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Comprise agreement that didn't take into consideration my sickness

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  • princessdon
    princessdon Posts: 6,902 Forumite
    MoonDragon wrote: »
    Really?

    Yes in fact just yesterday my OH was at work from 5.30 to 11.30 - can be a normal day at times, though most involves flights and communting like my day used to.


    How do you know that they have nothing to do with work?
    Did your employer equally refused you to take one or two days off (like me) when I had an emergency (private life) because they thought that was for revising?
    Were you equally working on a trading floor?

    I rarely got time off, my OH has lost "13 days annual leave" as was untaken - It does happen. but equally they are good for emergencies and allow working from home at times to balance it out. No he we works in IT which is just as high pressure with very tight SLA's with huge financial penalties.



    This is a funny logical : i you are injured you are injured....

    If the injury is caused by work and stress then once not stressed the symptoms would be less prevelant.


    Oh yes, of course....and they have made me redundant before the second medical internal date....


    Well then you have medical records showing that the hours, equipment *may* have led to this.

    Ps : don't make me waste my time.

    Because of course you don't have time do you?

    MoonDragon wrote: »
    Really?

    I know they have nothing to do with work, they are due to a tumour and work didn't cause the tumour, things happen sometimes and no one is to blame.

    You were clearly working in an unhealthy enviroment but that doesn't mean it was to blame for everything. If it was you need proof. You can't assume because something started whilst you were working that work was 100% the cause.

    Most people know when work related injuries are the cause because their symptoms lessen when on sick leave, when exposure is less. They may still have them for life, but during the earlier times they can clearly identify that working caused this.

    I don't get how you have proof - I am not saying it wasn't the cause, but from what you say, where is the proof?
  • princessdon
    princessdon Posts: 6,902 Forumite
    Actually I'd look at cluster headaches if this hasn't been explored medically to date

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cluster_headache

    Wiki - link but there are many support groups and other sites on this.

    I say that because eye, neck and back pain are all sypmtomatic of them and there are many treatments that limit the attacks (don't cure but help).

    I find that Oxygen helps me tremendously along with other medication.
  • miduck
    miduck Posts: 1,800 Forumite
    MoonDragon wrote: »
    This is a funny logic: if you are injured you are injured....

    If the injury is a psychological one, logic dictates that it would gradually subside once the triggers are removed.
    MoonDragon wrote: »
    I started one two years ago during my medical investigations : they advised me to do a lot of sport (footing, fitness) but start resolving my present loss of social status due to my sickness + several therapist session.

    What you are describing is not CBT, and/ or was not focused on your issues with your previous employer. What I am suggesting is you working with a therapist to rationalise, work through and hence get over this specific issue.

    You have no evidence that your current health problems were caused by your employment. Despite many people being involved in the medical investigations, not one has reached this conclusion. The chances of you convincing a court of a link, based on the information given, are zero. You need help to get over this and move forward, hence my suggestion that you revisit therapy.
  • MoonDragon
    MoonDragon Posts: 203 Forumite
    edited 20 January 2013 at 8:30PM
    Because of course you don't have time do you?
    No, I don't have time because i presently have headache (and more when it is about this subject).
    I know they have nothing to do with work, they are due to a tumour and work didn't cause the tumour, things happen sometimes and no one is to blame.

    If think I have explained that after have done several investigation I have made a last one in 2011 since the doctors were also suspecting a tumour but thankfully that was not the case.
    A cat who's been sprayed with hot water, will then be afraid of his own bowl of innocent fresh water.
  • MoonDragon
    MoonDragon Posts: 203 Forumite
    edited 20 January 2013 at 12:02PM
    miduck wrote: »
    If the injury is a psychological one, logic dictates that it would gradually subside once the triggers are removed.
    Who told you they are removed : according to GPs I have previously met (in Paris) triggers are everything that make me remember this employer (inclusive the present subject). Their advice is : to forget. But for me, it is a vicious circle : to forget i need to have my life back as it was before this sickness (and few months later their unlawful dismissal) AND to have my life back i need to restart working (but presently i cannot due to my sickness).

    miduck wrote: »
    What you are describing is not CBT, and/ or was not focused on your issues with your previous employer. What I am suggesting is you working with a therapist to rationalise, work through and hence get over this specific issue.

    You have no evidence that your current health problems were caused by your employment. Despite many people being involved in the medical investigations, not one has reached this conclusion. The chances of you convincing a court of a link, based on the information given, are zero. You need help to get over this and move forward, hence my suggestion that you revisit therapy.
    I would really like to see a therapist again, but there is a huge queue...but I agree with at 90% and will try to follow your advice.

    Thanks all for your help,

    MoonDragon

    Ps : I have found the months ago a website (unfortunately in french) regarding my sickness here .
    A cat who's been sprayed with hot water, will then be afraid of his own bowl of innocent fresh water.
  • miduck wrote: »
    If the injury is a psychological one, logic dictates that it would gradually subside once the triggers are removed.
    I have just realized that my present condition (accommodation problem) start while I was negotiating the terms of my compromise agreement : my landlord at that time had tried to blackmail since he has seen my previous payslips (and thought I was rich) and when I did not accept his blackmail he called the police to me. This police officer in despite of the fact I had shown him that I was in my rights (rent up to date, etc...even my payslips and explained him that I am presently discussing my compromise agreement) he evicted me from the property I was renting (and gave me 30 minutes to remove my belongings from the property I was renting). Since that time (2007), I was living in hotel until 2011 when all my savings have finished (i am on my own (and self employed from 2009) so i was not able to find any guarantor for a new tenancy agreement).

    So, one the main trigger is still really present since two weeks my new landlord tried equally to unlawfully evict me (this time it is because i am now on benefit (after 6 years of leaving on my savings and half time work due to my sickness)) .

    I may sue at least the police for unlawful eviction also.
    A cat who's been sprayed with hot water, will then be afraid of his own bowl of innocent fresh water.
  • notanewuser
    notanewuser Posts: 8,499 Forumite
    Great. Anybody else you want to sue?
    Trying to be a man is a waste of a woman
  • System
    System Posts: 178,344 Community Admin
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    Great. Anybody else you want to sue?
    Me please!!! Me please!!!





















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  • MoonDragon
    MoonDragon Posts: 203 Forumite
    edited 20 January 2013 at 9:15PM
    Great. Anybody else you want to sue?
    This is the cons of forums : the less intelligent people think they smarter...

    Also, to your 'question' witch is simply an insult :
    Great. Anybody else you want to sue?
    I am forced to respond....your mum maybe....
    A cat who's been sprayed with hot water, will then be afraid of his own bowl of innocent fresh water.
  • notanewuser
    notanewuser Posts: 8,499 Forumite
    MoonDragon wrote: »
    This is the cons of forums : the most least intelligent people think they are smart.

    Also, to your 'question' witch is simply an insult :
    I am forced to respond....your mum maybe....

    Oh, the irony. :rotfl:
    Trying to be a man is a waste of a woman
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