The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

warbonnet

AF 10/26SNC 2/5


1st excercise class last night, and weigh in this morning. Work is really busy and stressful again, but I can cope much better now that I have a clear head. I am not worrying as much as I used to about things that are out of my control.


Oh well, best finish getting ready for work


Have a good day everyone
Julie

Figtree

In regard to AF beer... They're probably one of the better drinks when on a night out with people who drink, as cola/lemonade gets rather sickening after a while, orange juice has certain negative effects when consumed en masse... and you'll get less questions thrown at you about why you're not drinking (in my experience).

mrsdee

I woke up feeling fantastic this morning which is quite shocking after just 1 AF day. Goes to show how much the alcohol has been affecting me. I know it will help me focus at work as well as when I have been drinking too much i find it impossible to focus properly at work and find myself getting stressed by looming deadlines etc. Hoping that by cutting down alcohol especially being AF during the week will help me feel more positive and able to cope.
Good luck everyone. planning on another AFD today. Bring it on!

Lilith1980

graemecarter wrote: »

For me, I couldn't and cannot ever have a take it or leave it scenario with alcohol.
Moderation and control is not something in my alcoholic sphere.

I also feel that moderation with regards to alcohol is something I will never be able to achieve. So I know I am better off leaving it well alone.

11 AFD for me please Shaggy.

I am just starting on my masters dissertation. The hardest part is starting but I'm gonna give it a bash :rotfl:

maman

Jumped on the wagon as it was passing last night!:D

4 AFDs please Shaggy.

41_and_i_know_it

Hi everyone. I was in the bath last night listening to Smooth 70s on the radio and I imagined I was in my usual haunt in the past on a Saturday night where I end up absolutely paralytic normally. I saw myself on the dancefloor as per usual, with a massive grin on my face, but not the manic intoxicated one, my figure was better than before and all my make-up hair and clothes were intact. And I was stone cold sober and on a high from being in control and able to truly enjoy myself on a night out without a drink. Never been able to do that before, that is my goal. If I can do that I will be so happy.

41_and_i_know_it

graemecarter wrote: »

For me, I couldn't and cannot ever have a take it or leave it scenario with alcohol.
Moderation and control is not something in my alcoholic sphere.
When I went without alcohol, I'd still have the washing-machine head and so after a few days or a week, I'd have a drink to shut my head up.
So for me, I had to change. Moderation and controlled drinking will never be on my radar. I just don't understand them. When I have a drink, I ALWAYS want the next one. The thought of having a glass and then putting the bottle back in the fridge is a mystery to me.

I'm glad that there are people like yourself can moderate, and believe me I tried hard to be like that, but I am not the same. It is what it is, there is no changing the fact, that I'm an alcoholic.

Graeme, I applaud your truthfulness and honesty. Hearing you say those words helps me to fully understand and forgive the behaviour of my 2 former boyfriends who were alcoholics. I am not trying to get out of the fact that I have a drinking problem too. Mine is that drink is wrapped up in my emotions, my feelings are the wrapper and when I unwrap (stress out/get upset etc) off comes the wrapper and inside is the booze. The reward for getting upset. I now know that I sometimes get upset on purpose because I know that I use it as an excuse to drink. That is so sad, because there are times when I am truly in despair and need something so bad but the drink is not the answer it is just readily available and socially acceptable and in your face. I want to deal with my emotions without a drink. I want to be able to live life without a drink. I want to able to go out and enjoy myself without a drink and without being envious of other people drinking and getting drunk.
Graeme I want to be like you, you know that you're an alcoholic and you know that one drink is all it takes and is never the last one. I want to say no and mean it, I feel that I am weak because I haven't lost everything and therefore don't know what rock bottom is, I don't want to reach rock bottom. I want to not want it and from my heart, not just to be healthy, wealthier or a goody-two-shoes. I want to realise that my life will be so much better without it, I want to be able to say that I have not drunk for 2 years or more. I suppose I'm frightened to fail because I normally do and I'm only just over 3 weeks AF. Sorry the post is so long, I am scared that I will fail, I always end up self-sabotaging my life and end up with second best.

tracy_36

Hi all
Unfortunately no more AF for me to add
I wrestled all day with buying wine yesterday, and I ended up buying some - so had wine and a cry!
And feel like crying again today - bloody hormones!!!

Fella over for tea so shouldnt drink tonight

Welcome to the newbies - this is a lovely place to post to help

Tracy x

leictina

Figtree wrote: »

In regard to AF beer... They're probably one of the better drinks when on a night out with people who drink, as cola/lemonade gets rather sickening after a while, orange juice has certain negative effects when consumed en masse... and you'll get less questions thrown at you about why you're not drinking (in my experience).

on this a tip i discovered whilst working behind a bar (when i was a student) as i also found lemonade very sweet - is to mix it with soda water - this works well with lemonade not sure what it would do to the taste of cola....... and as soda water is generally free it's quite MSE aswell!;)

Grey_Pilgrim

Afternoon all.

43 days without beer and another lard low this morning.

Yeehar.