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  • slowlyfading
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    :hello: Cath and thanks for stopping by! I will let you know re: the bathroom. It'll be so nice to have it finished :) and let me know what you think of the blog!
    Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
    Personal Finance Blogger + YouTuber / In pursuit of FIRE
  • slowlyfading
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    This might be a bit of a depressing post, so feel free to skip :o

    I feel really emotional today, anxious and tired. I'm worried about going back to work next week - not sure why? I have some school work to complete but I have this week to do it and it shouldn't take me too long. I think it's because I know there will be changes to deal with when I get back and that I have no choice in the matter. I'll get on with it but I'm worried about how difficult it might be.

    I'm also worrying about other things which is beginning to take it's toll :( anyone got any tips for trying to stay relaxed? Most of the things are out of my control which doesn't help! But I keep getting that feeling in my stomach like a knot, as if I'm worried about something and it's making me feel ill. Gah.

    I also feel that because we're TTC, I should try and lose some weight as well. But that's another added pressure! It would make life easier if I could, but then I don't want to be stressed about it either. I'm a person who is an all-or-nothing and there's not much in between so I don't know if I should even focus on the numbers. I am trying to eat more healthily, but I don't know if it's enough.

    Told you it would be a depressing post :o
    Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
    Personal Finance Blogger + YouTuber / In pursuit of FIRE
  • ljaneyr
    ljaneyr Posts: 1,135 Forumite
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    Hi SF,

    The things you can't control can be the most stressful. Going back to work is worrying at the best of times especially when you know there will be changes going on. All you can do is make sure you are prepared for the stuff you know you'll need and cope with the rest as and when it happens.

    When I've got something worrying me I get the feeling of my stomach muscles sort of knotting or clenching. It's horrible because I can't control it and it happens again and again, even when I'm not actually thinking about the thing that I'm anxious about. Is that the sort of thing you're getting? About the only thing that helps me is really taking my mind off it, something like walking the dog or really concentrating on something else.

    Maybe you could aim to be a bit more healthy rather than focusing on weight loss? Again, walking would be great, eating well and maybe some yoga or something? It could help you feel better and lose some weight.

    Don't worry about moaning on here, I'm just off to moan on my own diary :o
    "It is often said that before you die your life passes before your eyes. It is in fact true. It's called living." Terry Pratchett
    Bought our house 2012 :) Married 2015 :D Started renovating 2015 :eek:
    Renovation fund... what renovation fund? :eek: Emergency fund 40% Future fund... ongoing...
  • slowlyfading
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    ljaneyr wrote: »
    The things you can't control can be the most stressful. Going back to work is worrying at the best of times especially when you know there will be changes going on. All you can do is make sure you are prepared for the stuff you know you'll need and cope with the rest as and when it happens.
    I'm not good with massive changes either - I'm just going to focus on my own stuff I think and hope for the best :o
    When I've got something worrying me I get the feeling of my stomach muscles sort of knotting or clenching. It's horrible because I can't control it and it happens again and again, even when I'm not actually thinking about the thing that I'm anxious about. Is that the sort of thing you're getting? About the only thing that helps me is really taking my mind off it, something like walking the dog or really concentrating on something else.
    That's exactly how I feel! I played the piano for an hour before which took my mind off things :)
    Maybe you could aim to be a bit more healthy rather than focusing on weight loss? Again, walking would be great, eating well and maybe some yoga or something? It could help you feel better and lose some weight.
    That's probably a good idea - I need to focus on healthy and getting fit rather than the numbers.
    Don't worry about moaning on here, I'm just off to moan on my own diary :o
    Off there to see what's up :) thanks for replying x
    Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
    Personal Finance Blogger + YouTuber / In pursuit of FIRE
  • Oh SF I know exactly how you feel. Metaphorically holding your hand with you over the next few days & weeks, we're all in this together.

    I'm trying to work on 'mindfulness' at the moment, there's an app called headspace (you get a free trial) that is very good for those anxious moments.

    Keep going, remember each year is only 195 days, will be the summer hols again before we know it.
    Mortgage outstanding: [STRIKE]£47,750 (August 2014)[/STRIKE] [STRIKE][/STRIKE]£46,950 (Nov 14)[STRIKE][/STRIKE] £44,900 (June 2015)
    Student loan: Paid off June 2015 - 10 years & 2months.
  • slowlyfading
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    Wish - thank you for that :) when I'm there and in the classroom with some lovely children who are coming to realise they can do something they previously thought they couldn't is a wonderful feeling and I need to remember that. It's just all of the other stuff that comes with it that I'm wary of.

    I was going to do some baking today but I didn't buy any baking parchment. D'oh! So I'll either pop to Mr Ms tonight or tomorrow to get some.

    I'm watching shutter island whilst trying to do some school work. I need to do some seating plans and some planing for my year 13s, but it's going alright. I'm doing it in small doses so I don't lose focus or motivation :) getting slowly back in the mindset and thinking about other things that will happen next week.
    Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
    Personal Finance Blogger + YouTuber / In pursuit of FIRE
  • Year 13s, doesn't sound like fun....
    I've got year 1, and still not got access or info about any of it... Ho hum, will have to enjoy that holiday feeling for a bit longer. (Although I do enjoy start of year prep)

    Keep going. And let us know what you bake. I've just munched a piece of pims cake. Yummy yummy.
    Mortgage outstanding: [STRIKE]£47,750 (August 2014)[/STRIKE] [STRIKE][/STRIKE]£46,950 (Nov 14)[STRIKE][/STRIKE] £44,900 (June 2015)
    Student loan: Paid off June 2015 - 10 years & 2months.
  • slowlyfading
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    Year 13s, doesn't sound like fun....
    I've got year 1, and still not got access or info about any of it... Ho hum, will have to enjoy that holiday feeling for a bit longer. (Although I do enjoy start of year prep)
    Year 13s are great as they want to be there! They've picked the subject at A level and you can have good discussions about various topics :) Year 1 sounds scary to me...!
    Keep going. And let us know what you bake. I've just munched a piece of pims cake. Yummy yummy.
    Pims cake?! That sounds amazing - recipe please! I'm going to make a lemon drizzle cake this afternoon :)
    Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
    Personal Finance Blogger + YouTuber / In pursuit of FIRE
  • ljaneyr
    ljaneyr Posts: 1,135 Forumite
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    What subject do you teach SF? Hope I'm not being too nosy :o Pm me if it's too much info for the public ;)

    Wish - I've got Y1 and 2 for the first time, have you had that year group before?

    Janey x
    "It is often said that before you die your life passes before your eyes. It is in fact true. It's called living." Terry Pratchett
    Bought our house 2012 :) Married 2015 :D Started renovating 2015 :eek:
    Renovation fund... what renovation fund? :eek: Emergency fund 40% Future fund... ongoing...
  • slowlyfading
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    ljaneyr wrote: »
    What subject do you teach SF? Hope I'm not being too nosy :o Pm me if it's too much info for the public ;)
    PM sent :)
    Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
    Personal Finance Blogger + YouTuber / In pursuit of FIRE
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