The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

warbonnet

AF going for 26/28 - 0/28

So today is the morning after the night before. To be honest I don't want a drink tonight. Had 3 glasses of white wine last night, and didn't like the taste much, I would rather have my AF larger.


Didn't sleep well either, and my sleep had been really good the last couple of weeks, another reason that I shouldn't drink.


I am not drinking again until 23rd February for a family party, and then I may drive, see how u feel on the day.


I am feeling positive now that I can once and for all break the awful drink cycle that I have created.


I have 2 items ending on eBay tonight, so I might have enough money to buy my iPhone. I am going to get my life organised with it, use as my diary etc.


It's great to see you all doing well and achieving personal goals.


Have a good weekend
Julie

Barny1979

mackeroo wrote: »

Roll UP Roll UP FOR THE FIRST SNC OF FEB 2013

MON-THURS :ASchool Night Challenge (SNC):A

Everyone one is welcome to join

Yes please Mackeroo, the full 4 nights please.

Figtree

I'll happily sign up to the SNC challenge!

mackeroo

1 Af please Shaggy
Welcome Figtree to the forum and ive included you for next weeks challenge, Barny ive updated last weeks SNC chart

gien

I did gave wind with dinner tonight so no mote AF days to add. Thanks for thf link to the drinksmart site Satchmo, it's very interesting

Lilith1980

We went for lunch today and weirdly bumped into the friends I mentioned on here, who are heavy drinkers. They asked if we were still doing 'Dryathlon' and that we'd have to meet up for another 'session'.

We said we were still off the alcohol and my OH said maybe we'd go through February without as well. I said that we didn't mind them drinking, they were more than welcome to drink, but as I said it I felt this great pressure and I actually felt bad/guilty for THEM because I felt like I would be spoiling their fun!

So much so I went online and found a few sites that sell alcohol-free wine, and even thought when they come round I could just pretend I was drinking 'real' wine. So now I feel angry at myself that I can't just say "No I'm fine, I am happy with soda" or something like that?? I mean, it's not like we see them often anymore, every few months really. But still.....

Anyone else found ways to deal with situations like this?

Barny1979

2nd AFD of the month for me, 100% for the year so far.

Lilith1980

2 AFD for me too please Shaggy

satchmo1

2/24 AF tonight.

Today's 5k ParkRun was so beautiful. I love running here in Milton Keynes. No pounding the streets; it's gorgeous to be able to run round beautiful Willen lake with the sun shining and geese, ducks and swans on the lake. I ran the 5k in a minute faster time, too, which was a surprise as my poor knees were aching after last nights Zumba!

jak

Hi Lilith, I know just what you mean! I wasn't going to say anything to my Mum but yesterday she said 'I expect you're glad to be having a drink tonight now the dryathalon is over' I replied Im not going to drink anymore, to which I got a rather disgrunted, well just have a bit then. She seemed really !!!!ed off and it annoyed me. I did say I've been drinking too much but I just got dismissed with a don't be silly youre fine! Its been bugging me all day! I also feel worried about peoples response to my not drinking. I feel they will not find me fun anymore and it's hard to explain it to someone who doesn't drink like me. They just don't get it OR if they DO drink like me, then they hate it because it makes them examine their drinking!
I'm not sure how to handle it either to be honest, I don't want to run around shouting 'I'm an alcoholic!' But at the same time, some people just don't get it.
I had a friend text me saying 'lets go on one of our pub nights soon' yesterday, I didn't text back because I had no idea what to say. I don't want to go and won't but it looks like i've choosen a lot of my friends very carefully to ensure they are drinkers too.
On a slightly brighter note, I have met a lot of great women who are in AA who I meet for coffees and lunches. They are not only cool but really fun to be around. It's like being stood in the middle of a circle of love and knowing that no matter which way I fall, there will be somebody to prop me up OR give me a shove in the right direction. As you can tell, I'm really enjoying that aspect of life right now.
I met a non AA friend for coffee today and she is one of my old friends who will be there to support me and not judge. It was good.
2 af and 35 in total! XXX