My son didn't remember my birthday

anniewoo

Happy belated birthday to you.

I really do think it is a boy/man thing.My DH was hopeless remembering birthdays and anniversaries,I always used to buy birthday cards for his parents when they were still alive,he could never remember our DS and DD's birthdays and he frequently forgot our wedding anniversary.

My DS isn't much better,I assume he remembers my DIL's birthday otherwise there would probably be hell to pay lol,but I often receive birthday cards from him a few days late and I always have to remind him to send his sister a birthday card.

anguk

anniewoo wrote: »

Happy belated birthday to you.

I really do think it is a boy/man thing.My DH was hopeless remembering birthdays and anniversaries,I always used to buy birthday cards for his parents when they were still alive,he could never remember our DS and DD's birthdays and he frequently forgot our wedding anniversary.

My OH is the same, I'm the one who sorts out cards & presents I even sign his name for him! However my son is totally different, he never forgets birthdays and always buys lovely presents, last year he was working abroad when it was my birthday but he arranged for a beautiful bouquet of flowers to be delivered, he's also bought me nice clothes or jewellry in the past. But my son is gay, so I think he's got the female present buying gene instead of the male! :rotfl:

magic57

Hi again. Anguk your son sounds lovely. I adore gay men.

Son has redeemed himself a bit! He made a computer generated card - he's very good at graphics. He sent it to my computer and told me rather sheepishly that there was something for me on the screen and sorry it was late. It was very sweet and quite unique. So why wait until two days later!!! I never expected a present or even a shop bought card as things are so expensive this was all I had hoped for and I got it at last. The investment of his time making it meant more to me. I think he has found out not to upset the women in his life! Well not his mum anyway! It's probably a good lesson to learn.

All your messages made me laugh. I don't think I would have minded if he had genuinly forgotton, (was reminded by brother and dad) he just didn't bother, until now. I think he got a bit of a rocket from big brother too!
Anyway he has managed to keep me happy. I bet he sorts himself out for my birthday next year!

Thanks all for making me laugh so much! :A

CelticStar

Nice to hear you got a card in the end magic57. As for men not having the present/card buying gene, I'm not sure it's that simple. My youngest sister drove my other sister and myself mad by continually 'forgetting' to buy us birthday/Christmas presents and cards but would happily expect presents from us on the flimsiest of pretexts - I never even got a wedding present off of her even though she was my bridesmaid. Fast forward a few years of this (she was the youngest so she got away with it for a while) and we eventually decided one Christmas to buy her really small token presents - her face was a picture as she had obviously thought that much more expensive gifts were on the way! Next year she bought up proper presents.

Sometimes I think people just need a bit of encouragement when it comes to presents. Men are particularly reticent. My grandad never bought my nan a present for about 30 years (although he was a very generous man and would give her the money for anything) then I went to live with them and within a few years he had gone from not buying a card or present to clubbing together with me for presents to choosing his own presents and writing lovely things in his cards. Just took a bit of encouragement and my nan was well and truly chuffed.

ailuro2

My normally wonderful DH didn't bother to get me a birthday present this year. Not the first time he's come up lacking in the birthday stakes. He seems to take a different view of my special day than me.

When he thinks it's important he'll splash the cash, but on years when we're having a big holiday he doesn't bother. I don't want a lot, just a $2 bunch of flowers would have been enough.:mad:

That was back in January, his birthday is next month and he's getting nothing but a card. I've decided it's about time the shoe was on the other foot and he may realise how nasty it is not to have your nearest and dearest do a little something to make you feel special on your special day.:rolleyes:

Happy Birthday, hope your Hubby brings you something lovely back from abroad for your birthday.:beer:

flybynight

this year i sent me dad a card ( I say i sent i mean my girlfriend took me into the card section while we were shopping and said "chooses your dad a card") and I got him a present ( I sayI got , I mean my girlfriend stood int the middle of the shops and said " flybynight you have 20 mins to go and select a present for your dad from a gadgetty / computer shop or i will drag you round marks and spencers looking for jumpers for him", are you spotting a theme?)as we were seeing him the week after ( we live 200 miles away) so my major role was to phone my dad on the 22nd and say "did you get the card prezzy to follow this weekend". when i phoned him on the friday to say this he wehnt " yeah cheers kid, funny card...present cool, by the way today is the 23rd" . maybe im beyond hope, although he wasnt actually that bothered and was more impressed i got the frist round in when we saw him. if that had been my mother that had happened to, OH would still be picking pieces of me off the ceiling

magic57

Thanks flybynight so I'll give up any hope that he may improve!

I'll have to just make sure that he picks a girl who will be able to organise him in the future!

Hubby bought another nice pressie back from his trip. Anyway he had hidden a pressie in the shed and texted me on my b'day to say where it was. He never forgets though. As I said I would have probably laughed if 16 year old had really forgotten but older brother and dad reminded him several times. It was that it didn't seem to occur to him that his old mum might have feelings and might appreciate a small gesture such as a handmade card that costs nothing but time.! Anyway he did it in the end and he knows now to keep mum happy!

flybynight

oh yeh... definately aim for a future daughter in law that is more organised... apparantly i have got a lot better at these things since we got togethre.... amazing realy

hilstep2000

That's boys and men in general.
When my ex and I split up I gave him a lsit of all his family birthdays and anniversaries, he didn't even know when his mum's was! I'd always bought the cards and pressies and sent them, he couldn't remember.
My OH now is just as bad. A week before my birthday he said "Is it your birthday Tues or Weds?" "WEDNESDAY!" I said. He did remember then! LOL!

JFuller105

Maybe your son DID forget, and spent his money on himself.

On realising his mistake, he may be covering up his embarassment with a show of "not bothered".

I remember hating to admit that I'd made a mistake.