Bets time to have a baby with respect to schooling

Greener_Grass

What i said is perhaps harsh but it is realitiy. When i started my ttc journey i wish i'd known more about infertility and how so many people struggle as it may have made my journey easier. Going into it with my eyes closed assuming i'd get pregnant quickly has only made my journey harder.

I was lucky enough to get pregnant after 27 long months trying but my baby died. Maybe you can see why i find it so hard to lick the OP and pretend everything will be fine.

I truly wish my biggest problem in life was worrying about which part of the year my child was going to be born in. There are so many threads on here about real problems, i simply could not bite my tongue this time as the question is so laughable to me.

quietheart

fluffnutter wrote: »

My son was born in July and he seems a bit of an idiot, frankly, so perhaps there's something in it.

same here!!

Janepig

Greener_Grass wrote: »

I truly wish my biggest problem in life was worrying about which part of the year my child was going to be born in. There are so many threads on here about real problems, i simply could not bite my tongue this time as the question is so laughable to me.

But I don't think the OP is claiming that it's her biggest problem in life, it was just a question.

Jx

mumcoll

I had one in September, one in March and one in June, so have experienced eldest, middle and youngest. All three of them got their GCSE's and A Levels and all have degrees. It didn't seem to matter where they were in relation to their peers.

FBaby

When you suffer from infertility, it does become frustrating to face people who take their fertility for granted. That's natural, yet it is not right to expect people to be grateful for things that in all likelihood, they will be able to enjoy.

However, planning when to conceive a baby just because statistics supposedly claim that their children is more likely to do better at school is very much taking it too far for me. There are so many much more important factors to consider, which much more proven links, that I fail to see why anyone would focus on something so insignificant in terms of impact in a child's future.

I suppose once you have done everything to insure you are as healthy as you can be (quite all drinking, all smocking, perfect BMI, exercising regularly etc...), insuring perfect financial position so not to rely on any benefits at all and preparing yourself completely psychological for the impact of a child, then maybe once all these matters have been exhausted, you can even take it to the extreme of doing everything to insure your baby is born in September!

Hanging_by_a_thread

balletshoes wrote: »

it depends on so many other things though - it depends if the child has had socialisation in nursery school prior to going to school, it depends on what they've already learned before they get to school, etc etc etc.

Exactly this. My October born child attended a fantastic nursery before starting school. By the time he got to school he could read, do basic sums, write his letters etc. At nursery he was in a small group of 12 children.

When he got to school he was one of 36 which he found very daunting and chaotic, despite being one of the eldest.

silly_moo

noss wrote: »

I've read that cognitively the youngest child in the class can be significantly disadvantaged as the brain is far less developed than the oldest child in the class. Any thoughts?

I was one of the youngest in class and was in the top 3 each year. Oh, and I was premature too.

I don't think it matters when someone was born. Although I did read that children born in the winter tend to be more intelligent as their mothers get more sun during the pregnancy. That's why I always wanted a baby born in December or January... but had a baby in July so refuse to believe it's true!

Brokeattheminute

We had a baby born in August,she is nearly the oldest in her year as in N.Ireland school yr runs from July 2nd- July 1st.She does appear to be very smart for her yr,shes only in Year 2 so that would support the arguement i suppose.My other Daughter is a March baby so well see how she gets on,shes be 3 this March.

**Patty**

FBaby wrote: »

When you suffer from infertility, it does become frustrating to face people who take their fertility for granted. That's natural, yet it is not right to expect people to be grateful for things that in all likelihood, they will be able to enjoy.

However, planning when to conceive a baby just because statistics supposedly claim that their children is more likely to do better at school is very much taking it too far for me. There are so many much more important factors to consider, which much more proven links, that I fail to see why anyone would focus on something so insignificant in terms of impact in a child's future.

I suppose once you have done everything to insure you are as healthy as you can be (quite all drinking, all smocking, perfect BMI, exercising regularly etc...), insuring perfect financial position so not to rely on any benefits at all and preparing yourself completely psychological for the impact of a child, then maybe once all these matters have been exhausted, you can even take it to the extreme of doing everything to insure your baby is born in September!

I can tick ALL those boxes for my now 15 yr old......and he was even born in september.

I didn't smoke beforehand......didn't drink apart from the occasional glass at christmas & birthdays.....was a picture of health...took folic acid.....never ate pate/soft cheese.....etc etc.

None of it prevented him from having severe Autism.

Sometimes, in life, you can play safe til the cows come home but it won't stop Mother Nature & her wild card Some things are just best left alone.

Lunar_Eclipse

I have a September born and a March born child. Both are bright (gifted) so whilst Autumn born children tend to have an easier ride at school, statistically make up more than their fair share in sports teams and supposedly are more successful in life, our personal experience would err us towards Spring & Summer born children. Our March born child is average in age for her class and it has worked out well for her, our Autumn born has always seemed to be in the wrong year group (and I can't see the maturity gap closing.)

If you think the child is likely to be fairly average or in the c.70% of children/people who fall within an IQ range of 85-115 where 100 is average, I'd say a child born between September-March would be ideal. If chances are they could struggle at school (did the parents?) I'd opt for Autumn birthdays and if they could be really bright (like you'd ever know!) I'd avoid Autumn birthdays.

The chances of this type of planning working out though have got to be slim to nil!