Quick - Superglue my DFW hat on!!

HeadAboveWater

liltdiddylilt wrote: »

HAW I have been catching up with your diary but have only got to page 12 so far & don't want to post without the full story. More catching up tomorrow when I actually get a lunch!! :D

So long as it's not boring you to tears then that's good!!

liltdiddylilt wrote: »

'Thou shalt not weigh more than thy fridge'

:rotfl::rotfl:

Very good! One of my fav sayings is...

Mealtimes are when you sit down to continue eating

Hope your week has got off to a happy and sunny start

liltdiddylilt

Good evening diary!

I am snuggled in bed with my laptop & a cuppa tea, trying to get tired enough to go to sleep as I start my 3 days work tomorrow. (laptop probably not helping me to get tired!)

Has been such a crazy day today! Jellytot has FINALLY got her first tooth at the grand old age of 14 months & 1 day!!:T:T:T:T - She's been off colour for the last couple of days & this explains it. Cue much calpol use & letting her gnaw on gingernut biscuits to try and bring it through....

She enjoyed the gingernut so much that she wouldn't let it go.. at all... Which posed a problem for her. She is steady as a rock at standing up without holding onto things. Has superhuman strength in standing without pulling herself up any furniture or anything; she just decided one day a couple of months back to stand up in the middle of the floor & does it about 1000 times a day now... She cruises around the furniture with ease and she even takes the odd couple of steps here and there, but is a bit worried about walking further. Why fix what ain't broken.. she likes crawling! ....So.. how to crawl when holding a gingernut biscuit which she won't let go of. She tried some form of commando crawl, using her elbow & 1 hand... Too slow... So she just stood up and WALKED! :rotfl::rotfl: Little monkey! She hasn't done it since mind you, but she managed 8+ steps in a row casually from the cupboard to her bedroom. She's teasing me!

Pleaseletmebelucky - I am so sorry to hear about your dad. My best friends dad is currently sectioned in a mental health facility. He started stealing his disabled sons bank card to pay for his booze; my friends mum found out & so he tried to hang himself with a stretchy washing line. After first calling the proper authorities & having the police, ambulance service & search & rescue helicopter out looking for him. It is such a sad situation.. I genuinely think that after 30 years of this disease there is no beating it for him & his family would be better off with him at peace. I'm glad you get some measure of peace from it.

HAW - I caught up! It did not bore me. I am intrigued as I found references to your OH's daughters & problems with their mum. Hits close to home (without knowing details) although the situation is the other way around. My little sister is the problem in our family.

I've decided to start taking more time on myself. I spend too much time sat on my bum. I need to eat less, chocolate especially, & exercise more... I also need to pamper myself a bit more. I couldn't remember the last time I actually moisturised my body!:eek: So have started trying to take care of me a bit more. Would love to lose some weight! I don't look bad but I do weigh a good chunk of my refrigerator.:rotfl:

Off to bed, nicely moisturised & I have shaved my legs two days in a row... don't think I have done that since becoming a mother!

Night all

HeadAboveWater

Yay to the tooth and double yay to the walking!! :j Just shows what a bit of determination can do!!

liltdiddylilt wrote: »

HAW - I caught up! It did not bore me. I am intrigued as I found references to your OH's daughters & problems with their mum. Hits close to home (without knowing details) although the situation is the other way around. My little sister is the problem in our family.

Thanks for reading! Sometimes I don't know how much I should put online Part of me feels it's personal/private and I shouldn't be putting it on my diary, but then the bigger part of me knows I need to offload sometimes, and that I need someone on the 'outside' to look at things with fresh eyes. It does help to get things off my chest every now and again, and the support and encouragement I get from everyone on here just lifts me and helps me along my journey

*hugs* to you ref your family It can be really tough!

liltdiddylilt wrote: »

I've decided to start taking more time on myself.

Good for you! Why do us girlies always put everyone else before us?! We all need time out. Just a 15 min lock in the bathroom would suffice sometimes! :rotfl:

liltdiddylilt wrote: »

I have shaved my legs two days in a row... don't think I have done that since becoming a mother!

:T
I don't think I've ever done that!! :eek:

Have a happy hump day

please-let-me-be-lucky

:j to Jellytot :j

:eek: to the story about your friend's Dad . It's all so sad and desperate in those kind of situations. We wrote "May you find your peace in Death that you lost in Life" on Dad's death notice. To be honest, I think we all found peace and I hope your friend does too.

I count myself pampered if I shave my legs twice a month not twice in 2 days :rotfl:. Suppose that's because I'm fair and it doesn't grow fast though so it doesn't need doing too often. It's not like I wait until I'm a Yeti . I could definitely spend more time on myself in general though Xx

liltdiddylilt

Awwwh thanks ladies. Jellytot is such a cool laidback little lady it's quite a surprise that she decided to do the two things at once really (she didn't really decide the tooth mind you!). Still, no stopping her now! *proud mummy*

Lucky - it's one of those situations I grew up in, with her dad. We lived opposite each other til we were 18 & I literally spent as much time growing up in her house as I did in my own. Her dad was/is such a lovely man but he has a heck of a lot of demons. It was nice that he managed a speech on her wedding day in March. I was a bridesmaid & I could feel the nerves off her purely about his speech. In the end he managed to stay off the beer a week in advance to avoid having the shakes, said 2-3 lines and sat down to a lot of applause from people who know him well. At least she has a couple of good memories.

No kidding on the pampering front. I've 1 child and I barely manage to brush my hair each day, let alone juggling 2 kids & DH!! You need to make time for you at some point though.

Warning, mini-rant! Work was hard today. I plodded through my never-ending list of complicated and not so complicated jobs, all the while listening to the guy who took over the exceptionally boring and monotonous part of my old job complain about how stressed he is & how he would like cyanide in his coffee & blah blah blah. He is so panicky & stressed about how much 'work' he has that he is barely actually doing anything, preferring to sit & panic instead. My patience is running out since he won't help himself & his entire job is just a small portion of what I used to do in my working day. Raaawwrrr! Doesn't help that he keeps dropping hints about wanting to stay & do overtime to catch up when the company doesn't offer overtime, especially not for people who just don't do anything in their normal working day. He had the cheek to say he would work weekends & stay later in the evenings if they would pay him £8k more a year for his basic administrative role.... Dream on pal! Rant over. Sorry.

HAW you are right about sometimes needing a place to pop! Personally I don't tend to worry too much about whether people 'make' me on here or not but there are all kinds of situations where people would be much more worried about it.

Ironically I work as a finance manager for a firm of IFA's & yet was in debt... Takes all sorts of things to bring a lightbulb moment. Mine was my first maternity pay packet!

Hoping to add another £400 to the pot of savings by the end of this month. Have £200 stored in my Lloyds account which shouldn't be touched, but just in case Also have another £250 left in my other current account with only £35 of DD's left to go and an enforced £75 spend left on shopping, and not a penny over it!

Did myself a shop on mysupermarket today. £35 it came to after they had switched & swapped everything about. There isn't a whole lot of food there though. A lot of powders & lentils and chickpeas mind you. I'm sure I can whip up some excellent curries!

Off to sleep I go.

Night!!!!

HeadAboveWater

Good morning proud mummy How are you today?

Quite often I do feel that I was brought up in a bubble all my life. I guess you could say my parents are very old fashioned Reading about what you and Lucky have dealt with in life, in a way that was the 'norm' for you. Whereas all that stuff is somewhat alien to me. Which is maybe why sometimes I feel that I've jumped straight in at the deep end with OH and the girls and I'm waaaay in out of my depth

Tell the guy at work to go catch himself on and grow a pair :D

:j for the savings and good luck on the ££ for the remainder of the month!!

liltdiddylilt

HeadAboveWater wrote: »

Good morning proud mummy How are you today?

I am rather good today thank you. Work started badly, brand new desktop PC I installed yesterday & left working fine last night somehow managed to break it's own keyboard overnight:eek: - it had a Ctrl + Alt + Delete password so when I tried to bypass the real keyboard with the on screen keyboard using the mouse... I couldn't get past the login! Ctrl + Alt was fine, but then click delete & it reset it! Day got better though & I ate a lot better if you don't count the TWO:eek::eek::eek: snickers bars I snuck in with my hard boiled eggs, porridge & fruit.:rotfl:

HeadAboveWater wrote: »

Quite often I do feel that I was brought up in a bubble all my life. I guess you could say my parents are very old fashioned Reading about what you and Lucky have dealt with in life, in a way that was the 'norm' for you. Whereas all that stuff is somewhat alien to me. Which is maybe why sometimes I feel that I've jumped straight in at the deep end with OH and the girls and I'm waaaay in out of my depth

To be honest with you I had a very normal family... if you didn't count the millions of bizarre goings on. It was all very normal... to me. Kind of like growing up in a circus - it's just your life. I feel for my friend though. I could leave her dad behind at the end of the day. She had to hide her pocket money & he still found it - It must be hard to go from being sheltered to being thrust into something. Especially taking on someone elses's children. That I have extreme respect for. How old are the girls? I'm sure you're not out of your depth. It sounds like you're doing fine. At the end of the day all you have to do is be yourself; that's how they love you.

HeadAboveWater wrote: »

Tell the guy at work to go catch himself on and grow a pair :D

I basically did just that - I gave him a stern talking to in the car and told him to man up. I'd already emailed my boss to tell her he appeared to be having a mini-meltdown in the office over work that would only have taken me about 3 hours to complete - she emailed back her extreme frustration :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: and also gave him a right talking to today. He seems much better in all. But to be honest, anyone who has never moved out of home at the grand old age of 33 even after going to Uni... shares a car with his mum & rubs almond oil into his nails to keep them soft.. is a bit strange anyway in my book.

HeadAboveWater wrote: »

:j for the savings and good luck on the ££ for the remainder of the month!!

Thank you! If DH ever wakes from his inpromptu nap & gives me his bank details I will be transferring across the £125 bonus I got from First Direct today for signing up with them And the £15 my friends mum gave me for a breadmaker which I credited to my account from paypal today... and another £60 I'm sure I can do without, bringing our savings total up by another £200. Just need to stay good!

I overspent on the shopping again today. Mainly due to the £4.50 charge. I don't shop often enough or with the same company to sign up to any deals on delivery but having it delivered saves me an absolute fortune in the things I don't pick up! Never mind I have altered my signature accordingly & my shopping will be here tomorrow Just need to organise myself to book and order my shopping sooner for next Fridays delivery! Although my parents are here so I may not need to do it!

please-let-me-be-lucky

liltdiddylilt wrote: »

Lucky - it's one of those situations I grew up in, with her dad. We lived opposite each other til we were 18 & I literally spent as much time growing up in her house as I did in my own. Her dad was/is such a lovely man but he has a heck of a lot of demons. It was nice that he managed a speech on her wedding day in March. I was a bridesmaid & I could feel the nerves off her purely about his speech. In the end he managed to stay off the beer a week in advance to avoid having the shakes, said 2-3 lines and sat down to a lot of applause from people who know him well. At least she has a couple of good memories.

I can relate to that! My Dad gave me away at my wedding (10 years ago tomorrow!) but didn't make a speech which I was pleased about at the time but am sad about nowadays.

Ironically I work as a finance manager for a firm of IFA's & yet was in debt... Takes all sorts of things to bring a lightbulb moment. Mine was my first maternity pay packet!!!

Sssshhh I used to be a Bank Manager ssssshhh

HeadAboveWater wrote: »

Quite often I do feel that I was brought up in a bubble all my life. I guess you could say my parents are very old fashioned Reading about what you and Lucky have dealt with in life, in a way that was the 'norm' for you. Whereas all that stuff is somewhat alien to me. Which is maybe why sometimes I feel that I've jumped straight in at the deep end with OH and the girls and I'm waaaay in out of my depth

HAW you are coping brilliantly, don't do yourself down. I had a very normal and happy childhood (albeit we were poor!) until I was in my teens and my Dad got ill with M.E. His biggest mistake was to stop his tablets and self medicate with alcohol.

liltdiddylilt wrote: »

To be honest with you I had a very normal family... if you didn't count the millions of bizarre goings on. It was all very normal... to me. Kind of like growing up in a circus - it's just your life. I feel for my friend though. I could leave her dad behind at the end of the day. She had to hide her pocket money & he still found it - It must be hard to go from being sheltered to being thrust into something. Especially taking on someone elses's children. That I have extreme respect for. How old are the girls? I'm sure you're not out of your depth. It sounds like you're doing fine. At the end of the day all you have to do is be yourself; that's how they love you.

I'm sure your friend's experience was all the better for having your support.
Ditto what you said to HAW too Xx

HeadAboveWater

liltdiddylilt wrote: »

I ate a lot better if you don't count the TWO:eek::eek::eek: snickers bars I snuck in with my hard boiled eggs, porridge & fruit.:rotfl:

Two???? :eek: Are you for real?!? Think the eggs porridge and fruit cancels at least one of them out so you should be ok :D

liltdiddylilt wrote: »

To be honest with you I had a very normal family...

Normal?! Didn't realise there was such a thing! :rotfl:

liltdiddylilt wrote: »

She had to hide her pocket money & he still found it

The girls still have to hide their money When OH and ex sold the house, £2k was put into a bank account for each of the girls for when they were older. Needless to say the money is long gone

liltdiddylilt wrote: »

Especially taking on someone elses's children. That I have extreme respect for. How old are the girls? I'm sure you're not out of your depth. It sounds like you're doing fine. At the end of the day all you have to do is be yourself; that's how they love you.

Aw thank you lilt

They're 17, 15 and 12! Absolutely love the girls to pieces, and I know they love me too, but yes it can still be tough sometimes!

Good for you for speaking up ref the wimp at work :D

And very well done on your savings! :T Long may it continue!

please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »

HAW you are coping brilliantly, don't do yourself down. I had a very normal and happy childhood (albeit we were poor!) until I was in my teens and my Dad got ill with M.E. His biggest mistake was to stop his tablets and self medicate with alcohol.

Thank you lucky. I guess we all just learn to live with what we're given at the end of the day, make the most of it, and try to make the right choices as we go along

please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »

Ditto what you said to HAW too

(PS. Sorry for momentarily hijacking your thread lilt!!)

liltdiddylilt

You know you're addicted to MSE when:-You're sat with the forum open on your laptop, get an email on your phone & follow it to another thread then sit reading on your phone :rotfl:

Haw it is not a problem hijacking my thread. Have just been reading yours (yep, that was the one on my phone!! ) & have to say am intrigued about your opinion of things with your OH. Is there a bit of a double standard in your relationship? Does his lack of trust.. and yours(?) stem from something in the past? Feel free to PM me the response to that. I love a good natter :j

Yes honestly, two snickers bars. I had hardly anything in the house & if I don't take a mountain of food with me I feel deprived. I accidentally left an egg in the fridge though & I'm not back at work until Friday hahaha!

It's amazing what things are considered 'normal' like my mum sitting me down when I was about 10 and telling me that my daddy had another daughter somewhere out there in the world whose mummy didn't want him to be involved with her; so if a girl ever turned up on the doorstep and said she thought my daddy was her daddy... let her in!:rotfl:My oldest brother was adopted by my dad when he was 3, the next brother is a half brother, dads but not mums, then there is my big sister who is mums not dads & finally me & my little sister who are the product of their marriage. My 'pets' were chickens and ferrets. We spent an entire year with the kitchen inside the 'outhouse' which was little more than a brick shed which you could see all the way to the roof 25 feet up, whilst my dad dug out the 1inch of concrete on top of several feet of sand (aka the kitchen floor) which was sinking into the cellar... God I loved my upbringing. It was hilarious, dirt poor & full of fun & love.:T

I managed to shift my £200 to DH's current account after he woke up. He has the snazzy Nationwide current account which gives 6% AER on balances up to £2500 per month. Hopefully we will be very close to this next month & then I shall open the FD regular saver with £300 per month payments in - woop! The other £200ish I will have to find another high interest home for. If I leave it in my current account it will disappear.

Mr T's couldn't find my house today, or at least that is what I assume happened... The driver left a note on the account saying he had knocked on the door & no-one was home. DH was right by the door all day & the appt was booked in the middle of Jellys nap so he was being extra quiet! So grumpy. They called my home phone which DH decided not to answer as he thought it was his mum calling to discuss the video of Jellytot walking. :rotfl:They called my mobile, which was on my desk at work whilst I was in a meeting. So they decided not to bother bringing to today & I had to rebook for tomorrow. SO we had no food for tonight, having not defrosted anything. Fish & chips it was... I have to find £12.40 now :mad: Where is my willpower?!?!

Just done my Nectar Adpoints. I am up to 99 points this week. There had better be more for me than that! On the plus side I managed to get a Nectar Credit Card Survey into my inbox & so they paid me 50pts for doing that which took all of 30 seconds it's all small, but every little helps. I try to think of it that those 99 points would have taken a £50 spend in Sainsburys!