Hoarding - A New Start

whitewing

SueMaggie wrote: »

Just wanted to de-lurk following people mentioning not wanting to throw away make-up, talc etc.

These people Give and Makeup collect make-up, toiletries and baby stuff which is given to women and children in women's shelters who have had to leave home due to domestic violence, sometimes without time to take anything at all with them.

There are only a couple of drop-off points for stuff, but you can send parcels to their HQ.

I'm a terror for buying hair products that don't work so I use only once, save every shampoo sachet out of magazines and keep all the gift with purchase minis that come with products. I had a very satisfying clear out of a couple of drawers in my bedroom and the bathroom cabinet and sent off a parcel to them today.

There's a list of what they're looking for here - obviously anything out of date or so old that it's gone funny shouldn't be sent.

You do have to pay for postage, but it's for a great cause and it's freed up a lot of space for me.

Re-lurking now...

Here we are.

This_Year

Thanks suzitiger, sounds really silly but volunteering hadn't even occurred to me! Will definitely look into that. Many thanks!

Gingernutty

This_Year wrote: »

I finish work in 6 weeks. And it's now beginning to affect me - I have no appetite but am not even losing weight, that would be a fair swap for the appetite loss! I'm not sleeping that well, wake up feeling sick, can't really swallow and am crying at the drop of a hat. I've registered with an agency for work, and applied for other jobs but heard nothing yet, I have a knot in my tummy the whole time, my mind is all over the place.

Sorry to be on a downer

:grouphug: Dodgy hugs This Year, I can definitely relate to that.

Good luck with the job hunt.

suzitiger

This_Year wrote: »

Thanks suzitiger, sounds really silly but volunteering hadn't even occurred to me! Will definitely look into that. Many thanks!

Glad to be a help, let us know if you find something good

whitewing wrote: »

Here we are.

ahhh you found it, thanks so much!

mcculloch29

This_Year wrote: »

Thanks suzitiger, sounds really silly but volunteering hadn't even occurred to me! Will definitely look into that. Many thanks!

In 2001 my childminding work dried up and I had to change careers. I really wanted to be an adult education tutor for computing, (I had a Level 3 NVQ) but the only post I could get for teaching practice was voluntary work.
It led to a paid post within 10 months and I've worked in the sector ever since - I've built up a huge wad of qualifications too.

MrsAtobe

GQ, I had the all or nothing conversation with SIL2B today, and her reaction was 'good enough is good enough'. Wise words, when my mum drummed into me (along with other things) that if a things worth doing, it's worth doing perfectly.

HTH

decogecko

Hi all

2 bin liners with cushions and ill-fitting bed sheets taken. Along with the only thing me a late OH brought together, a canvas print. I have nowhere to put it, I have the memories I don't need the physical object. This is a personal opinion and I completely understand those keeping 'things' that belonged to loved ones that have passed, up until now I haven't been able to get rid of it, but the time is right for me (with massive of help from this thread - thank you).

I keep thinking that I'm going to run out of 'stuff' to give to the CS but then I find more things or I revisit certain items and decide that they can go.

GQ know exactly what you mean, I can get myself in a right tizz about doing something but knowing I won't have the time to finish it, so I never even get the something started. Then feel like a failure for not doing said task.

Big welcome to the new posters & hello lurkers!

Deco x

Pitlanepiglet

Volunteering is FAB, I did some when I was in between jobs having been bullied out of mine. I went from being in a hell hole of a place with awful people around me, to being APPRECIATED! I can't tell you how good it was for me....

It also looks good on your CV and can give you the chance to gain other skills than those you already have. Go for it

Big hugs xxx

blossomhill_2

Something has been bothering me about the idea of people hanging onto gold rather than selling now; it depends on personalities

I think the big question is: can you trust yourself to act swiftly and sell your gold at the peak of the market or when prices start to drop but haven't fallen too far?

If you can put it away, parcelled up ready to sell, and are prepared to watch the markets, and be able to interpret them, to recognise when it's a quick dip rather than a downward trend, then that's good

But given what I know about the hoarding personality (ahem!) ... will you be ready to let go, will you be able to find the bally stuff, will you be organised enough to get off your bum and sell it, will you be full of good intention but beset by illness ... will other family commitments have to take priority? Do you see what I mean?

I had shares years ago in a company whose share price suddenly peaked ... I lost £1000s (of potential profit, not actual) trying to decide to sell, wondering if it would go higher ... then getting my act together ...

I sold a coin recently that was valued a few years ago at half today's price ... the gold market was dead at the time and I was advised to hang onto it ... gold has picked up so I knew I should sell ... if only I could find the thing! I doubt gold prices will halve but will they climb forever?

GQ - your reluctance to start what may not be completed in a oner is probably based on your experience of your past efforts ... but you've learnt a lot since then and, coming back to trust, can trust the present-day you to come back to and complete the project or accept that you don't want to and dispose - I think!

I am doing a big project at the mo and am enjoying packing it away at night and hearing "ping" when my phone reminder tells me the next day (or whenever) it is my scheduled time to get it out and carry on

VJsmum

whitewing wrote: »

But one of my employees said to me they can remember when their mortgage went up to 15% years ago. That would be a shock and a half. I try and get DH into the mindset of overpaying because of this but he feels genuinely deprived (because we've never had much spare cash between us ever, growing up or being together).

When I got my first mortgage with OH in 1989 we fixed our interest at 12% for two or maybe three years. We were quids in, I think the rate was above that for pretty much the whole time - it seems inconceivable now. But that drop in interest rates is one of the reasons why the endowments are not paying back as much as was thought when many of us took them out. We had one payout a couple of years ago - £22, 0000 on a mortgage of £17000. THis was OH's first mortgage (our joint one was his third - sounds like marriages! ). But the other 3 or 4 will not payout so well. Luckily we have made other provisions through some careful investment and a couple of good financial decisions regarding some windfalls to be able to put money aside and make alternative investments as pension provision. We have not calculated for ANY state pension and feel fortunate enough that we can probably retire long before state pension age. I feel for those watching their retirement age keep going back and back.

This_Year wrote: »

26 things on ebay today, wavered a bit no wavered a lot with 2 ironstone jugs and decided they're actually keepers as they're too quirky and unusual not to keep. And it gives OH great pleasure to come in and say "nice jugs" sorry he has the mental age of 10 sometimes

:rotfl: That's the sort of thing my OH would say, too.

MrsAtobe wrote: »

GQ, I had the all or nothing conversation with SIL2B today, and her reaction was 'good enough is good enough'. Wise words, when my mum drummed into me (along with other things) that if a things worth doing, it's worth doing perfectly.

HTH

See my sig!

I struggle with starting jobs I know can't be finished too. Cleaning the house is case in point. It takes 4 - 5 hours to clean properly all through and I rarely have that block of time together. i am learning to "just do the bathrooms today" or whatever but it doesn't have the satisfaction of having a totally clean house.

Still, in the immortal words of Mary Poppins, "WEll begun is half done"

I have a charity bag being collected tomorrow. I am determined that it will be full.