Social services onto me about not having child in nursery! Advice needed

shirlgirl2004

poet123 wrote: »

It is quite different choosing to keep a child at home when they are under five and so not necessarily needing academic input, than it is to keep an over five school age child at home.

Is it? Both are deviating from the norm as evidenced by some of the judgements made on the OP for not sending the child to nursery.

nickyhutch

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

But people are so mobile now. You move out of county and become unknown, not that I've had that a problem at all. Fortunately us home edders are a healthy bunch so I haven't had the need for a Dr let alone emergency Dr.

Your kids aren't registered with a GP?

CH27

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

But people are so mobile now. You move out of county and become unknown, not that I've had that a problem at all. Fortunately us home edders are a healthy bunch so I haven't had the need for a Dr let alone emergency Dr.

I find this post so worrying.

shirlgirl2004

nickyhutch wrote: »

Your kids aren't registered with a GP?

Registered yes, but haven't been.

nickyhutch

CH27 wrote: »

I find this post so worrying.

Me too.
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poet123

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

Yes only about 1% of children are home educated, however the OP has already veered from the norm by not sending the child to nursery. I don't know why anyone would assume that the OP is suddenly going to hand their child over to the state when it turns 5 given the OP has already shown the ability to make alternative choices.

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

But people are so mobile now. You move out of county and become unknown, not that I've had that a problem at all. Fortunately us home edders are a healthy bunch so I haven't had the need for a Dr let alone emergency Dr.

I find the undertone of your posts quite patronising. Everyone has the ability to make "alternative choices" that they don't do so doesn't mean they haven't put as much thought into their child's education as you have. I also doubt that all home edders are a "healthy bunch".;)

I find it quite worrying that someone can just have a child and disappear off the radar, or that anyone could see that as desirable given the opportunity for issues arising from that.

shirlgirl2004

poet123 wrote: »

I find it quite worrying that someone can just have a child and disappear off the radar, or that anyone could see that as desirable given the opportunity for issues arising from that.

That's the system don't blame me.

nickyhutch

poet123 wrote: »

I find the undertone of your posts quite patronising. Everyone has the ability to make "alternative choices" that they don't do so doesn't mean they haven't put as much thought into their child's education as you have. I also doubt that all home edders are a "healthy bunch".;)

I find it quite worrying that someone can just have a child and disappear off the radar, or that anyone could see that as desirable given the opportunity for issues arising from that.

They aren't, I promise you.

poet123

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

Is it? Both are deviating from the norm as evidenced by some of the judgements made on the OP for not sending the child to nursery.

Few people are considered incapable of "educating" a pre school child, the same cannot be said of a school age child.

fluffnutter

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

Yes only about 1% of children are home educated, however the OP has already veered from the norm by not sending the child to nursery. I don't know why anyone would assume that the OP is suddenly going to hand their child over to the state when it turns 5 given the OP has already shown the ability to make alternative choices.

Taking your figure of 1% and comparing it with the 36% of children who don't go to pre-school or nursery, I'm not sure how you conclude that the latter is an 'alternative choice'. Yes, the majority of children do go to nursery, but a third don't. It's hardly a niche thing to keep your children at home up to the age of 5.

It's illogical to conclude that because the OP doesn't send her child to nursery she's likely to choose home-schooling.

I also find your description of schooling as handing your 'child over to the state' unnecessarily emotive. And the OP's child is not an 'it' either.