Hoarding - A New Start

metalswan

Hi, usually lurk but wanted to say a big thank-you to the op and everyone who contributes! You have helped me more than you will ever know. I have been joining in and cheering you on from the sidelines and sending many healing vibes to you. Hope to post more now have got over the fear of the first 'perfect' post.
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GreyQueen

metalswan wrote: »

Hi, usually lurk but wanted to say a big thank-you to the op and everyone who contributes! You have helped me more than you will ever know. I have been joining in and cheering you on from the sidelines and sending many healing vibes to you. Hope to post more now have got over the fear of the first 'perfect' post.
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:T Thanks for stepping out, I've noticed your name in the thanks lists. Please don't ever feel that a post (or anything else) has to be perfect. I sure as hell am very imperfect and am sitting here in my jammies (top and bottom from different sets) wondering to spend the last bit of time before getting ready for work playing on the web or doing the dishes and straigtening out my kitchen.

I know what I "should" be doing but, as once I'm in the office I'll be at the beck and call of others without break for hours, I'm feeling a touch mutinous............:rotfl:

blossomhill_2

metalswan wrote: »

Hi, usually lurk but wanted to say a big thank-you to the op and everyone who contributes! You have helped me more than you will ever know. I have been joining in and cheering you on from the sidelines and sending many healing vibes to you. Hope to post more now have got over the fear of the first 'perfect' post.
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That's good to know, who knows, maybe we felt the vibes and it just might have been them that gave us the extra push

I decided to short cut my shredded paper disposal this week, as it is too much to compost yet, so I put it into the wheely bin - didn't bag it as I thought spread out would be better security-wise - until I saw the wheely tipped over in the wind, lid open, with gale blowing around it, seconds away from scooping up my strips of confidential waste into a whirlwind :eek::eek::eek: - I am back to putting them into buckets of water by the compost bin until there is space! (Yes, I have plenty of buckets, as if you hadn't guessed! )

GQ - you little rebel you! Well it is Friday! Why not go the whole hog and wear PJs to the office

JayneC

Good morning - interesting posts today. I too am not a big fan of lists of stuff and I think that's why I didn't stick on the declutter thread, however I have listed myself at times and I too just skim over posts that I don't feel I need to read. People are just people and everyone is different. Nobody needs to worry about doing 'the wrong thing' and if people don't like bits then they have to take responsibility for how they react to that, including giving yourself permission to ignore it...

I like this thread as it feels 'safe', people can be very open and that helps me feel I can be too. I'm also one of those people who quietly get on with it and people things I'm so 'sorted' but I don't talk about things so I don't share my trials and troubles like a lot of others seem to and so people assume everything is rosy! I also don't like facebook for that reason - I have no desire to share my every move with all and sundry:p

Anyway am progressing at a slower pace, but progressing nevertherless. I now have a dilemma - I have 2 part used cans of camping stove gas that are not needed (the stove is broken) so what do I do with them? I can't really put them in the bin as I don't fancy exploding the bin wagon:eek: so what to do? Am I gonna have to go to the tip? Will they even take them? Any suggestions??

Going to switch my bank account today - my own little protest against the corrupt HSBC. I'm sure they'll be gutted that they're losing such a valuable customer - not:rotfl:!! And then I'm going to organise my finances as I have lots of bank accounts all over the place, mostly with not a lot in - £20 her £20 there... cos I keep opening ISAs and then not having anything to save:rotfl:so I'm going to close them all and have just one savings account. De hoarding bank accounts:p

lostinrates

Had a terrible day yesterday with 'stuff' going on. Today things seem more even and the kindness of the professionals I use is staggaring. I love, love love my equine vets. I only moved because equine dentist recommended them and prefers them for sedation, so we had sedation with them, had chance to chat and I moved lock stock and barrel to them. Wish they did small animals too. Anyway, after a depressing visit from one of them about the very old horse I had a call from my equine dentist who had been told the bad news and he has said he will drop in this weekend to have a second look, just to see if there is anything he can do to help or advise the vet.

I doubt there is, but it means we have covered all bases and those who have shown this horse their professional interest and admiration can all feel they have had a fair crack at thje whip too.

Anyway, I feel physically very much stronger today, I have a meeting for a music festival commitee very shortly and I have told dh I want to deal with the Richard that is the oak tree.
Oak tree was felled, with no shortage of tears, last summer, and we had to move it speedily for site access for builders. Now it's had a winter out to its benefit, but that area looks a mess, and it looked decent , one of the first areas we tidied up when we moved in.

