My son didn't remember my birthday

magic57

It was my birthday yesterday and my 16 year old son didn't send me a card. My eldest one got me a present which was nice but nothing at all from the younger one. I don't expect either of them to spend a fortune but a gesture from younger one would have been nice. I thought it was because he didn't have any money but he came back from the shops today with clothes he'd bought for himself.
I can't help feeling a bit hurt that he didn't give his old mum a card even a handmade one. My husband is abroad at the moment or he would have sorthed him out!

Am I being too sensitive? What do other think?

daphne_descends

:grouphug:

Oh, poor you. I don't think you're being too sensitive - I just think boys can be a little bit thoughtless. Many years my mum has been upset over the lack of a birthday/mothers day card/phone call from my brother.

Have you spoken to your son about this?

Happy belated birthday.

magic57

Thanks for your support! Boys eh!!
Yes, when he showed me his purchases for himself I said that I felt hurt that he didn't send a birthday card or maybe make one of his own as he claerly had a bit of cash. He just shrugged and said "eehhh". You know teenage language. Then he shut himself in his room. He used to be such a caring boy but he has changed so much in the last 6 months. Testosterone has a lot to answer for!

art_student

Happy belated birthday!
Boys are so rubbish! I can see where you're coming from but don't take it to heart! My hubby can only remember our wedding anniversary because it is the day after fireworks night so that serves as a reminder!!!

ginger_nuts

my two eldest brothers( 48 & 49) have always been useless at remembering my parents birthdays .Now I send them an email reminder a week before hand .It was mums birthday yesterday ,she thought it wonderfull that all her children remembered her birthday ,:rotfl: :rotfl:

My parents on the other hand dont send me a card but they do send my sil a card for her birthday .

Mark7799

Hi Magic,

First thing, belated happy birthday.

I don't think your 16-y-o is unusual or being deliberate. At that age they will not realise the significance to you. I still have the scars for not reminding my stepsons of mother's day a few years ago - stupidly, I assumed they would make their own arrangements (at that time they were 17 & 15):mad:

It will get better as he grows up.:rolleyes:

tomstickland

Boys/men generally don't understand the importance of birthdays in my experience. I'd guess it's just ignorance, not intentional.

Tam_Lin

He lives with you?

'Mum, what's for dinner?'

'I'm sorry, I forgot cook you any. Go buy yourself a takeaway.'

'Mum, I can't find a clean shirt!'

'Oops silly me; I haven't done any of your washing for 2 weeks. Never mind, at least I did my own washing.'

lil_me

Happy Birthday, sorry to hear you've been left disappointed. My partner is also useless at remembering birthday, even his own childrens, but he can remember other things easily. Seems to be a mental block for things like birthdays. His Nana thinks he's great for remembering, he wouldn't if I didn't tell him.

magic57

Thank you all for your replies. You are all so kind. It's nice to know that he's not the only useless male. I don't think he forgot really as my husband sent him a text to remind him. He just didn't bother. I might not bother next time he wants a lift!

Spendless

My Husbands parents only started getting birthday pressies etc after they acquired a DIL.;)