do there.

She handles buying (and remembering) birthday presents, Christmas presents and the like.

heartbreak_star

We both work Mon-Fri 9-5 and I spend Saturday mornings giving my Mum a hand at hers (she's only really got me).

I take care of cooking, dishes, bathroom and kitchen cleaning, and chucking out all the stuff he hoards

He takes care of hoovering, bins, tidying up, and gardening.

We share pet duties, random DIY, dusting, bed linens and car stuff.

HBS x

Carer

We both work from home.

He does all the shopping, cooking and anything DIY related. Fortunately teenagers won't eat my cooking, they accuse me of trying to poison them!

I do all the laundry and cleaning and deal with bills, paperwork, financial stuff, teenager issues (usually several disasters a week as both have problems). Hubby tends to evaporate when they are having a crisis!

We share most other stuff like stacking and unloading dishwasher, caring for the animals, gardening, putting out bins and stuff - whoever isn't busy when it needs doing just gets on with it.

zaxdog

We both work full time but I'm a lark and OH is a night owl so this is how we roll :j:

Me: up at 6am(ish) and make OH a flask of coffee and a thermal mug of coffee and me some tea. Take flask and bottle of water to OH's office (works from home) :rotfl: and leave thermal mug beside the bed. Have brekkie and head to work! Sometimes start dinner in the slow cooker.

OH: Lunchtime and after work does all hoovering, laundry, cleaning, scrubbing of loos etc

Me: Home at 5.15pm, make the next day's lunches and set out clothes for the morning. Late evening OH runs me a bath, switches on the electric blanket and brings me supper in bed :j

We share the cooking and washing up!

He walks the mad dog though :eek:

Melaniep101

I work full time (very stressful job, work for an american company so often working in the evenings), leave at 8.30, home at 6. I do all the meal planning, shopping, cooking, clearing up after dinner, washing, cleaning, looking after and feeding the pets, manage the finances, DIY/plan the refurb of the house.

Husband leaves at 7.30am and gets home just after 7pm - he irons his own shirts (which he moans about all of the time), occasionally cleans the bathroom, sometimes buys shopping, but only when his son is coming to visit.

I regularly throw my toys out of the pram given that I work full time, my financial contribution is the same, yet I get no help. Also have an incredibly lazy 18 year old daughter that won't lift a finger.

I've gone on strike on a number of occassions but they let it get so bad and I can't stand it any longer!

guruchelles

Me: SAHM, three children, two at school age. I volunteer twice a week at breastfeeding support groups, plus do quite a bit of admin/organising in between.

DH: Works full time. Usually office hours but sometimes does night shifts and works away from home about 20% of the time.

Shopping: I do most of the shopping by ordering it online, but DH will do this every so often or go to the supermarket. He also picks up top up shops on the way home some days, but we've been trying to cut down on this and be more organised to save money.

Everyday housework: I probably do about 70% of the washing and washing up. He empties and fills the dishwasher more than I do. He does the bins. I tend to clean the bathroom, unless he gives it a wipe while he's running me a bath. We tend to share the hovering and ironing. I do light polishing/wiping up, but he'll do anything really dusty because I have a dust allergy.

Childcare: He usually takes the boys to their clubs. We both help with homework. While he's home we share things like changing nappies. I put our youngest to bed 100% if the time because he breastfeeds. If he wakes at night I'll give him a feed and if that doesn't work DH will get up and take him off for a cuddle so I can get some sleep.

Cooking: I tend to do most of the cooking. That's mainly because I'm too controlling about it; he potters around and does other housework while I'm cooking usually.

Household Admin: I do almost all of this these days. There was a point where neither of us were really taking responsibility for banking (hence debts) so I do all of that now. I open all his letters and have access to all his online CC and bank accounts. He says he prefers it this way. I also manage our rental property and deal with any other paperwork that needs to be done.

Overall, when my DH is away I obviously do everything. When he is home he views any housework or childcare jobs as being joint responsibility. He'd never sit down with his feet up while I was houseworking, and I'd not do that either. We tend to both sit down together and chill at about 8pm when all the children are in bed.

maman

Both retired now:D but we both worked full time so nothing's really changed on the domestic front.

Me: shopping, cooking supper, laundry, cleaning bathrooms, paying bills, remembering birthdays!
DH: cleaning, cooking breakfast (and serving it to me in bed), bins, loading dishwasher (cos I don't do it properly), DIY, gardening (in season).

ilikewatch wrote: »

My wife: Works full time as a teacher, leaves the house at 07:30 normally gets home about 18:00, but probably does an average of 2 hours a night work at home and spends one full day at the weekend working.

My wife does all the ironing, and most of the cleaning, although I always clean the kitchen.

Just as an aside, I was watching the last episode of Midsummer Murders last night (sad I know:o) and noticed that Barnaby's wife leaves home at 8.15 to go to work and she's meant to be the Head of a secondary school!:rotfl: