Hoarding - A New Start

sjprmc01

I've been AWOL (ill and working mainly) my house is in the same state as weeks ago. Except it has MORE in it since whilst working so much I kept thinking I had 'no' clothes to wear which actually really means I had none ready to be worn (in the laundry) so I've been silly and added to it

I am off work this weekend however I will be out all of Saturday and I really would like to do something as a family on Sun as we rarely get family time.

It's so difficult to balance between sorting this place out and doing the normal day to day and also finding time for everyone else. Maybe I'm just really really poor at time management? I have done NOTHING this morning so far. But it feels like the only time ie had to myself for ages, and actually I've done 2 washings, hung what I could fit on the radiators to dry from their heat as they were on for a short while, picked a pile of my clothes off the bedroom floor and put it at one end of the bed and another pile off the floor, of OH's which I put at the other end of the bed. I MUST force myself to move

idristhedragon

SJPRMC01 I totally feel your pain. I feel like if I am doing one thing then another fails- its like a precarious house of cards/spinning plates, you know what I mean. For example this morning I decided to try to sort out the pile of clothes in my bedroom, which then led to moving/cleaning my dressing table. That then led to rearranging dressing table, which led to husband coming up at 8.20 to me in my dressing gown shifting stuff around bedroom. I hadn't made packed lunches, wasn't dressed, and we leave for school at 8.40. I then picked up baby at 8.45, flew home, wrote shopping list, jumped in car, flew round Tesco (all this with as much "flying" as you can do trailing a 14 month old!) came home, drove up and down my street 3 times to try and find a parking space, unloaded shopping, let cleaner in at 10, put shopping away, put baby down for nap, sorted washing. Spoke to mother on phone, had semi argument with mother as she thought it was HILARIOUS that Id hired a de clutterer. If only she knew the reasons behind my decluttering *zips lip as shes a member here*

Now I am literally having a cuppa in the 5 monutes before I fish the baby back out of bed and get the girls from nursery, bring them home and feed them before an afternoon at soft play (at least they'll be messing that not my house )
Tomorrow is my day off and I want to go to the gym, and not spend all day sorting and churning. But you just feel so guilty of you don't, don't you. Its a non win situation.

sjprmc01

I'm tired just reading that, idris!

I hung the rest of the washing and made a cuppa while I decide what to tackle. Day-to-day me says the ironing (pr part thereof) needs doing. De-hoarding me says the cupboard-of-doom needs tackling as the kids haven't been able to access half their Xmas toys but I KNOW cupboard is a major task, unfortunately, and it will take more than one day

Florenceem

PudseyDB wrote: »

Thank you for all the lovely and supportive cmments.

Luckily we won't have to empty the bungalow quickly as my parents owned it rather than renting - which takes the pressure off us a little. The biggest problem is that I live 70 miles away so its not like I can just pop over for an hour. My sister lives just 5 minutes drive away, but its not fair to leave it to her to sort it all out.

Luckily its not the home I grew up in and I never lived there, so don't have that emotional connection to the building itself. But thinking about it....there's a lot to go through and rehome.

We are 70 miles away from Mil's flat which she owned. No car so train journey with a change at Ashford International so quite a palaver and takes time.

guinea_pig_girl

I've been on such a mission trying to get rid of stuff that I'm driving myself mad. I've sort of dropped everything else and been frantically thinking de-hoard but managed to get myself in a state as I've spent so much emotional energy on all this, and really, no-one including me can see much difference for all the angst endured

So, I thought, I shall stop and calm down and breathe, and find the space. But then, managed to throw a few things out in passing, 2 pairs of earrings before work this morning?!?!

Being able to pass it to the nice lady at work for the car boot sale is great!

Hang in there everyone, hugs and a nice cuppa to all.

PudseyDB

Florenceem wrote: »

We are 70 miles away from Mil's flat which she owned. No car so train journey with a change at Ashford International so quite a palaver and takes time.

Oh that must be a nightmare! I'm lucky in that my partner has a big car (6 seater MPV) so if we leave the 3 kids at home (age 17 - 9yrs) with the 2 dogs, we'll be able to put a fair bit in the car.

Its just what to do with the things then! We currently have a lock-up storage but he'd already set up a plan to clear that by the end of Easter - although he hasnt told the company anything yet.

whitewing

Glad you're back iris.

Pudsey, sorry to hear about your mum. Hope you're okay.

There has been loads of incoming stuff for DD as it was her birthday recently. I am trying to persuade DH that some more of the family cuddly toys need to go. I feel overwhelmed.

Chugging along very slowly here. Work, home, declutter is overlapping constantly and all seems to be interdependent. Am devastated that DH was off sick earlier this month. He thought that he'd get sick pay but he didn't. That has really knocked the great budgeting that I have been doing. I feel unreasonably cross with him, he was genuinely ill but I sort of think he could have selfishly dragged himself in.

I'm on a downer I think. I'll be better once tomorrow's out of the way. I don't feel that anyone is being helpful at all today. (I'm not being grumpy at people so it's not that).

Oh well, on I go.

idristhedragon

Rarrrr! I have the rage this afternoon. I sold a kids coat on ebay for £1.04 and posted it this week. The buyer messaged me yesterday to say she hadn't received it, and today I open messages to a flipping CASE opened against me. I emailed her back saying im terribly sorry your £1.04 purchase was yet to arrive, please be patient and id appreciate you CLOSING the case as quickly as you opened it when your £1.04 item does show up. As my Grandad used to say sarcasm is the lowest form of wit but COME ON!!
ALso my beautiful new laptop has windows 8 on it and its driving me POTTY. Im far too old to learn a new system! If I wanted to learn a new thing Id have saved up and got a flipping Mac!
Rarrrrrrr. Rage. Lucikly Im going to the gym this evening to take it out on some weights

blossomhill_2

RE keeping the plates spinning - when I was at work I made sure that whatever urgent important long-term pressing fastballs I'd been working on all week, I still always did short term items on Friday afternoons (it was quiet then) like stickering up an envelope for each of our main contacts, one for each day, tidying all the surfaces, ordering stationery, putting in my claims, applying for leave etc

It was always tempting to get stuck into some long term tasks when it was quiet but I realised the value of arriving Mon am feeling organised - so I am trying to do the same pattern now I work from home, and it seems to be working and frees me up some head space for longer term decluttering. Of course I have gained at least 5, probably 7 or 8 hours a week not travelling to work. I also "book" times in my smart phone calender for things I would otherwise avoid doing - and stick to them!

Gingernutty

Not much by way of decluttering here either.

:eek: :eek: The new job is a bit OMFG!! :eek: :eek:

I've had two days to shadow someone, then have flitted between 3 wards different to the one I started off in and utterly, utterly manic.

Section 2s, section 5s, ICTs, OT referrals, PT referrals, in-area, out-of-area, compos mentis, non compos mentis, capacity, insight, patient interviews (for an ADMIN position!?), tracking down relatives for face to face or 'phone interviews, NMF, MFFD, MDT meetings, handovers, assessments - JEEPERS! :eek:

I'm swamped. I genuinely don't know what I'm doing most of the time, haven't time to sort out stuff and no one has time to show me or sit down to explain anything in any detail.

That, and I've had a chippy letter from the head of the temping team about how to fill in a timesheet properly. Complete with a photocopy of my submitted timesheet with the mistakes highlighted and a photocopy of a specimen timesheet as it should be filled in. I've never been shown how to fill one in at all! :eek: :mad:

I've got a carrier bag at the bottom of the stairs which I'm filling up with stuff I don't need for whatever reason.

One such thing is the vanity case one of my SILs got me one Christmas.

It was top quality Primani! Black background with a busy multicoloured pattern.

I put it on top of my chest of drawers in my bedroom and filled it with shoe orthotics. I've got quite a collection which I have to mix and match according to the shoes I wear.

Sunday, I emptied it into a drawer which I used for all the polish, dusters, shoe horns, winter grippy things and spare shoe trees. I brought the polish downstairs and put it in the kitchen. I found polishing the shoes in my bedroom got little flecks of shoe polish over the bedroom floor and as it was so greasy, it was a pain to try to clean up.

Then I realised it was very awkward having it all in the kitchen as the shoes went straight to the bedroom and I would have to go out of my way to take the shoes downstairs to the kitchen and polish them.

So I brought it all back upstairs again, emptied out the 'posh' underwear drawer (five pairs of big control pants I haven't worn for quite a while including one flesh coloured number that finishes under my bra! :rotfl: :eek:), put them in with the rest of my knickers and used the now empty drawer for the polish, dusters shoe horns etc., etc..

I've cut a newspaper in half and folded the pages in on top of the stuff, so that when I do polish my shoes, I've got something to cover the floor with. Why didn't I think of that before?

I can still get rid of that horrible plastick-y vanity case, I have a little more horizontal surface on the top of the chest of drawers and, as they are all laid out in the drawer, I don't have to waste time rummaging around looking for a matching pair of orthotics. :cool:

It's not much by way of consolation for a crappy, stress filled job, mind.