Social services onto me about not having child in nursery! Advice needed

POPPYOSCAR

Mojisola wrote: »

Again, I completely agree with you but, at some point, the child will probably be going to school. I think it's unkind not to introduce a child to that environment in staged phases to give him or her some experience of where they're going to be spending a lot of their week.

Do you not see how insulting this is to parents who do not wish to send their child to nursery?

Person_one

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Do you not see how insulting this is to parents who do not wish to send their child to nursery?

When did we start having to agree with every decision other people make?

Mojisola

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Do you not see how insulting this is to parents who do not wish to send their child to nursery?

No. "I think" = my opinion.

If their opinion is different - that's fine and they will act accordingly. My opinion will be of no interest to them.

CH27

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Do you not see how insulting this is to parents who do not wish to send their child to nursery?

Oh for goodness sake!
Mojisola expressed her opinion. We all have one & people need to stop getting so offended when somebody disagrees with them.

Mojisola

At the risk of also insulting the other side - my view is that we get children into nurseries too young and they spend too long away from the family setup. I don't think most nurseries are the best place for little ones to spend a lot of time.

BUT I also realise that, for many parents, there is no other option. As the majority of children will go through the nursery experience, they will be used to the set-up when they move into reception class.

A child who has only been at home or at outside events with a parent or family carer will find reception class a huge shock. As parents, we are usually trying to do our best for our children. Making a child go through what may be an unpleasant and very stressful experience when we have the opportunity to ease them into it gradually and help them get familiar with the setup strikes me as unnecessary.

concerned43

fluffnutter wrote: »

I wasn't questioning your legitimacy, merely pointing out that we have no way of objectively knowing your situation. But you're right - the temptation to be suspicious is probably stronger than if you had some banal consumer rights issue, so for my preconceived ideas, I apologise. You're right to call me on them.

Thank you for that but may I suggest that the OP also deserves to treated objectively. Her post was asking for advice in two area
1) complaint against the nurse
2) law regarding sending her dd off to nursery

She did not deserve to be pulled to bits for having a ss visit.
My advice to her would be to forget about the nurse and realise now that if you refuse help from the authorities than an automatic referral will be made to ss, and to take comfort in the fact that her instincts about this particular nurse was right - not someone to trust and therefore not the kind of person to be in your home.
With regards to nursery for the child then I would merely seek explanation and evidence as to why her dd would be better off in nursery than at home and weight whatever evidence ss produce and make an informed choice regarding this matter.

Dasa

]QUOTE=concerned43;58830809]Thank you for that but may I suggest that the OP also deserves to treated objectively. Her post was asking for advice in two area
1) complaint against the nurse
2) law regarding sending her dd off to nursery

She did not deserve to be pulled to bits for having a ss visit.[/B][/B]
My advice to her would be to forget about the nurse and realise now that if you refuse help from the authorities than an automatic referral will be made to ss, and to take comfort in the fact that her instincts about this particular nurse was right - not someone to trust and therefore not the kind of person to be in your home.
With regards to nursery for the child then I would merely seek explanation and evidence as to why her dd would be better off in nursery than at home and weight whatever evidence ss produce and make an informed choice regarding this matter.[/QUOTE]





This.:T

And well done to those that frightened her off.

trevorsminted

Regardless of anything surely it is better for the child to interact with other kids for a few hours a day, so i could understand why SS would come to ask? As others said it is your choice if you can be bothered with the nursery run etc but just think then when you are on here constantly your child is getting to play with like mindeds!

Dasa

trevorsminted wrote: »

Regardless of anything surely it is better for the child to interact with other kids for a few hours a day, so i could understand why SS would come to ask? As others said it is your choice if you can be bothered with the nursery run etc but just think then when you are on here constantly your child is getting to play with like mindeds!

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Helen2k8

Good lord people!
Not going to nursery does not mean the child is locked under the stairs 23 hours a day. Ever heard of toddler groups, friends, family, the kids next door..... there are real-life kids to play with "in the wild" not just at nursery.

Doesn't look like OP is coming back anyway and I can't say I blame them.