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The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

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  • Miss_Piggy_2
    Miss_Piggy_2 Posts: 3,631 Forumite
    Morning all

    GC - good to see you are still lurking here ready with some sensible words for us. :wave:

    Lilith - glad you got through a difficult point. It can be so hard sometimes not to just say "sod it", so well done you.

    2 for me please Shaggy!

    Miss P
    x
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  • 41_and_i_know_it
    41_and_i_know_it Posts: 512 Forumite
    Hi all, cuddles and kisses all round for everybody mwah. My uncle is a bit better, thanks for the messages of encouragement, really kind and thoughtful. Lilith, my mum is a bit like yours. I have really tried to make up for the lack of motherly love in childhood, and she has made some sort of attempt too. I don't know why but its not as straightforward as it looks and this is why:
    1. She may not realise that she has done something wrong.
    2. She may not realise the effect it has obviously had upon you.
    3. She may not really care now because the easiest way to not deal with things is to create a distorted reality, where what actually happened wasn't as bad as you are making out, or you are over-reacting, therefore she is copping out so she doesn't have to deal with anything.
    4. The motivation has to be there, you have suffered and I know how you feel, every year that goes by I think it will change, but we are only responsible for our action and reaction, she is responsible for hers. We cannot change anyone, I really wish I could take your pain away. I've blamed myself, I thought I was unlovable, compared myself to my brother who is close to my mum and I find that I have to just trick my mind into accepting that I wasn't aware of my mum's problems/issues/circumstances when I was very little so I have been born and at least she was an incubator for me, whatever happened I am still here, I am messed up but part of me being messed up is this incessant search for the missing piece, it is probably missing for a reason, to teach me to be strong without a mother's love. But I have to let it go and just take whatever's on offer, I try and let a lot of what she says go over my head because I know she is just pressing my buttons.
    I hope you are not offended, Lilith I really feel for you and do not intend to trivialise your situation, I only know deep in my heart that trying to mend our relationship should not be my only concern in life, it takes over my life because I couldn't accept.
    The Serenity Prayer
    God grant me the serenity,
    To accept the things I cannot change,
    Courage to change the things I can,
    And the wisdom to know the difference.
    Just because other people upset us, doesn't mean we have to accept it, we can choose to ignore, close our ears, pretend not to hear. When they realise we haven't shown a reaction (even though it hurts like hell) they will change their behaviour.
    7 AF days and Full Monty SNC

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    .... you get to choose the ending.
  • shaggydoo
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    Morning :hello:

    Went for a meal Wednesday to celebrate a friend's promotion and had 2 glasses of white wine. I was back on the wagon last night. So 1 more for the SNC Gien.

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    Shaggyx
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
  • shaggydoo
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    edited 7 June 2013 at 7:57AM
    Miss_Piggy wrote: »
    Going to aim fo the rest of the month so please can you put me down for 25 please Shaggy??

    welcome-back-sign-smiley-emoticon.gif You're on the list.

    How is piglet?:)
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
  • shaggydoo
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    41_and_i_know_it wrote: »
    My uncle has had another stroke, he's only 60 we are waiting to hear how bad it is.

    Sorry to read that 41 :(:(:( Is that your mum's brother or your Dad's?
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
  • shaggydoo
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    joanne109 wrote: »
    I'm exhausted, I only slept from around 04:30 until 7 this morning - it must be the lack of alcohol. I'm hoping to go to bed soon

    I'm having great sleep with herbal nytol.... From smiley_to_sleep042.gif to sleep.gif
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
  • satchmo1
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    Oh how I wish I'd taken nytol or similar last night! Elderly dog (19) was thundering up n down stairs at 2am as she needed to go out, then when I got back to bed DH was snoring. I resorted to sticking tissue in my ears to block out the sound after about an hour.

    Still, I did come up with an idea to solve a logistical issue for fitting in a 5k parkrun tomorrow which starts at 9am and still make it to the 09:50 coach departure for an IF rally in Hyde Park. My 5k time is usually around 36 mins, so I'll be aiming to cut a massive 6 minutes off (gulp), then I'm going to ask the gym which is located at the run's finish line if I can use their shower as a one-off. Luckily the coach leaves from a point near to the run/gym. Wish me luck.

    DH wants to go to the pub tonight for fish n chips. As the best pub is a drive away, I've volunteered to drive (insert halo).

    Happy Friday everyone.
    What would you get if all you got was what you were thankful for?
  • shaggydoo
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    edited 7 June 2013 at 8:44AM
    Lots of good decaffeinated tea and coffee around if you're thinking about reducing caffeine ...- most of it is really good
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
  • shaggydoo
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    pozza_73 wrote: »
    So I guess this is 5/6 alcohol free days for June :)

    welcomewagon.gif Welcome pozza - I've put you on the list :)
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
  • shaggydoo
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    edited 9 June 2013 at 8:42AM
    stupotstu wrote: »
    Away for summer wedding tomorrow but god willing by sunday night i will be able to get back on it!

    Have a good weekend all!

    Stupotstu

    The wagon will be passing your way CoveredWagonAnimated.gif
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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