Family going on and on

mummyroysof3

Is she being insensitive or would she be a moaner even if she didn't know you was trying? Either way if it was me I would avoid her where possible

VK-2008

My dh is enraged with her too!
I'm not particularly sensitive I have loads of pregnant friends and other family member who I can talk with and enjoy hearin about ther growing bump
This one person in particular seems to flaunt it and it actively advertising it consistently on social network sites

This_Year

She's one of those people who are always on about "Me Me Me" then. In which case try to keep your distance from her, protect yourself as you know what she's like. Even remove her from your facebook if that's another place she does it.

dandelionclock30

Shes just thinking about herself and her situation and your just thinking about yourself too and it reinforces your situation. Just be happy for her, its not her fault you have'nt been able to have children. Not everyone is sensitive and kind
It can only get to you if you let it, rise above her and think about getting some support and help for your own situation. If you cant have kids then get counselling or ask the G.P about any referrals that could help you etc.
Focus on other things in your life and this woman will fade into the background.

good_vibes

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

Shes just thinking about herself and her situation and your just thinking about yourself too and it reinforces your situation. Just be happy for her, its not her fault you have'nt been able to have children. Not everyone is sensitive and kind
It can only get to you if you let it, rise above her and think about getting some support and help for your own situation. If you cant have kids then get counselling or ask the G.P about any referrals that could help you etc.
Focus on other things in your life and this woman will fade into the background.

Not helpfull
OP has already suggested she is going on with the her help in her sistuation. SIL is aware of this and rubbing it in.

Some people can be good and kind i these situations and some people see it as a way of "getting one over, I am better than you".
She is being mean.

Untill your in the situation of the OP, you don't know what it is like.

*hugs* to OP

Mojisola

There's always two parts to problems like this - her behaviour and your reaction to it.

You might not be able to change her behaviour but you can change your reaction. Reduce the contact you have with her, don't look at her Facebook ramblings and, mentally, push her off to the side. She's not important and she's not worth getting upset about.

sassyblue

She sounds like a drama llama OP, limit the time you spend in her company. You'll never be right if you point anything out to her, they like to be victims you see.

Good luck ttc yourself, stay positive and hopefully you'll be pregnant soon. xxx

burnoutbabe

when you get pregnant will you never mention it to anyone in case you cause distress? or complain about it?

Just distance yourself from her for a bit. Get your other half to say why. hide her on facebook so you can't see her stuff.

victory

VK-2008 wrote: »

My dh is enraged with her too!
I'm not particularly sensitive I have loads of pregnant friends and other family member who I can talk with and enjoy hearin about ther growing bump
This one person in particular seems to flaunt it and it actively advertising it consistently on social network sites

I can understand how she is getting to you and how you feel but you now for your own happiness have to distance yourself, do not go on her facebook page, keep away from the social networking sites, wish her well, big happy smile plastered on your face:D but keep away from her:D

fannyanna

VK-2008 wrote: »

This one person in particular seems to flaunt it and it actively advertising it consistently on social network sites

This is easy to deal with. You can make sure that her status updates don't appear on your newsfeed. So unless you go onto her facebook page you wont know what she's saying.

I've done this with a lot of pregnant friends. In fact I've even started doing this with the newly weds as I'm half expecting a pregnancy annoucement to come next :rotfl: