Social services onto me about not having child in nursery! Advice needed

trevorsminted

Helens2k8 you clearly have not seen Harry Potter movie

And maybe OP has hoofed it to playgroup with her child, either that she is laying low in the house "full of children frolicking in the garden" from the horrid Social Services!

Dasa

trevorsminted wrote: »

Helens2k8 you clearly have not seen Harry Potter movie

And maybe OP has hoofed it to playgroup with her child, either that she is laying low in the house "full of children frolicking in the garden" from the horrid Social Services!

:rotfl:

I wouldn't have minded being locked under the stairs if I could of been Harry Potter, a small price to pay.

Mojisola

Helen2k8 wrote: »

Good lord people!
Not going to nursery does not mean the child is locked under the stairs 23 hours a day. Ever heard of toddler groups, friends, family, the kids next door..... there are real-life kids to play with "in the wild" not just at nursery.

Snoopinggoose has said that the older child does get plenty of interaction with other children but in informal settings.

Socialisation isn't a problem but the child could find it difficult to get used to the more structured school environment without some prior experience in a nursery.

poet123

trevorsminted wrote: »

Regardless of anything surely it is better for the child to interact with other kids for a few hours a day, so i could understand why SS would come to ask? As others said it is your choice if you can be bothered with the nursery run etc but just think then when you are on here constantly your child is getting to play with like mindeds!

I think we are in danger of polarising the debate. Yes, teachers can see a huge difference in children who haven't been to nursery and whose parents don't provide them with opportunities for social interaction with their peers and who do little in the way of play learning with them. Not so much between those who don't go to nursery but whose parents do ensure those needs are met.;)

I don't believe paid for pre school care is always (or even mainly)better than care in the home. I think it often suits us to think that way, and I think there is a political agenda to steer us to think that way.

quinechinoise

This thread is bizarre to me.

Firstly, I am pleasantly surprised that any NHS HV or midwife would be diligently paying frequent visits to a new mom. The HVs that I used to have (I've lived in 2 English counties with my 2 kids) were of the opinion that if you were "coping" then you should stay away (presumably to reduce their workload) - although you were welcome to bring your child to be weighed, if you really, really wanted to. (My own mom found this odd because when she had my younger sibling, the HV kept calling on moms until about 4-5 years old - and was available for consultation, even after that.) Tbh, the second last HV said pretty much what the OP is arguing: her time was better spent on those in genuine need! It was my first baby, at the time, and I hardly think I needed a guilt-trip over hogging the weighing scales for 2 minutes per fortnight...

Secondly, I find it odd that someone would be investigated for not sending their child to nursery school. Education, at school OR otherwise, is not compulsory until 5 years of age.

Certainly, no one has asked me about my education plans for my kids and the last time I saw a HV was through very drawn-out circumstances - I received a rather grudgingly bestowed visit, much later than hoped for, purely because I'd moved into the area and was entitled to a visit as a "new customer" or whatever the terminology is. I received some brief information about drop-in weighing clinics, attended one to weigh my baby, noted that no other parents were there and didn't bother pursuing it thereafter. Although that HV was also the person who told me about a local breastfeeding group, that I did go to occasionally - a very nice, personable NHS midwife ran it and was perfectly happy for moms to attend frequently and ask trivial, repetitive questions, so... sucks to that HV, really.

shirlgirl2004

Mojisola wrote: »

Snoopinggoose has said that the older child does get plenty of interaction with other children but in informal settings.

Socialisation isn't a problem but the child could find it difficult to get used to the more structured school environment without some prior experience in a nursery.

You're assuming that the child needs to learn about a structured school environment which of course it won't need to do if it's going to be home educated.

Mojisola

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

You're assuming that the child needs to learn about a structured school environment which of course it won't need to do if it's going to be home educated.

Snoopinggoose hasn't mentioned home schooling.

Lozzy88

I am 24 and for some reason I never went to nursery, and this resulted in me being painfully shy until I was about 12. Am not saying this will happen to the op`s child but its something to bare in mind.

I was the youngest of 7 children so it wasn't like I was a only child, my parents also had lots of friends with kids my age and we all got together but I would always be the little weirdo sat in the corner or clinging to a parent.

Of course I could of went to nursery and I still could of been shy but we`ll never know lol.

My HV is a bit pushy about visits I just think if you come to me I will make the effort to be in but am not coming to you.

shirlgirl2004

Mojisola wrote: »

Snoopinggoose hasn't mentioned home schooling.

No but OP didn't mention school either. Why do people make assumptions?

poet123

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

No but OP didn't mention school either. Why do people make assumptions?

Because school is still the norm, and it is natural to assume most children will attend?