Worried I'm going to fall off the DFW wagon.... :(

mrsspendalot

Snaggles wrote: »

You would think so, if you listened to my husband :rolleyes:

Even my Mum and Dad said the other day 'if you think you might be going into labour please will you ring us as soon as possible, so we can arrange NOT to have a drink'.

How inconvenient for them to have to stay off the alcohol in case they want to visit their daughter and her new baby......

my mum used to phone as well and say 'any twinges today? am i safe to have a drink?'

Snaggles

mrsspendalot, your hubby sounds fab! Mine loved being involved with DS but he's not good if he doesn't get his full 8 hours lol.

He's good at winding though, which I am terrible at.

Spendless

Snaggles wrote: »

You would think so, if you listened to my husband :rolleyes:

Even my Mum and Dad said the other day 'if you think you might be going into labour please will you ring us as soon as possible, so we can arrange NOT to have a drink'.

How inconvenient for them to have to stay off the alcohol in case they want to visit their daughter and her new baby......

You mean you're not going into labour on a Saturday morning, just so you don't inconvenience people ... what's the matter with you;) . I did have my eldest on a Saturday and it must have put everyone under a false illusion cos with my youngest my IL's went away on her due date. I was booked in for a section the day after but she decided to make an on time appearance leaving us with no childcare for the eldest. It was too early in the morning to even ring my sons day nursery and ask if they had a spare place. Fortunately my (now ex) BIL stepped in.

GingerSte

Hi Sarah,

I'm sorry to hear your suffering at the moment. I can't say I know how you feel as I've never gone through it myself (plus I'm a bloke ). What I can say is I do feel for you and I'm sure it will pass with time.

As for the sixty quid, don't worry about it. As many have said, it is a blip, and you caught it in plenty of time. We all feel as though it's not worth it and you might aswell splurge, but that's what this site is for. A good bit of encouragement to halp with your resolve (and a bit of smut on a saturday night!)

Regards,

GingerSte.

tesuhoha

Hi IA

I think maybe you should put things into perspective a little. So you spent £60 on things the kids need. Well, this is what parenthood is all about. To be a good parent you have to provide for them. Looking at your debt, I know its a lot to you but you are both young and you will pay it off before very long even if you have a hiccup or two. So dont give up. This is an ideal time to pay off your debts as your children are still quite small and they are relatively inexpensive. Dont make the mistake of spending a lot on them now as they will need more in the future (Sorry I supposed to be cheering you up) but what Im saying is, keep trying because now is the best time but if the kids need something unexpected then dont be fazed by it because its what happens.

I wont offer any advice about your baby as you have lots of excellent replies already but you do seem very good parents to me.

chunky79

Hi Sarah

Just want to send you big hugs.

Its hard work having a baby, with pnd and a hubby thats not helping much.
The money you spent isn't that bad, they are things you will use too so not really unescessary either.Its easy to buy on impulse when your feeling stressed as i know i do this.

As for your little one, how old is she. Is it just waking in the night your having problems with, is she being quite happy and content through the day. I had a problem baby and the only time he settled was when i carried him around in a sling.

If your little one is only just becoming not so contented have you tried to up her formula by an ounce a feed. Also have you started to wean yet??

Chin up missus x

beemuzed

Snaggles - definitely not - just righting the imbalance caused by Mother Nature!!!
Sarah - hope by now you realise that everyone here knows you're just as DFW as before! Hope you're feeling a bit brighter by now!

mrsmortenharket

(((hugs)))

Men can be insensitive idiots, mine is!

Don't worry bout the £60, it was money well spent.

I have suffered with depression (PND) & other 'mental' (!) stuff.

Feel free to PM me anytime.

If you ever want to talk you can have my phone number

lots of love Lisa xxx

SarahNeedle1872

Hi IA,

Cant really say anything tha hasn't already been said, just wanted to say that ur not alone. It is hard trying to look after a baby when it feels like ur doing it all one ur own. My babe is 11 weeks old, and at the minute it really feels like my OH has lost interest. I warned him before I gave up work that things were gonna be very tight in the three months before I returned to work, and at the time he was cool, but things turned out just as expected!
He has spent the last 3 hours sulking at me because I wouldn't let him buy a new mobile phone (£300 we can't afford at the best of times!) and moaning about how we've got no money, while I'm ferociously trying to sell anything to make money before our 0% runs out - I even tried listing my soul on eBay, no takers as yet! Thankfully he goes back to work tomorrow night - he works permanent nights, and I wouldn't swap it for the world!

Don't worry about the £60, in the grand scheme of things it's nothing. Go back and read ur diary and see how far you have come already...
Dig deep IA, from what I've read, ur a stronger person than u feel at the minute

Take care, love and hugs

Sarah x

lynzpower

Hi IA
As you know I dont have kids yet, but I worked as a social worker for many years, working with many parents who had PND. One thing I would suggest is trying to fix up your routine a little, especially with the weather better, and trying to get out more. I would suggest at least once a day, if nothing else a run round the block if not a walk out to the ducks, park, play out of the house. I have been ill las tyear ( who remembers that nightmare!) and TBH in retrospect i dont think spending tooooo much time on here and in the house in general does anyone any good. Of course no one is recommending spending money you dont have on days out etc, but just creating a bit of time out of the house will do YOU and thus your littlies the world of good. I do find that spending a lot of time thinking about debts & money can limit your horizons, ( they did with me) and you end up really kicking yourself for a minor slip. 60 quid as others have said isnt a great deal -youll make it back- lets face it the littlie will be growing out of some of her clothes soon enough adn time for some ebaying of them, so you'll make it back , you know you will

Have you spoken to your health visitor about this? In some areas there are specilist PND play and support groups and it is certainly worth looking into these - in my expereince they have been a great help to mums.

Also, dare I say it you might be setting yourself up to fail a bit with the different meals every day, as you say yourself you are not that confident a cook, why not try one or 2 new dishes a week instead of 7? 7 have more chance of going wrong, and you will inevitably feel like Mrs rubbish if thats your emotional state at the mo.

I would also say that Steve is your support, and he needs to be understanding how you are feeling. I agree with others real conversations and closeness with him weill help so build some bridges, and reach out for the support you need.

Hugs
lynzx