The Wolf Run refund for underage entrant

snakelova

Lip-stick......controlling I am not but it did make me laugh, if only you knew me. Like I said none of you know the circumstances behind my reasoning, the question was asked about the refund not about my parenting skills.

Like the sign at the side of my posting said.... Newbie so please be especially nice.

System

The age limit is for legal not safety reasons. Everyone has to sign a waiver for insurance purposes and if you are under 18 that's not legally binding.

cracklepop

snakelova wrote: »

Lip-stick......controlling I am not but it did make me laugh, if only you knew me. Like I said none of you know the circumstances behind my reasoning, the question was asked about the refund not about my parenting skills.

Like the sign at the side of my posting said.... Newbie so please be especially nice.

Pleased it all got sorted in the end.

I think some of the comments you reference are in response to your initial post where it seems your concern seems to be more about the dangers of the course and irresponsibility of the organisers for allowing her to enter. I think people were just trying to point out that if that was your only concern, you may be worrying about nothing.

But as you say, we don't know your reasons, I'm sure they are perfectly valid and it's not for us to make assumptions one way or another.

Final point, thanks for updating the thread with the outcome. There are so many interesting threads on this board that never read reach any sort of conclusion because the OP just disappears!

Robin_TBW

If your daughter wants to experience this event why are you stopping her? This sort of thing will only push her away over time. Let her experience these things and your relationship will be better rather than not giving her the permission to teach her a lesson. She's 17, so what? In less than a year she'll be able to do what she wants and is that year going to make that much of a difference? Physically, no. Mentally, yes - she will remember how you didn't let her take part and how YOU alone basically lost her the deposit so anything she wants to do when she is over 18 do you think she will want to talk to you about it first? I certainly wouldn't.

She's not going out drinking ridiculously, she's not trying to get in to places underage or gamble or anything. Let her have this one.

You are over-protective and need to give her this freedom. Do you think she will cause so much ill-effect to herself that it's bad for her health? Do you think that less than a year from now she'll suddenly be so much different that she'll be able to complete it to a completely different degree and be a different person.

The only person you are crippling here is yourself. She won't want to confront you about deep issues but she don't be shocked when she doesn't come telling you about future events she might want to take part in in the future.

snakelova

WOW Robin TBW dont think there was any need for those comments. You have no idea how close my daughter and I are. We talk about everyting and she will always come to me for advice and guidance which is why she TOTALLY understands my position. She would describe me as her best friend to anybody that asks, I think you would upset her with your comments. Actually it is a health matter to why I dont think she should compete so please dont judge before you know the circumstances. As you can see, I did get her deposit back.

That is the last time I will post things on here its too much effort having to try and explain yoiur reasons.

Thanks to those that tried to help.

ThumbRemote

Robin_TBW wrote: »

If your daughter wants to experience this event why are you stopping her? This sort of thing will only push her away over time. Let her experience these things and your relationship will be better rather than not giving her the permission to teach her a lesson. She's 17, so what? In less than a year she'll be able to do what she wants and is that year going to make that much of a difference? Physically, no. Mentally, yes - she will remember how you didn't let her take part and how YOU alone basically lost her the deposit so anything she wants to do when she is over 18 do you think she will want to talk to you about it first? I certainly wouldn't.

She's not going out drinking ridiculously, she's not trying to get in to places underage or gamble or anything. Let her have this one.

You are over-protective and need to give her this freedom. Do you think she will cause so much ill-effect to herself that it's bad for her health? Do you think that less than a year from now she'll suddenly be so much different that she'll be able to complete it to a completely different degree and be a different person.

The only person you are crippling here is yourself. She won't want to confront you about deep issues but she don't be shocked when she doesn't come telling you about future events she might want to take part in in the future.

Give your parenting 'advice', I assume you're not a parent yourself then.

cracklepop

snakelova wrote: »

WOW Robin TBW dont think there was any need for those comments. You have no idea how close my daughter and I are. We talk about everyting and she will always come to me for advice and guidance which is why she TOTALLY understands my position. She would describe me as her best friend to anybody that asks, I think you would upset her with your comments. Actually it is a health matter to why I dont think she should compete so please dont judge before you know the circumstances. As you can see, I did get her deposit back.

That is the last time I will post things on here its too much effort having to try and explain yoiur reasons.

Thanks to those that tried to help.

Just ignore the comment, as you can see from ThumbRemote's reply, we're not all quite so ready to judge!

There's a lot of excellent advice here and a lot of very helpful people so don't be put off. You just need to have a decent "ignore filter" from time to time!

vaio

halibut2209 wrote: »

Then you have the lovely grey area of can an under-18 legally make such a representation?

or indeed enter into any non essential contract

keyser666

snakelova wrote: »

All of you that comment she should be allowed to take part should stop and think why something says you have to be a certain age to take part. Rules are rules and she has a whole life ahead of herself to enter all the things in the world and I am sure she will. None of you know her or my personal circumstances and to why I believe she should not take part this year. I only wanted to know if it was possible to obtain a refund.

They are not rules as such it will be a condition of insurance. I dont think there are any personal circs here that you allude to as your original post says this is a incrdibly dangerous 10k run which implies that this is your opinion. The site clearly says that you can avoid ANY obstacles and if it was dangerous then they wouldnt host the event.

I do think you are being over protective however it is your child not mine, I do wonder though if you would be of the same opinion if this was a year later and would intervene again, my answer would be yes.

Robin_TBW

ThumbRemote wrote: »

Give your parenting 'advice', I assume you're not a parent yourself then.

If you have to know... I used to be.