Girlfriend feels threatened by my friend?

OptimusNemesis

All,

Things have been going very well with my girlfriend - I just spent a great week with her and we've both recently said that we love eachother. :-)

I was chatting with her online tonight when she suddenly said that she feels a bit threatened by someone on my Facebook. One of my (female) friends on there is someone I saw for a little while long before I met my girlfriend. She has been posting a lot of comments in response to things I've said and they tend to say things like how lucky my girlfriend is for having me, etc. it is a little bit OTT at times and a bit awkward but I'm sure she means well.

Anyway, I told my girlfriend that I'm not even the slightest bit interested in anybody else, which is true. She told me that she trusts me but she's a bit mindful of my friend. Not entirely sure what that means?

I'm not sure exactly how to handle this. Should I say something to my friend and tell her to tone down her comments? Might be a bit awkward but I don't want my girlfriend to get jealous and say or do something silly. She did seem to be a little bit funny about it tonight when I was talking to her, so I don't want this to build up into anything that can spoil things.

Advice appreciated, as always

- G

Own_My_Own

OptimusNemesis wrote: »

All,

Things have been going very well with my girlfriend - I just spent a great week with her and we've both recently said that we love eachother. :-)

I was chatting with her online tonight when she suddenly said that she feels a bit threatened by someone on my Facebook. One of my (female) friends on there is someone I saw for a little while long before I met my girlfriend. She has been posting a lot of comments in response to things I've said and they tend to say things like how lucky my girlfriend is for having me, etc. it is a little bit OTT at times and a bit awkward but I'm sure she means well.

Anyway, I told my girlfriend that I'm not even the slightest bit interested in anybody else, which is true. She told me that she trusts me but she's a bit mindful of my friend. Not entirely sure what that means?

I'm not sure exactly how to handle this. Should I say something to my friend and tell her to tone down her comments? Might be a bit awkward but I don't want my girlfriend to get jealous and say or do something silly. She did seem to be a little bit funny about it tonight when I was talking to her, so I don't want this to build up into anything that can spoil things.

Advice appreciated, as always

- G

You could stop posting on Facebook. Then your ex would have nothing to comment/reply to. (and she is your EX, not someone you saw for a little while, before you started seeing you girlfriend)

mountainofdebt

OptimusNemesis wrote: »

She has been posting a lot of comments in response to things I've said and they tend to say things like how lucky my girlfriend is for having me, etc. it is a little bit OTT at times and a bit awkward but I'm sure she means well.

Tbh I would find this a little offputting myself if my boyfriend's ex made this sort of comment.

Tends to suggest she still has feelings for you, which need to be nipped in the bud. And by that I mean you need to tell her straight - so there is no room for any confusion!

Miss_Havisham

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Tbh I would find this a little offputting myself if my boyfriend's ex made this sort of comment.

Tends to suggest she still has feelings for you, which need to be nipped in the bud. And by that I mean you need to tell her straight - so there is no room for any confusion!

she knows exactly what she's doing, trying to wind up your current girlfriend and thinks she looks clever to her bunch of FB mates. Block her from your FB and tell your g/f to do the same. Ignore her, she sounds like a nasty piece of work.

PS her behaviour is obvious to most women but I can see that to a bloke it will be a non-issue because in the main men don't behave like that. So I think you should listen to your girlfriend and to us women who have replied to you !

Mummy_Dfw

Agree miss havisham!

*Louise*

My response would depend on a couple of things: How long have you been together and has your ex only recently started being OTT on Facebook?

It could be that she is doing it to wind up your gf, or it could be your gf is getting jealous. In either case you need to reassure her more that the ex means nothing to you romantically.

Delete her if she is on a windup but if she is a genuine friend who you want to keep then have a quiet word about the content. If you delete friends whenever a new gf doesn't like them you soon won' t have any left.

Errata

I was chatting with her online tonight when she suddenly said that she feels a bit threatened by someone on my Facebook

Talk to your GF using your voice. Stop posting details of your life on social networking sites.

martinthebandit

If your gf ex was posting similar stuff on her fb page how would you feel?

Miss_Poohs

Is this a purely Internet relationship, or do you and your new girlfriend have a "real" relationship?

Just as an aside - if it was my ex's new squeeze I'd be wishing her the best of luck, she'd bloody need it lol!!

emsywoo123

OptimusNemesis wrote: »

All,

Things have been going very well with my girlfriend - I just spent a great week with her and we've both recently said that we love eachother. :-)

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Miss_Poohs wrote: »

Is this a purely Internet relationship, or do you and your new girlfriend have a "real" relationship?

I think this answers it.........

Miss_Havisham

FB has a lot to answer for. People seem to conduct a parallel life through it and risk it over-taking their "real" life.