Hoarding - A New Start

mcculloch29

PudseyDB wrote: »

I'm in a bit of a turmoil at the moment........after receiving a phone call from my sister to say Mum has died.

After the initial shock, its dawned on me that the two of us are going to have to empty her 2 bed bungalow, garage and shed. No idea how we're going to find room for the things we cant possibly get rid of - as both our houses already seem packed solid! Looks like I'll have to try and do some ruthless dehoarding here in the next few weeks.

Oh Pudsey, what an awful shock for you. Sincerest condolences on the loss of your Mum. Huge hugs.
Nothing will seem real for a while. I am so sorry for your troubles.

You can always put your Mum's stuff into storage for a time, then think about what you want to keep. Wishing you and your sister strength and comfort.

VJsmum

Pudsey, So sorry for your loss

minimoneyme

Pudsey, so sorry to hear of your sad loss, thinking of you and your family.

sevenup01

(((Pudsey))) i am so sorry for your loss.

Mcculloch29 i have sent you a pm - those courses sound very good indeed. Thank you for sharing them with us.

lostinrates

Oh Pudsey, condolences.

The sad thing is a lot of dealing with 'stuff' is at times we feel emotional or stressed or insecure. .

GreyQueen

((((Pudsey)))) so sorry to hear that you Mum has passed away.

I talk to people most weeks who have to tell us that their relative (our tenant) has passed away and they need to give up their house or flat. It's upsetting to have to clear a home at the best of times but to do it to hand it back to the landlord is even harder than to have to clear ahead or organising a sale, when you have more time.

Please be gentle with yourself and your sister, too.

blossomhill_2

Pudsey
So so sorry for your loss - the belongings will be the last thing you want to think about for a while so I hope you are not under pressure to empty her bungalow quickly, esp if you have to wait for probate

I found it best to put my mum's version of something with my own and see which I preferred, in fact I am still doing it now. Once the item was out of the context of her house I could see it more clearly. A friend whose mum died at the same time had her house emptied by clearance people (before applying for probate!) and moved on, but that just wasn't my way and I don't think it sounds like yours either

blossomhill_2

lostinrates wrote: »

The sad thing is a lot of dealing with 'stuff' is at times we feel emotional or stressed or insecure. .

and that is so true and a big incentive to keep chipping away at our own stuff so we don't pass on more of a burden than necessary or have to sort it under duress

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Sorry to hear that, Pudsey.


I've bagged up a whole bin bag full of clothes that are too big, too small, don't look right or I just don't see being in fashion if I lose anymore weight. Usually, I would bin them. But I see there's a cash for clothes place a couple of miles away. I wonder if they'd be worth visiting? Anyone?


What sort of size walk in are we talking about, LIR?

blossomhill_2

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

I've bagged up a whole bin bag full of clothes that are too big, too small, don't look right or I just don't see being in fashion if I lose anymore weight. Usually, I would bin them. But I see there's a cash for clothes place a couple of miles away. I wonder if they'd be worth visiting? Anyone?

cash for clothes isn't wrth wastng petrol on but if you can walk there, I got £7.50 for 3 bin bags. It's good for stuff that isn't CS worthy and can bump up weight with belts in any old condition but looking at £7.50 in my hand did make me wodner why I didn't just shove in the onstreet recycling hoppers