So while I feel good the plan is for dh to chain saw and me to stack so that we have 'processed' some firewood for the future and ctan tidy up that area (where buisness and private meet, so gives a poor impression to both.

nil_2

hello all,

i've been lurking for a while & plucking up the courage to join in on this thread & the decluttering thread. i've recently moved home, i have been slowly decluttering over the years but unfortunately after a recent move have a paid storage room to tackle but before that i have a fair bit to shift on ebay at new place. i've recently lost my brother to cancer (he was 34) it was very sudden/aggressive so i'm trying to come to terms with this, after losing my father a few years ago & suffering a nervous breakdown i don't want to go down the same route again. motivation has always been a big problem for me & at this difficult time it could get worse - it kind of already has as my homes looking like a tip right now but it was my brothers funeral last week & i've been exhausted so i'm trying to cut myself some slack, i plan to get on it more asap. so i have come here to get some advice & support from fellow hoarders/declutterers in the hope this will help me reach my ultimate goal of being clutter free, i believe the decluttering will help my mental health some what & help me move forward in my life.

onwards & upwards!

best wishes,

claire

lancashirelassie

Mangaged some small bits of makeup to go and 4 makeup bags... what I dont really wear it either.. how come I have so much... well some is now on my face others are ear marked to be used throughout the year.. also sorted stash of toiletires to be used first and making a drastic reduction in purchase of same. Son does come up and help relieve me of items periodically for his own purposes.
As cash is tight at the mo I keep hanging onto stuff:mad: but have made me a declaration and sorted items to be worn 1 more time then thrown away when I take them off... I do cringe about throwing dirty clothes away!! (They are not fit for CS trust me!) After wardrobe sort out more space appeared Ya ha!!!
Sorted the food cupboards the same there is still OD stuff in there but am working it out, I always have to try using it first.. if not suitable then it is very easy to discard it.
Made son laugh the other day by asking him a dumb stupid question did he want his milk teeth??? He asked why I had them? I just said its what mum's do!! So out they went...:o.
I dont have any big items to go out its lots of small stuff that is taking up space but I am making progress with it... looking forward to the summer to spend more time outside as I will have done a (quote someones on here mantra)"good enough is good enough" job to allow me to do it:rotfl:
Keep pecking at it Peeps X

blossomhill_2

nil wrote: »

so i have come here to get some advice & support from fellow hoarders/declutterers in the hope this will help me reach my ultimate goal of being clutter free, i believe the decluttering will help my mental health some what & help me move forward in my life

You will (get help and advice here) and it will (help your mental health) - so a big welcome

nil wrote: »

i've been exhausted so i'm trying to cut myself some slack

yes you need to, it's actually what we are not very good at.

I am sorry to hear of your losses, you will still be very very raw from them and any physical "stuff" that you are emotionally attached to is likely to trigger all sorts of feelings, but in some ways it can be theraputic, as I found when I lost my mother, dealing with her belongings and my own hoard were actually a way of dealing with the loss, and feeling the pain and coming some way out of the other side. Being able to say "yes I can deal with that now because it is only a thing that represents a certain time of my life" can be helpful in accepting that that particular time is over. I have suddenly become able to deal with photos, whereas previously I couldn't look at even one, because they represent a happier time, and I deserve to be able to look back at that time and think "yes I am lucky, we were very happy" - I lost someone very young too and it has been very hard to accept

So do please join us, as said above very eloquently by other posters, there is no right or wrong here, we don't do perfection (if we did, we wouldn't be here)

This_Year

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

And, regarding facebook, you can choose to appear invisible to chat. Mine's permanently set to that after I got a few people trying to chat when I wasn't in the mood for it.


I really am a curmudgeonly old bag when I set my mind to it

I must be too as mine is permanently set to invisible too. Likewise Messenger etc. I can see my friends on there but if I'm tired I won't want to chat, so leave myself as "appear offline" don't think I've changed that in 5 years :rotfl:

This_Year

nil, take things at your own pace. You've had a lot to deal with recently, so give yourself time. I wished I had read on rather than going shopping after my last post, as it now makes me look insensitive, and I'm cringing at how it looks!

You'll find it helps to read, post if you feel like posting, there's a lot of support here