NEED ADVICE URGENTLY regarding pre-school incident

Nicki

The likelihood of drawing blood depends on where the bite was. OP said it was on the cheek and those bites bleed easily. My DD was bitten on the face at that age and it also bled, but healed quickly and didn't scar. Bites on firm flesh DO need to be quite hard to draw blood - eg arms or shoulders.

mumps

Nicki wrote: »

The likelihood of drawing blood depends on where the bite was. OP said it was on the cheek and those bites bleed easily. My DD was bitten on the face at that age and it also bled, but healed quickly and didn't scar. Bites on firm flesh DO need to be quite hard to draw blood - eg arms or shoulders.

I haven't seen a child bitten so hard that it drew blood. I was once bitten so hard that it drew blood, I was a teenager and babysitting for a little boy of about 4. I can tell you it hurt like hell and I would not want to see one of mine hurt like that.

Giraffeseeker

Both my son and a friends son of the same age had very similar speech difficulties at pre-school age.

My son had speech therapy, and all was good with speech by the time he went to secondary. Now predicted to get A grades in most GCSE's - he is very bright. No idea what caused speech problems.

My friends son is very autistic and in a special school.

Speech difficulties are not an indication of SEN. There are tons of reasons that may be behind that.

shortdog

My daughter came home from nursery almost daily complaining about a specific little girl - H did this, that and the next thing to my daughter. After a couple of weeks (as it was always minor things) my daughter came home with paint in her hair and across the back of her jumper, and informed me that H had painted her, and that my daughter had cried about it.
I stormed into the nursery the next day, demanding that something be done about this hellion child, only to be informed that H's mum had been in the day before, demanding that something be done about my daughter!
Apparantly, both kids were really good friends, who also fought like cat and dog, no matter what the teachers did. Unfortunatley, that's what small kids do, they can't get their feelings across. No matter how good their speech is, they don't have the emotional ability to work out how they are feeling, work out why they feel like that, who and what has caused them to feel like that, and verbalise it. It's much easier, as a toddler, just to lash out.
Both of mine were bitten at nursery, and both of mine bit others at nursery too. It's just one of those things, and you'll have to get used to it, as it happens throughout primary school, although it tends to turn into pushing, hitting, etc, rather than biting.

valk_scot

Talking about bites on the cheek, I have a really lovely formal photo of my two sons when they were about 3 years old and 15months. There they sit, matching tops, shining curls, angelic expressions, the older one's arm round the younger. Beautiful picture of sibling love. It's only when you look closely you can see the bite mark on DS2s cheek, the exact size of DS1's jaws....

quinechinoise

The paint is not a big deal - kids get messy, even with aprons on.

The accidents and toilet incidents are a big deal. You should always be informed of accidents - and you should always eyeball a written report, summarising the accident, that you need to sign to acknowledge you've been made aware. Toddlers should not be left in wet nappies, pants or clothes: they should be changed and parents informed (of wet clothing and/or toilet "accidents"). If you've forgotten to send in spares, the nursery school should have sufficient to lend out.

All belongings should be labelled with your child's name. If they are not labelled, it's not surprising if they get lost. Frankly, most packets of baby wipes look the same - and the school must have their own supplies anyway. If it's important to use a particular brand - label it and send it in.

Regarding crying when being dropped off - that depends. Hopefully, your child's teacher or key worker should be informing you whether your child is genuinely distressed while at nursery school or whether they stop crying after you leave. Many kids do the whole "I don't want to go to school; I want to play at home with YOU, mummy!" The important thing is whether they are happy at school, not whether they do a little pantomime on the way in.

Why don't you speak to the SEN teacher about the biting child? You should be able to get some context on the accident and you ought to receive some reassurance about your child's safety. Tbh, you don't need to have "special needs" to be a biter/hitter. Most people with a younger sibling have been bitten, at least once - and, goodness me, small teeth really do leave a mark!

Finally, if you really feel your child is at risk and/or the school is not meeting their needs, vote with your feet. There are other schools. But don't jump to conclusions. Speak to your child's key worker, speak to your child's teachers and, if necessary, speak to the school secretary and/or Head. You are allowed to talk to staff! They are there to provide information and reassurance.