The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

jess_the_cat

Hi all im onto my 6th can tonight i have 1 afd from last night thursday to report that puts me on 19 wow for this month cant beleve i done so well / hats off to my family for puting up with me ( they dont know im trying so hard ) i have been a right pain in the **** to live with . heres to december every one i raise my coffee cup to you all . Thank you all and good luck all

shaggydoo

Morning :hello:

1 more AFD.

Some times its difficult to rack up those AFDs and then some times its easy - I've been having an easy month:) I think its 'cos I'm going through a period of a bit less stress....which is very welcome after the two years I've had.

Hope all your xmas preparations are going well.



Shaggyx

shaggydoo

November :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 30 days AF

= target achieved


AlexLK 14/18

AuntyCat 2/15
Baileysonice 9/TF
Barny1979 23/23
Fruball 13/17

Gien 2/25
Green Karen 28/30
Jess The Cat 19/20

Joanne109 /15

Katzen /25
Maman 11/10
Mummyto3boys 23/27
Munchin 16/20
MrsDee 16/TF

NewStart 1/10

Pippi 2/25

Pozza 6/25
PriceySOS 20/24

RosePetal 3/21
Satchmo 11/20
Shaggy 28/17

SkintDad 15/30
Stupotstu 20/25
Sukeyboo 13/12

Tracy /10


Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

Please highlight your AFDs in Red

Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!

shaggydoo

December :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 31 days AF

= target achieved


AlexLK /14

ArsenalBarnie

AuntyCat

Baileysonice /TF

Barny1979 /16

Fruball /14

Gien

Green Karen /25

Jess The Cat /15

Joanne109

Katzen

Maman /10

Mummyto3boys /27

Munchin /16

MrsDee /12

NewStart

NowisNow /25

Pippi

Pozza

PriceySOS

RosePetal

Satchmo /15

Shaggy /17

SkintDad

Stupotstu /15

Sukeyboo /10

Tracy


Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

Please highlight your AFDs in Red

Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!

shaggydoo

Only for the


:xmastree:December 2013:xmastree:

SET YOUR Everyone Welcome!!!

AlexLK

maman wrote: »

I was thinking about Alex earlier (funny how you feel you know your virtual friends:)). What I wanted to say is that having a target of AF days is very helpful but it's not the only way to cut down. Having a single drink each day is just as money-saving and healthy (probably more so) as having them all on one night. So don't you go beating yourself either!

Thank you for the message. I've not had a great week and you've helped me to put into perspective what I deemed as my "failure" to reach my target. As my initial target was to cut down (not cut out), I've still managed that this week.

Yesterday I managed to keep my AF promise to myself making 15.

365days

maman wrote: »

Good to hear you aren't beating yourself up about it fruball.


I was thinking about Alex earlier (funny how you feel you know your virtual friends:)). What I wanted to say is that having a target of AF days is very helpful but it's not the only way to cut down. Having a single drink each day is just as money-saving and healthy (probably more so) as having them all on one night. So don't you go beating yourself either!

I don't think anyone should be beating themselves up. It doesn't help at all. What helps is to listen to your thoughts and your mind and your feelings. IF and it's a big IF you feel that you have a drink problem, working that out in your own time is the only way to go.

MAMAN - With respect, please be careful about advising people who clearly are considering their drinking that having one a day is ok. It's not. It allows people to believe they have 'got away with it' For cutter downers it's fine, for people like Alex who is struggling with his alcohol intake it isn't.

365days

AlexLK wrote: »

Thank you for the message. I've not had a great week and you've helped me to put into perspective what I deemed as my "failure" to reach my target. As my initial target was to cut down (not cut out), I've still managed that this week.

Yesterday I managed to keep my AF promise to myself making 15.

What do you feel your target is now? Cutting down or cutting out? I don't need to know the answer but you do.;)

AlexLK

365days: I don't really know, that is the problem. Originally, I was simply cutting down for financial reasons, at the time I didn't care for the fact my doctor had told me I needed to drink far less than I did. I'll stress that wasn't for health reasons but because I suffer from depression and anxiety.

I can go for weeks having nothing other than a glass of wine with my evening meal, then things will get so bad I almost am compelled to drink during the day and well into the night. That's usually when I end up hating myself for it.

365days

I'd argue that anxiety and depression are health reasons!!! Depression can be a life threatening condition after all.

It is incredibly common for people who suffer from Mental Health issues to self medicate. For many alcohol is their drug of choice as it is socially acceptable, legal and accessible.

If you knew a smackhead who said .....

I can go for weeks having nothing other than one hit in the evening , then things will get so bad I almost am compelled to use during the day and well into the night. That's usually when I end up hating myself for it.

I wonder if you would advise him to give up completely, or to carry on dicing with his one hit a night habit?