Independent education?

TimBear

FBaby wrote: »

So why are you so certain that would be giving them the best chance? What if your child is very bright, but unlike you is very determined and focus? Maybe they would be capable of doing just as well at comp just like some of your friends did?

Absolutely agree, everyone is different and there would be no way of knowing how any children I may have will be. I'm not 'certain' that either option would be giving anyone the best chance.

All I know is that if I had the means to send m future child(ren) to a private school then I would.

pelirocco

It seems a bit daft to be arguing over education for a hypothetical child

How long have you been with your partner OP?

SuzieSue

pelirocco wrote: »

It seems a bit daft to be arguing over education for a hypothetical child

How long have you been with your partner OP?

Why is it daft? A child's education is the most important part of its life and it is sensible to start thinking about it when you start thinking about having children.

Mojisola

pelirocco wrote: »

It seems a bit daft to be arguing over education for a hypothetical child

SuzieSue wrote: »

Why is it daft? A child's education is the most important part of its life and it is sensible to start thinking about it when you start thinking about having children.

Thinking about it might be sensible - and unavoidable if the "grandparents" are bringing the subject up - but there's no point arguing about it.

A school has to be chosen to fit the child and a school that's good now might not be by the time the child is old enough to go to it. Even if it's a good school, it might not be right for the child.

GlasweJen - keep all your options open until nearer the time. There's no need to agree or to argue about the issue.

Good luck with the baby plans!:j

poet123

I think that is is nice that they have offered to pay for private schooling, but I do think that the fact that they expect/want to stipulate which one should ring alarm bells. If they are like this now before any sign of a child what will they be like when you actually have one?

pelirocco

SuzieSue wrote: »

Why is it daft? A child's education is the most important part of its life and it is sensible to start thinking about it when you start thinking about having children.

Not really no one can predict the future , and even starting to think about pregnancy today will mean schooling is a long way off

given the OP's health problems and being told she may have problems conceiving it seems silly expending so much emotional energy that could and should ? be invested in a relationship that i believe is just in its early days

Person_one

SuzieSue wrote: »

Why is it daft? A child's education is the most important part of its life and it is sensible to start thinking about it when you start thinking about having children.

The most important part of its life? Are you sure? I'd say the time a child spends with their immediate family is far more formative.

heartbreak_star

It's a mix of both. I was a very bright kid but never wanted private school, and my parents were happy to leave me be when I was happy and productive.

Most of my formative experiences were those from family (learning to be an only child and how to deal with adults) and from friends at out-of-school clubs rather than those at school. I credit being an only child for the fact I never felt the need to be in a clique.

OP, my advice would be see how your child develops coming up to nursery age, and ALWAYS keep communication open. I felt able to talk to one or both of my parents about anything - and if I really hated my school, they would have taken steps to mitigate it or move me.

(I did have a tutor for an hour a week at A-level, but I'd have struggled with organic chemistry whether state or private educated!)

HBS x

SuzieSue

Person_one wrote: »

The most important part of its life? Are you sure? I'd say the time a child spends with their immediate family is far more formative.

To quote Tony Blair "Education, education, education". Not only is it the most important part of a child's life, it is also the most important part of society because without it you have nothing.

poet123

SuzieSue wrote: »

To quote Tony Blair "Education, education, education". Not only is it the most important part of a child's life, it is also the most important part of society because without it you have nothing.

I think that unless they have a cohesive, supportive family unit a child cannot get the best from any education. The foundations for life are laid at home and built upon by educators.