Worried I'm going to fall off the DFW wagon.... :(

earwig

hi ia
this could be the start of what happened with my ds he was fairly happy untill he got to 11 weeks then he just cryed the whole time only stopping to feed and sleep at the begining he would calm down if i was holding him but after a week or so even that didnt work he cryed in the car in his buggy and beenig held it was unbearable the health vister saw him crying and said to take him stright to the doctour but they could find nothing wrong when ds got to 16 weeks i took him back to the doctor and the doctor told me to start feeding him i tell he shut up stright away he wasnt crying because he was ill it was because he was hungary i wish i didnt listen to the health vister and put him on the milk for hungary babys and mybe then we wouldnt of had weeks of constant crying

prophecy_grrl

Hi IA

I just want to echo what others have said before me - you're a legend, and an inspiration. I've just started budgetting in the last few weeks - payday was yesterday, and I've started my 'Immoral_Angel May Budget Challenge' using your budget system.

You really are amazing - I struggle to cope with the debt and it's just me and DH. Please post and let us know you're ok x

smashedbooboo

Sorry hun, Cant offer much advice on the children, as i dont have any myself. But just wanted to send you a great big hun chick. And remember, you dont have to be superwoman all the time you know. And every now again you are allowed !!!!!! days. I have had a few myseld this last week. And the stuff you have bought have been a need not a want. Please dont beat yourself up about it. love ya lots chick. Take care xxxxxxxx

Headintheclouds_3

Hi there I_A

I agree with t'other posters - stop worrying about the £60; buy what you need to keep the wee one content then sit down and budget how you can pay yourself back over a few weeks. I fell off the wagon recently (albeit with new clothes rather than stuff for my family!) and was inconsolable for a few days, but eventually I got it into perspective and divvied the debt up over a few months to pay back.

xx

LookingAhead

Hello I_A.

Just wanted to pop in and offer, along with the rest, a few words of support.

I can't say much about the P.N.D or the fight with Steve as I know nothing about the former and the latter...well...only you know the best approach with your DH and I am sure things will settle down. I can't think of much that would make people more irritable than a baby crying and causing lack of sleep so snappishness is probably inevitable.

What I would like to say though is please don't think that by spending that £60 on helpful items that you are falling off the wagon.

When I read the title of the thread then read what you had bought I found myself thinking "Don't blame you love! I would have bought the same!"

You're doing so so well. Just step back and look at your progress. You don't want to blow all that on frivolities of course you don't...however things that will make life easier and more helpful with the children, that's just sensible in my eyes. And as a previous poster said....you can sell one of those things on EBAY later which is a good thing!

Take heart and please don't let this get you down.

LA xxx

art_student

Hi IA, just wanted to echo what others have said, don't worry about the £60 - it's not like you blew it on nothing.
I hope that K sleeps better tonight and you get some rest.
Take care of yourself, you have been working so hard with your kids and finances, you really are an inspiration to so many people.

postingalwaysposting

ia your spending is not out of control and its for your kidlets... i see no wrong done here you have battled down loads of debt and havent given yourself a break, the next two are the biggies but please rest first have a month when you just do the minanums and live a little they will still be there, i cant help with k as i have no children but please if you carry on you will run yourself into the ground

Little_Miss_Winner

Hi IA, just wondering how you are this evening?

chunky79

Hi IA

Just popping in to see if your feeling a little happier now. I hope just getting it out on here has made it clearer in your mind and that you have foudn peace again.

I would like to echo what lynzpower has said, after my last baby (6months ago)he is my 4th, i did not think for a minute i would struggle and tbh this is the first time i have ever admitted it too. (I have only just realised i have been struggling too). I spent the whole 9 months so excited my baby arrived i felt ok the first few weeks , and upto about a month ago i felt like i didn't want to go out, anything was just a huge task. I now make a point of getting out for an hour a day maybe just walking, the housework will be there later so don't worry about it. Just stick to getting the basics done, baby bottles etc... go out blow off the cobwebs and start your day with a clear mind. It really has helped me. xx

System

Hi I-A, I dont give out many hugs, but here's one for you all:grouphug: I remember us feeling quite desperate when Baby Jack had lulled us into a false sense of security when he reverted back to his normal line up and we were quite vexed. We bought things to try and improve things. Dont want to encourage you to fall off the wagon but sometimes youve got to take a step back to go forward. Don't sleep on your fallouts, try and talk about it (I know you know this). Lennyxx